girlfriend problems

[2000LS1Z28]

No offense dude but the relationship is over. Either A) she is interested in someone else already
B) she has some mental issues (Like the inability to form social/sexuallly connected bonds, primarily due to abuse
C) She just doesn't feel anything for you.

I've gone through it before. Just take some time off. What really gets to women like that is when you dump them first. My advise is to break it off yourself, and never let her back into your life (Women love to break up with men first. It gives them a feeling of power).

[97civiclx]

im sorry but i dont agree with the last few posts. about make her kiss the ground and srewher and ditch her and what not. 1 it goes against what i believe to be moral and 2 i believe if i give all i have to the relationship and she feels it is not enough then she has the right to leave anytime she wants, i will be no worse off if thats the cae. but none the less i thank you all for your views on what i should, and i thank you all for taking the time to care.

[97civiclx]

and iam pretty sure she hasnt found anyone else, she just doesnt have the time in her life-because fo school,work and church- to get involved with someone else, she barely has enough time for me.

[heina21]

I'm kinda going...err....went through something like that... my bf broke up with me cause he said that one day he just didn't think of me ... so therefor he wasn't in love with me anymore....someone explain that to me

[97civiclx]

first off welcome to af what was going on between the two of you before you two broke up and how long where you two dating?

[Bronco2]

AS a old guy-some points to consider-
your 18,move on.
you will never understand women.
you have been being used for dates,etc.-be glad you did not have sex,you have no kids to support.
most women enjoy sex as much as the guy-she is getting it somewhere,another guy,masturbation,girlfriend,etc.
I hope I do not sound anti-female on this because I love women. But,they know they can control you with promises and your hope of getting in their pants. At age 18 your hormones are raging-been there-take a step back,think about the relationship and decide for for yourself. On the other hand,a relationship built on sex alone won't last. If you are being treated well,having fun,commen interests,etc. keep seeing her.If you are the doormat where she wipes her feet,you may want to move on.This is your life,and only you can make the decisions best for you.

[jon@af]

Originally Posted by 97civiclx

and iam pretty sure she hasnt found anyone else, she just doesnt have the time in her life-because fo school,work and church- to get involved with someone else, she barely has enough time for me.

I wouldnt be so sure about that... Im not saying you're wrong, I just dont think it could be ruled out that she may have found someone.

[Strider Negro]

be on your guard 24/7 dude
i was in that same situation
turned out she was cheating on me, i was depressed for 8 months...not fun...if i had a time machine i would have ditched the bitch and there were so many signs and shit...oh well...one lesson i learned and employ in my current relationship is don't let a relationship be your life just a part of it...you shouldn't get affected if you see it as just an extension of a learning experience...

[heina21]

Originally Posted by 97civiclx

first off welcome to af what was going on between the two of you before you two broke up and how long where you two dating?

ty.... well... it wasn't long...at all... just the fact that he had everything I've been lookin for in a guy from like age 12....We were fine then in like a week he was really distant ...like didn't call me....didn't come over when he said he would...crap like that... then I had a dream that his friends were talkin about me in the past tense so i called him .... blah blah blah.. 3 days later he dumped me cause he didnt feel the same as i did...he woke up & didn't think about me all the time.....whatever....i'm tryin to get over it.. but now he's all pissed at me for some reason when i got some stuff from his place tonight....ggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[heina21]

and he banned me from his forum!

[heina21]

If your chick is going to be shady drop her....plus you're 18!! There are going to be soo many other girls (guys for the chicks) that are going to break your heart... so just learn early to move on quikly....

[SkylineNoDoubt]

Yeah women are unpredictable i tell you. But like some dude said in the thread theirs a reason for it... and more then half the time its some dude messing with your girl.. no joke. Happens all the time. I could be wrong though. Hopefully so, but usually not the case, so just talk to her and find out and if she dosent say anything... well youre just gonna have to if you wanna keep her.

[NOBU-SAN]

avpart3 and OZ have it right. Don't fuck yourself up over any broad. Keep your(dick)head up and eventually, you'll run into something.

[97civiclx]

umm thanks

[Steel]

Yah, as much as i hate to say it, they're right. I learned the hard way too. 19, and let myself get attached. The sad truth of the situation is that you'll be hard pressed to find a girl between the ages of 18-25 that wants a long term relationship. They are in it for 1) sex 2) money 3) newness and excitement. If any of those three things runs out, they quickly move on. Yes even if they said the "Loved" you. And even if you sex em up good and buy everything they want, they will get bored with you. So.. just keep that in mind for the future. Have fun with em, but don't get attached. Don't make it obvious, for risk of an early end, but always keep in the back of your mind that it WILL end one day.. And that you should do it first, cause it sucks to be on the recieving end.