another divorce

[boingo82]

Originally Posted by craigcully

Well, from the sound of your post, it sounds like this won't be as rough as it could be. Good luck. I do have a question for the people who have been married. This may be a stupid question, but at the time you did get married, did you honestly, truly feel like there was nobody else out there and that person was the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with? I understand that things and people change over time, but with the incredible divorce rate, sometimes I wonder why people get married in the first place.

Since you asked...
I have been married nearly 11 months, not long I know.
No one else out there? Not really. I don't so much go for the "one perfect partner for every person" theory. I think there are lots of people that a person could be happily married to.
Want to spend the rest of my life with my husband? Yes, absolutely.
I just was at a point where I thought "a relationship can't possibly be better than this!". My husband and I get along so well. We finish each others sentences and have cute little nicknames for each other, and all that other stuff that annoys the crap out of everyone but us.
Of course, marriage is not all lovey dovey - there is also the element that you're living with another person with different habits, values, etc. from you. So you can expect disagreements now and again. It's all about how you handle them.

Of course, I have only been married a short time. I'm probably angering the veteran married folk.....Ask me again in 25 years. Hopefully I'll answer the same.

[CiViC_GIRL]

Originally Posted by xviciousx

I think the divorce rate on 1st marriages is up in the 60-70%s and second marriages are in the 40%s

someone wanna help me out with those stats?

"Most recent numbers indicate that 52 percent of all marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate forFIRST marriages is about 37 percent. The divorce rate for SECOND marriages is about 63 percent. The divorce rate for THIRD marriages is about 78 percent."

the divorce rate is probably higher now

[xviciousx]

wow... i was off

[boingo82]

A former coworker was on her third marriage at 26. I just wonder, by that point, how do you say the vows without cracking up?

[CiViC_GIRL]

Originally Posted by boingo82

A former coworker was on her third marriage at 26. I just wonder, by that point, how do you say the vows without cracking up?

Dr Phil can help her out there...

[Street Shark GTV6]

I was with my soon-to-be ex-wife for 5 years when we got married. our marriage lasted a whole year!!!! I did want to spend the rest of my life with her until i caught her sleeping with another man. Now I'm glad shes gone. I now realize how much better off I am without her. All I'm waiting for now is the divorce to be finalized. And for her to disappear off the face of the earth. It's amazing how you can go from loving a person so much to wanting them dead.

[Steel]

Originally Posted by Street Shark GTV6

It's amazing how you can go from loving a person so much to wanting them dead.

And it's one of the most painful transitions ever.