What does she mean? ( girls advice needed)

[mellowboy]

Originally posted by PreludeMOFO



Hmmmmm she is the tricky one.... ok do u got her adress? send her a love letter with some chocolates... real suave like!

I dont know about that man. Shes got a bf and its been so long you know?

[gotvtecrx]

Originally posted by dnyflyby
alright this is what you do. not to be mean or anything but if she sees you waiting around on her she is going to think you are weak, thats a BIG turn off. you need to start dating and try to get on with your life. if she loves you as much as she says she does she would be with you right now and would have dumped the other guy especially if shes not happy. not saying this will be easy but you have to move on. if it was meant to be then you guys will be together. until then just make yourself happy and live your life to the fullest there are other fish in the sea!!!!!

sorry i like to be real even if it hurts!!!

with dnyflyby...dont think too much bout the chance you will have that same moment you once had and thinking it's gonna be the same....from experience...i've been through an on-n-off relationship and it stinks but you should'nt wait too long for her while she runs around playin or testin your feelings...if you do get back with her...great....but for sure its gonna be different...better for sum or even worst cause it was neva meant to be

[hotgrlzracin]

from what you wrote i gather you played some type of game w/ her. whatever happened it seems to have pushed her away-the reason she started to see someone else. she must had some doubt about the relationship after the incedent. she still prolly has some doubt.

my lesson is.....dont play games w/ the ones you really love. reason is you end up hurting them and it will turn on you. if you felt there was an issue or in the future feel there are issues, be straight up about them. dont play mind games because it will prolly backfire on you.

you dont have to test the other person to see if they really love you, a relationship itself is a daily test. so just go w/ the flow of things, offer your attention, love and support through the relationship. work on communication and if you are a match then things will fall into place and you wont have to TEST them to see if it's REAL. you will know it is by following these few simple rules.


i like to give relationship advice. so ask away!!!!!


here is what i think you should do now. tell her how you feel about her. tell her you are interested in getting back together (thats if thats what you really want). by doing this you put the ball in her court. after having said all that to her and she doesnt come back to you in a matter of time, then you two should just remain friends.

i say the best relationships are built off friendships. you also need to put friendships first

here are a couple quotes i would like to share.
it is better to ask and risk embarrassment than to continue w/ false assumptions.
never let issues separate you from the feelings that you have for your partner
you need honesty to have trust, trust to have friendship, and friendship to enjoy a lasting relationship.
the fire of true friendship remains long after the spark of romantic love.

[mellowboy]

Originally Posted by hotgrlzracin

from what you wrote i gather you played some type of game w/ her. whatever happened it seems to have pushed her away-the reason she started to see someone else. she must had some doubt about the relationship after the incedent. she still prolly has some doubt.

my lesson is.....dont play games w/ the ones you really love. reason is you end up hurting them and it will turn on you. if you felt there was an issue or in the future feel there are issues, be straight up about them. dont play mind games because it will prolly backfire on you.

you dont have to test the other person to see if they really love you, a relationship itself is a daily test. so just go w/ the flow of things, offer your attention, love and support through the relationship. work on communication and if you are a match then things will fall into place and you wont have to TEST them to see if it's REAL. you will know it is by following these few simple rules.


i like to give relationship advice. so ask away!!!!!


here is what i think you should do now. tell her how you feel about her. tell her you are interested in getting back together (thats if thats what you really want). by doing this you put the ball in her court. after having said all that to her and she doesnt come back to you in a matter of time, then you two should just remain friends.

i say the best relationships are built off friendships. you also need to put friendships first

here are a couple quotes i would like to share.
it is better to ask and risk embarrassment than to continue w/ false assumptions.
never let issues separate you from the feelings that you have for your partner
you need honesty to have trust, trust to have friendship, and friendship to enjoy a lasting relationship.
the fire of true friendship remains long after the spark of romantic love.

Hey thanks alot i really appreciate your help! Yeh i was playin mind games with her and i do regret it so much. Right now i'm tryin to start a friendship with her then work my way up. Suprisingly she emailed me tonite and it was good email. She wanted to know how my family is doin and all that stuff. It seems like she wants to keep in touch but then whenver i call her she never picks up. She does reply my emails though. I dont know if shes doin it to be nice but either its nice to hear from her again. I'm not forgetting about her but i did moved on and i'm tryin to concentrate on my future. I'd still take her back though. She've put up alot with me i was so stupid. Well this is a lesson learn and i'm gonnna treat her alot more better and more respect. I know for sure she deserves better but i'm willing to change for her. I just dont think its the right time to tell her how i feel right now. Like i said earlier that i want to build up a friendship so that way she knows that shes still important to me. I'll definately come to you for advice! Thank you so much hotgirlzracin!

[Thedarkside]

Okay I may not be a girl or anything...and I will get F**kd for this because it may be considered piggish....but dude, are you forgetting the Code?? She has a boyfriend, like someone else there said...You can't do crap because even though you don't know him, that's a disrespect to him and if you were in his situation would you want it done to you? I mean tell her you have feelings with her, but make it clear to her if there's ever going to be anything between the two of you, she has to break up with him and get back together with you, otherwise the only thing you can be with her is friends. Lemme recap...SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND....her e-mails, etc. don't mean diddly until SHE HAS NO BOYFRIEND...I mean I agree with everyone send her an e-mail and lay it all out on the table for her, no mind games, be completely clear with her...then the ball is in her court my man and as hard as it is...your going to have to wait it out for her answer if you think she's worth it u know?? U two have history together, that can't be ignored...