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Originally Posted by musicmonkey
Ok so I need some advice. I just broke up with my boyfriend that I've been dating for the last 2 1/2 years. Everyone says I should have done it, but I really really missed him today. I made a list of his pros and cons by suggestion of one of my friends, not sure how much it is helping though. Stuff on the Pros is like: I love him and he loves me, he's funny, he really looks forward to seeing me, I like his friends and family and they like me, He's really good at snuggling, He gets really thoughtful and sweet gifts all on his own, He doesn't smoke or drink, I'm comfortable around him. The Cons are: He doesn't come to see me, He still lives with his family, He rarely takes off work to see me but does to do things with his friends sometimes, He's grumpy and has a negative attitude, I always have to call him and he never calls me, He gets jealous easily, sleeps too much, hates doing things outdoors, isn't spontaneous, not going to school, resists change because he's scared and then makes excuses about why he can't change, doesn't show much emotion and get excited, is irresponsible with money, not willing to try new things, not very confident, doesn't give me straight yes or no answers, holds grudges, has bad credit, can't drive a stick (which annoys me because my car is a stick..lol), and every time i want to talk about something he either doesn't want to talk or if we fight he yells at me and blames things on me and says he doesn't make mistakes.
Ok, so a lot of that just says to me he needs to do some growing up. I really miss him though. Not only did we date for such a long time, but we were best friends for 5 years before that. So he's a really big part of my life. I broke up with him because I said I wasn't really physically attracted to him...which is true, but I think it's like that just because of the way he acts and some of the things listed under the cons. He's really an amazing person and I love him to death still. Actually I feel like the most evil person on the face of the earth for breaking his heart after being so close to him for 7 1/2 years. He's had a really rough life and I feel like the cruelest person by breaking up with him and being like "I'm sorry...I'm just not physically attracted to you any more." I feel like it's going to be the last straw and he's just going to give up. Not to mention I miss talking to him and telling him every pointless thing I did during the day. So, did I do the wrong thing? I feel I should've waited until we lived close to eachother so we had the opportunity to see each other every day. I don't know, I'm willing to hear any opinions from anyone that is more experienced and has lived a little longer than me. I feel like such a nut, I'm 20 and don't know what I'm doing with my life and can't even know whether I made the right decision about a relationship or not.
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10-26-2004, 08:15 PM
