Question for The Ladies

[Twist]

FYI, I just learned this yesterday.

Quote: Leo Durocher

Win any way you can. Nice guys finish last.

Just thought I would give you the heads up!

[Heep]

I'm just sick of people laughing or pointing the finger because I'm so woman "unexperienced." I'm very shy, and it takes a lot for me to work up courage to make a move, but that's only about 10% of my reason...I simply haven't found any girls that I really want as a partner yet (or if I have, they're already taken ). So piss off, all you "13 different girls in one month" guys and leave me be! I'll find her sooner or later...just hope I don't botch it up

Edit: One more thing, kinda OT...I wish I was better at picking up the signs that a girl is interested in me...I never end up knowing until months later when they've moved on and a friend tells me she liked me Anything I should be looking out for in particular?

[darkness]

I right there with you Heep, I'm exactly the same.

[tazdev]

ahmen brothers.

Know how ya feel

[JD@af]

Originally posted by Heep
I'm just sick of people laughing or pointing the finger because I'm so woman "unexperienced." I'm very shy, and it takes a lot for me to work up courage to make a move, but that's only about 10% of my reason...I simply haven't found any girls that I really want as a partner yet (or if I have, they're already taken ). So piss off, all you "13 different girls in one month" guys and leave me be! I'll find her sooner or later...just hope I don't botch it up

Heepmeister:

First off, I assume that this extends towards people outside of this thread, yes? Well, this is naturally a rhetorical question. To this end, I say (quoting De Niro in Good Fellas here) "don't take no shit offa nobody!"

Originally posted by Heep
Edit: One more thing, kinda OT...I wish I was better at picking up the signs that a girl is interested in me...I never end up knowing until months later when they've moved on and a friend tells me she liked me Anything I should be looking out for in particular?

When I was younger, I was saying these exact same things. Now, since I'm the ripe old age of 25 (even seeing that typed out is painful ), it has gotten easier and easier with time. I think this holds true for many guys. I still have trouble picking up on it sometimes. However, you'll meet a few girls that like you (and since I've seen what you look like, I am confident in saying this - you got a good look to you, and even if they don't dig you yet, they will) in time, and once you know that they like you, you'll start to notice how they act around you that distinguishes their behavior from other girls. Once you've got that, it becomes easier to pick up on the same patterns from other girls in the future. But remember that all girls are different. Some will make it blatantly obvious, and if they like you and don't, I'm willing to bet that they are probably just as shy as you!

As for particulars, girls may just have a certain bubbly to flirty demeanor when they are around you if they're interested. You have to be careful, as some girls will smile and act somewhat flirty by nature, while some will only do it if interested. So, you might want to try just "flirting around." If they're interested, they'll probably just keep on flirting right back.

[Shell]

NICE GUYS DO NOT FINISH LAST!!!!

darkness, I've seen your pic...and u should just go for it - good looks are on your side...so be confident!!

My best advice to guys is this: chat to every girl u meet, be nice, be friendly, don't be looking for a pick-up, just be interested! Guys who come out with blatent, pathetic pickup lines are just that...pathetic. The guys who just want to have a chat, and then maybe invite u for a game of pool are much more interesting!

And then who knows what might happen from there?

[SkYLiNeFrEaK]

So being nice isn't so bad after all. I am where Heep is, the same exact situation. JD i ask you for advice, becasue simple as that, you seem to be so damn good at stuff like this. Bah, theres this girl i really want to ask out, sure we know each other by names, but other then that, heh, she knows very little about me, and I know very little about her. I want to ask her out, BADLY. But for those of you who know how i am when talking to you on AIM, you know how i act*ahem* Dante*cough* HEHE... So far she only knows the extent that i am nice. But seriously, I stand here(actually sitting) thinking I am in the same exact situation as HEEP. I NEED HELP, thats why I look to JD, Dante, Tangie, and others here for the info i need. Cuz you guys rock.



*Comment taken out due to my stupidity*

[Heep]

Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
So being nice isn't so bad after all. I am where Heep is, the same exact situation. JD i ask you for advice, becasue simple as that, you seem to be so damn good at stuff like this. Bah, theres this girl i really want to ask out, sure we know each other by names, but other then that, heh, she knows very little about me, and I know very little about her. I want to ask her out, BADLY. But for those of you who know how i am when talking to you on AIM, you know how i act*ahem* Dante*cough* HEHE... So far she only knows the extent that i am nice. But seriously, I stand here(actually sitting) thinking I am in the same exact situation as HEEP. I NEED HELP, thats why I look to JD, Dante, Tangie, and others here for the info i need. Cuz you guys rock.




But honestly HELP ME OUT HERE. what do I do?

Ask the chick to go with you and a few others to play Laser tag or something, that way you can get to know her without worrying about goig out alone with her right off the bat. Maybe let her get away with a couple shots on you or something. I dunno.

[SkYLiNeFrEaK]

Originally posted by Heep


Ask the chick to go with you and a few others to play Laser tag or something, that way you can get to know her without worrying about goig out alone with her right off the bat. Maybe let her get away with a couple shots on you or something. I dunno.

Oh yeah, I should do that man, I am gunna ask her to go bowling with my friend and his GF, so. that should be cool

[speediva]

Nice guys may get off to a slow start, but once they shift, they finish up far better than they expected!

And as for moving slowly... Some girls like it, others don't. Just move along with the emotion of the moment. You pretty much can't go wrong with that.

[Spec2 Girl]

I have to agree on this one. Nice guys do finish first in the end. Believe me, my first boyfriend turned out to be the boyfriend from hell, but all my friends thought he was the best thing since sliced bread. It took me 4 years to find out what an utter asshole he actually was. I am however grateful for one thing, he helped show what a great guy my husband. He was the total opposite to that boyfriend and a total sweetheart and I’m sure (well at least hope) he doesn’t think he finished last!

[SmallTownDiva]

I would have to say that i would never ever dump or drop a guy because he was moving too slow. I don't know about the rest of the women population out there, but i for one, like to move slow, and in my books good guys always prevail. Just remember that....


Good luck all of you guys who have romance in the air

[JD@af]

Hmmm... SkYLiNeFrEaK, I'm going to share some advice with you via private message. I think a strictly no-holds-barred message is the best way to get my message across, to hopefully help you find direction in your search.

[thephildo89lxi]

i think that nice guys do eventually pull ahead of the jack-asses. most girls don't realize that a nice guy is what they want untill they are 23, 24 or older. when you hit that age, you are good to go. i'm 21, and a nice guy who always finished last, untill i met my girlfriend. she's only 19, but been through enough assholes to realize what she wants---me. and i've never been happier in my whole life.

[SkYLiNeFrEaK]

Originally posted by JD@af
Hmmm... SkYLiNeFrEaK, I'm going to share some advice with you via private message. I think a strictly no-holds-barred message is the best way to get my message across, to hopefully help you find direction in your search.

Dude WTF?


If you are gunna chew me out, DON'T EVEN FUCKING BOTHER.