My GF is being physically abused.

Ok guys, I need some serious input on this situation. Before I start, I agree that I want to ring the fuck out of this guys neck, but I need a realistic solution. Here's whats going on.

My girlfriend and I go to different high schools. Today she called me at school and told me that her ex hit her, again. 2nd time in less than a week. 1st time it happened it left her with bruises all over her face. This girl models, so this messed up alot of things she's got going on pretty soon. I was about to fucking kick down my walls when I heard about what happened the first time. But I couldn't do shit. I don't know where this guy lives, or where to find him. So anyways, she called me today. I was pissed off to new heights. I left school right away so that I could be at her school when she gets out.

So I'm at her school, waiting for her outside of the band hall. I see her ex and he recognizes my car. I can tell he did because he tried to be all non-chalant about it. Anyways, that goes on for about 10 mins, then my girlfriend sees me out there and she's got that 'oh shit' look on her face because she wasn't expecting me to show up. Anyways, she calls me an we talk on the phone and I hear her ex say "You better not go out there to him or else I'll do something." I damn near ran inside the building but thought better of it and deciding to act civilized. So eventually I see his friend come out, he walks right in front of my car and I'm sitting the passenger seat. No biggie. Now here comes the ex, staring me down as he walks by the car. I'm staring back, I've got my door open with my leg out and I say "You better learn how to keep your fuckin hands to yourself." He keeps walking and he's all like "aite then, aite then", like he's all tough and shit. I wanted to beat his ass on the spot, but I would've gotten in a shitload of trouble on so many different levels since I'm on school grounds besides my own. Plus I really didn't want to embarrass my girlfriend. So he gets in the car with his friend and they take off.

Later today, my girl calls me telling me that her ex called her. He said some bullshit that like I better not ever show up like that again or else he's calling like 3 of his friends. Lame. Can't even handle his own shit. He also says he's tired of letting me "slide". I've only seen him twice, 1st time he didn't even know who I was. Stfu. He's so immature its not even funny. He's a bitch too, I'm 100% that if we got into a fist fight it'd be over in less than 30 seconds, maybe even a minute if I tripped or something crazy.

So now I need some help. I have no idea where he lives, no idea where to find, which equals no idea how to deal with his ass. I've searched white pages and no luck. I've asked people and no luck either, so far that is.

What do you guys suggest I do to find him, and what do I do when I find him.

I really just want to hunt him down and beat him into oblivion, but I'm trying not to turn all caveman just yet.

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dude, if i was you, i'd have shot the guy already. obviously, though, that's probably the worst thing to do. talk with your gf, and talk to an official if she is really getting hurt.

edit: sry, don't know how to find him, but you've seen his car, look around for it.

your girl needs to do something. Unless she asks you for help your in a bad situation. Criminal implications aside, he might beat you down...or kill you. You might loose your girl for this. How do you know shes not playing you for a fool and dipin him as well as you?

I know how you want to beat his head in with a lead pipe...Ive been there. But trust me, if it gets that bad, the police should be called first....if that fails...well....

Yea Terminal, that's exactly my view on it. But rest assure I know she isn't dippin with him. Just isn't possible, I've seen how they act towards each other now.

She's so hard-headed about it though. She won't tell anybody official like police or principal, or consulers about it because she doesn't want to get embarrassed or some kind of dumb shit that makes me mad. So in a way she's fucking it up for herself, but still, what he does is unforgiveable. I'd rather deal with him myself, but it just seems like one thing would lead to another.

Oh, and its his friends car I saw, not his, so that wouldn't work.

If anyone EVER laid a hand on my girlfriend I would f**king kill him or come extremely close.

However, as you've realized, that wouldn't be the best thing to do. I would recommend at least talking to the school about this and finding some way to keep him away from her while at school. Then, if you get something substantial, file a police report against him.

Men like that should be castrated. Pure and simple. I do not take well to abusing women.

Your girlfriend needs to press charges against him. If she has bruises, then she has a pretty solid case. They'll take her story over his anyday.

you can find him easy enough. Get someone to find his last name, for instance Smith. Real common name, look them all up, find whatever info you can. Usually you can find out through schools and other info.

Or be gangland about it, find his friend, ambush him at night and knock him out through force or chemical agent. Take him somewhere secure...soundproof or away from everyone. And...get info from him, then inform him if he talks he will loose his family/friends/gf/bf/lil dog or other generic pet.

Find the guy you want, and deal with him discretly...ambush him the same, and only beat/cut/maim in areas that wont show, and slice open his scrotum a lil and tell him if he ever tells anyone...or touches her again your taking his balls.

Then go nail your woman and bask in your badassness!

Im kiddin...this would get you arrested...


...what have I done...ive created a killer!:uhoh:



:evillol:


honestly, make her go to officals...otherwise your the suspect for her beatings. Make the law get involved.

Why wont she talk anyway?

I think you've already done all that you can besides beating the crap out of him. I agree that your girlfriend should do something. It sounds to me that you've already intimidated him. He's afriad haha, and that's all you really need. If he wanted to hit you, he would have already done so. He's the kind of guy that sticks out his chest and acts like he can bench 300 pounds, but can't. I have people like that at my school, people trash talk about my car all the time, and there have even been threats, but nothing has happened. Even if the trash talking still continues, I'd just talk to the person directly, but at the same time choosing my words carefully. I don't make threats, I just ask a bunch of "Why?" questions.

He's not a big guy, is he?

Lol man I wanna do all that shit so bad.

Anyways, I think she told me she doesn't want to do anything because she doesn't want the extra attention at school, or more stress. She's coming around though. By now, just about all of her friends know about whats going after the 1st time it happened because they all kind of protect her from him. But obviously that isn't good enough because it happened again. But I'm going to have a long talk with her next time. This shit is just unexceptable.

And hell yea she should press charges, break that assholes bank.

He's not a big guy, is he?

He's in band :lol:

Seriously, he's about my height, 5'11. He's a little thick though, like on the fat side. But you know how some men just have that 6th sense that's able to spot out a bitch from a real man. This guys vagina was stinking from inside the building. He's all pussy, thats why he's talking about calling up 4 other guys just handle up on me. I'm not afraid of him at all, but like I said, its not time to go neanderthal just yet.

I think you should cut him down with a "You're a band geek" remark, and continue making fun of him. Maybe poke him in the belly and ask him if he took the cookies from the cookie jar. I'd like to see something like that happen one day. Sometimes, I wish I walked around with a keyboard, just so I can type "LOL" when I see something funny.

hahahahahahah!

Yah, you could provoke him...and when he decks you tear his face off.

well good to see we dont have guys saying beat the hell out of him... but for you cudos that you havent lost it on him. i couldnt say the same personally.

1st > pics, if she has bruises, take pictures. lots of them. ild also write a timeline of abuse, when it started to your recollection and on. also find some of her friends (if you are smooth alot of this "persuasion for info" might come easy, but if your not, be ready to dodge some tough questions and arguements) that will help you, < thats info wise, protection wise, (i dont think he'll do this in public, so someone there around her would be good)

2nd try really hard to get her to say something against the guy< i mean get her to realize this shit should never happen, but since it is it needs to stop.

3rd if 2 fails ild do this solo even if she said not to, why? this might be for her well being more then your relationship. but go to the school, talk to someone, principal would be ideal(some schools even have cops that are actively in schools). even if they shadow watch her, at least they are keeping tabs.

4th and i want you to keep this in mind. DO NOT TOUCH HIM( or talk to him for that matter, you dont want him scewing your words for his agenda). <this is key, last thing you need is for him to bring something up against you, like a restraining order. and from there it can snowball into all kinds of stuff.

finally good luck. while guys like him oght to get thiers in way of meeting "big tiny" or big bubba, odds are against it ever happening. but if he does raise hell with you, make sure he takes thie first swing, then you have the right to defend yourself, but as i said stay away from him>even if it seems cowardly.

Damn, you have far more restraint that I could ever possibly hope to have. I hope everything works out for the best. If things come down to it, dont try shit at his house, it'll all be on you then, his property.

Thanks man, you're exactly on the same page as me. Gave me some good ideas too. I'm gonna make sure she takes pics of her face and that she speaks up about this.

Oh and about the self-restraint abilities, playing baseball for 10+ years was good practice, lol.
But believe me, I'm about one more step from blowing the fuck up and doing something that'll land me in jail, and I definitely don't want to go that far.

Fist to Face = End of abuse ,......to the GF at least.

I think you should cut him down with a "You're a band geek" remark, and continue making fun of him. Maybe poke him in the belly and ask him if he took the cookies from the cookie jar. I'd like to see something like that happen one day. Sometimes, I wish I walked around with a keyboard, just so I can type "LOL" when I see something funny.

hahahahaha that made me laugh.. and bro im 19 and my girls ex use to beat the shit out of her... and i know that if i see him i would not be able to help myself i would rip his balls off and make him fuckin swallow them.. so perhaps its better if you dont find out who he is exactly or where he lives.. cause I have gotten in deep shit for asault.. dont do it its not worth it! I promis! does probation for the next 2 years sound fun to you??
all in all i want to tell you that it is a bad idea to fight.. no questions asked.. its just not a good idea...
however.. im a punk shit kid still.. if you do beat his ass.. have a blanket party... and dont get cought!!:evillol:

^haha

I wanna bring it to his face so bad its not even funny.

I know who he is and everything already, bt I've deciding its not a good idea to go after him. But if he *and I pray to god that he does* tries to hit me first.........oh man.....

Its on like Donkey Kong struttin with a thong on in Hong Kong.

I might even get on the news if that happens, yay

haha sorry im a bad example... for real im on probation.. and the charges i got at the time i thought was worth it.. but looking back.. its really not at all...

trust me...you dont

zx2guy has it right.

CYA you know? Cover Your Ass

and if you take it to the school, your relationship is probally toast...but if it is over this than you dont want her. If she is more concerned with her immage at school than her saftey, your saftey and the relationship (stressin you out) than she was done with you a long time ago...

^ you got a point.

:iagree: trust me...you dont

zx2guy has it right.

CYA you know? Cover Your Ass

and if you take it to the school, your relationship is probally toast...but if it is over this than you dont want her. If she is more concerned with her immage at school than her saftey, your saftey and the relationship (stressin you out) than she was done with you a long time ago...
:iagree:

oh, and if he throws the first punch, there is something called

reasonable force

If you club the shit outa him till hes almost dead...how do you justify self defence? Your fine, hes almost dead. If you deck him and he runs...let him. it's called self defence for a reason. Learn some Akido, he throws a swing, you break his wrist and bring him down in one motion. Or you toss him down and secure his arm behind his back causing extreme pain in his wrist. Good stuff!

Yea, she's coming around now. She's not conceited or anything, just doesn't want to cause more trouble than needed

.....more troubble than needed?

.....:sly:

Thats what I said.

Like I was saying though, I've rode her ass long enough and she's fed up with his crap so she's going to the principal next time she can. Baby steps, but thats all I can hope for right now.

someone touches my girl all bets are off.

but your probably smarter than me so you should probably just go have a little chat with him. tell him if he so much as thinks of her again the cops will be on his ass the next day and hell be eyeball deep in abuse charges/

i'd beat him down... to me it sounds like your being a pansy by not doing anything(lol, i'm really just instigating a fight, your being a bigger man)... in all honesty, if you do fight him, don't underestimate him... i'm about his size, maybe fatter.... i've done lots of things i'm not real proud of that weren't real cool... hurt a lot of people... do yourself a favor, do NOT underestimate him... band doesn't matter... fatness doesn't matter... nothing matters, except if you lose it hurts worse... it hurts no matter what....

thats true....a fight will hurt one way or another, nomater what. Very VERY few fights are satisfying in the end...this wouldnt be one of them.

If you need any help taking his friends on, call me and we'll go throw some stuff down.. AF Texas members gotta keep an eye out for each other.

i'd kill the fuckin kid plain and simple. i can't believe you were in the same place as this kid and just sat there and did nothing.

do NOT underestimate him... band doesn't matter... fatness doesn't matter... nothing matters, except if you lose it hurts worse... it hurts no matter what....

It's not the size of the dog in the fight but the size of the fight in the dog.

I know one guy that was 6'0, 120 pounds, and looked like you could break them with a flick of your finger. This guy beat the hell, and I mean beat the hell, out of a guy that was 6'4 240. It sounds unbelievable but as I said, some guys are just fucking crazy in a fight.

i'd kill the fuckin kid plain and simple. i can't believe you were in the same place as this kid and just sat there and did nothing.

I think what he did was right. You can't just go in swinging. Well, you could, but it wouldn't be a smart thing to do. Not fighting is the absolute best thing you could do right now, for reputation and for judgement by authorities. No matter what you do, XeVeNskyLiNE, remember that this situation will always be in your favour. He is the antagonist, and if any higher autorities become involved, they will see this too. Just play your cards right. Good luck with it all :thumbsup:

i'd kill the fuckin kid plain and simple. i can't believe you were in the same place as this kid and just sat there and did nothing.


Yea and you'd be in jail for assault. I don't have money for bail, pretty sure my parents would let me take my punishment too. But believe me man, it took every fiber in my body not to jump out my car and beat the black off his ass. I was grippin my shifter to keep myself from going anywhere, I almost ripped the damn thing off. I'd rather him get whats coming to him without ruining my own life. But if this happens again, I'm going to jail plain and simple. That thought doesn't scare me too much....yet. And addressing the point of not overestimating him. I see your point, but please, this guy is a pussy. Ok lets see 1)hits girls, pussy. 2)cried when my girl broe up with him, pussy. 3)BEGGED her to take him back after she turned him down numerous times, pussy. 4) He says he has to call other people to back him up when I I've always come by myself, pussy. 5) When he saw me sitting my car, he ran back inside the building, pussy. 6) plays band, pussy. 7) always bitching about how bad his life is, which believe me it aint, pussy. I could go on longer but he isn't worth it.

Yea L-Spec I'm keeping it cool like that so far. I got her to take pictures of her bruises and wrote down when all this has happened. I've got phone numbers of numerous people who've seen her bruises and others that've seen him acting in a violent way. Plenty evidence against him.


I appreciate it Rally, I'll give you a call you it gets that dirty and you can bring all your chubby rednecks :icon16:

If it gets that bad though I've got plenty of people I can call up that can call up other people. I love being in a car club, you get to meet so many people, haha.

wait, your girfriend is into band geeks? bahahah

Eh im not white.. im mexican, and you know what they say, you mess with one bean you get the whole burrito. :D

Eh im not white.. im mexican, and you know what they say, you mess with one bean you get the whole burrito. :D

Yeah...ya dirty no good cheap shot Mexicans...

I'm joking Tom, Bill, Bryan, Evan, whatever the hell Danielle said your name is.

Eh im not white.. im mexican, and you know what they say, you mess with one bean you get the whole burrito. :D

lol I've never heard that one before.

She must've been on crack when she dated this guy. She told me one of her close friends told her "I need to talk to you. Why the fuck are you still messing with this Brian fool? He aint got shit on Will!" That was like in late December. I was always told that girl that I don't ever have to worry about him beating me in the looks department, lol.

They are so right on size doesn't matter in a fight. Be careful. I seen a kid I know who is about 5' and 110lbs beat the living hell out of a guy who was 6'5" and probably 210lbs. He is sooo freakin tiny, and he whooped on this guy. I don't even know what the fight was over but the big guy grabbed him by the throat and slammed him against the wall with his feet about 2' off the ground. Chris (the small guy) kicks the big guy in the chest, gets dropped and then tackles him and starts wailing on his face. It was ridiculous. The big guy never messed with him again.

Be careful with whatever you decide to do and good luck. :thumbsup:

(Personally, I would have killed the kid if he touched my gf. lol)

You have got a whole lot more patience then me man...i couldn't have stopped myself gl with everything

Beware, don't bite off more than you can handle. My wife has a black belt, wouldn't know it if you saw her walking down the street. Some ass in a bar decided to pick a fight with one of her friends, wife got hit in the process and beat the hell out of him. He went to the hospital, sad part was she hit him 3 times.

Beware, don't bite off more than you can handle. My wife has a black belt, wouldn't know it if you saw her walking down the street. Some ass in a bar decided to pick a fight with one of her friends, wife got hit in the process and beat the hell out of him. He went to the hospital, sad part was she hit him 3 times.


Damn, I wish I could've saw that. Well my gf has told me alot about him and never did it come up that he was a hardass, been in a fight, or even have the ability to defend himself. But ah well, I'll find out for myself one day.

Yeah...ya dirty no good cheap shot Mexicans...

I'm joking Tom, Bill, Bryan, Evan, whatever the hell Danielle said your name is.

Yeah its Bryan stop acting like you dont remember. :slap:

I'm joking Tom, Bill, Bryan, Evan, whatever the hell Danielle said your name is.
His name's Drumroll.

well we laid down the point, in a perfect world this guy would be.... will if we didnt kill him immeditly, he would be... in a day or 2 depending on how long you want him to suffer:evillol: . but this isnt a perfect world, this world is getting more screwed up everyday. people are sueing others for no decent reason, you can get restraining orders, cops. not to mention the possibility of him getting others to do his dirty work (watch for that, a cousin of mine got beat to hell like that). as long as you keep your head, do rational things, things should go decent, im not saying good, because there are tousands of angles, last thing you need is for you to make a move, and he gets you with a smarter move. just watch yourself and think smart.

Normally I'd say something like "Don't start something you can't finish" or some crap, but hitting women is wrong this guy needs a fucking hammer on his cock.

tell your girl to call the police, file police reports. it's time to grow up--by this i mean--fighting isn't always the answer.

have her stop hanging out with him...

Yea she's gonna do something about it tomorrow.

They don't hang out together, its just that he follows her and shit. Plus she's in this extra-carricular school thing that he's in too.

His name's Drumroll.

Haha very funny.. :slap:

Yea she's gonna do something about it tomorrow.

They don't hang out together, its just that he follows her and shit. Plus she's in this extra-carricular school thing that he's in too.
then she needs to never be alone around him. obviously he's hitting her--then someone need to be there with her so at least there is a witness or some kind of protection.

Seems to me the sentiment on this board is that he should have his balls smashed into his larynx... and I agree.

If your girlfriend is embarrassed to have you fight him, then cook a meal for her, for example, something with chicken. Undercook the chicken a bit, so she gets food poisoning and misses school the next day. Then find the prick and let him donate some O-positive to the dirt.

Just kidding about the food poisoning :tongue:, but seriously, you've got to find a way to let him know you're not fucking around; the cops might help, but ten to one his sorry ass would make bail, and then he'd be PISSED.

Just my two cents; personally I'd probably do all I could to find him (including renting a car or borrowing someone else's in order to follow his friend), stick a towel in the family car's gas tank, light it, and place a brick on the gas pedal of a rental car and aim it straight at his living room.

~Smmoke~

I wouldnt go beating his ass untill he walks up to you and you have to "defend" yourself...
I had about the same thing happen, I got him and his friends all pissed and they followed me and I pulled over and got out. So did they. The 3 of them walked toward me I ripped my shirt off and then sprayed them with pepperspray and beat all three of their asses by myself. When someone from the neighborhood called the Cops. I got off easy... Because they 1. followed me 2. More of them then me
They all ended up getting agrivated assualt charges for following me and starting a fight. Guess what, They never looked at me again.

DUDE my personal thoughts are as follows (coming from a person that smashed in a dudes face with a crowbar for just TALKING shit) '

You need to invite him to a party out in the woods or kidnap him or something, either way he ends up in the woods atleast 3 miles from the nearest soul, take him, knock him stupid but not unconsicous, NAIL his balls to a sturdy tree stump with a 18 penny nail and a washer so he can't just rip the nail through, then give him a rusty butterknife and tell him when he wakes up either to chop off his own balls or starve to death, the only problem with this is if you ever see him again OH GOD is he gonna be pissed!!!!

Happy torturing!!!!

If he works, find out where, call his boss and tell him he was an asshole to you when you were there, get him fired. That will cause him to come looking for you, shows motive on his part and you can beat the hell out of him. Or hire my wife.....

There's some creative ass fuckers on this board man.

Well like I said, the ball's in her court right now.

If this shit happens again all hell is gonna break loose and I really don't give a damn what happens to me. Supposedly she has friends walking her to classes and shit, but that isn't good enough if he was able to do it the 2nd time. So right now I'm just prayin he gives me legal reason to knock his ass into the stone ages.

I'll be taking everyone's ideas into account seriously. I appreciate them all.

But right now I know he's already pissing his pants that I even showed up as his school, so I'm sure he knows if I hear about that happening again he'll be watching his back for sure.

There was a thread going a few months ago about what to do to people who break into cars, you want to talk about creative things to do to someone, search for that thread. I think it was in this forum too.

Interesting...

my input; you don't want to get legally fucked if you do something and the guy is feleing smart. so just watch urself, i guess. if you're with her, and he comes around, confront him, tell him off. if he decides to get up in your face, or even so much as puts a finger on her, by all means, put the fucker in a coma, but til then, try and keep ur cool. get a restraining order, try and keep him clear from her as much as possible. that extra carricular thing might be something to watch out for.

sry to here that bro, i hope she's alright and doesn't have to deal with him again after this blows over, however it ends. best of luck to the both of you.

well look, if he hits her again and for some reason you dont get to kick his face in, and if she has visible bruises. call the cops for her no matter what she says. that shit cant go on. even if for some strange reason she lies to them and says he didnt do it, hes still gonna be pissed and come looking for you.

if she really doesnt want you to fight him, then maybe you could atleast try to find what kind of car he drives, and fuck it up completely. carve wife beater into his hood, im sure that would be embarassing. bleach in the gas. steal his windshield wipers, not just the refills, take the whole damn thing. poop in or on it. pull some random spark plugs. drive by and throw a fucking cinder block through it. slash or let the air outa the tires. or just steal them and leave it on blocks. believe it or not, i know people that have done all of these. except the wife beater one... but i thought it sounded good.

now you might say, well this is busch league shit. but its fun to do for one, and two its gonna piss him off, and he might just want to come and find you after that. however worst case scenario is that he takes it out on your gf... because if he pussy enough to hit her in the first place then theres no end to how much of a pussy he can be. like stangbuster was saying above, carry some pepper spray with you if they try to jump you.

if it was me, i woulda just beat his ass at his school. that would be the most humiliating thing for him, all his friends and peers would be watching. sure youd get in some trouble, but as long as its a first offence im sure it wouldnt be too bad.

this just smacks of high school drama queen bullshit, to me it sounds like she is trying to play the damsel in distress, that or she is just fucking stupid....no offense intended so dont take any, you asked...

she needs to go to court and have a restraining order imposed, he violates it, call the cops....JUST DO IT, period end of story, if she doesn't want to do it then leave her cause all she is doing is playing you like a fool...

if she refuses to take the legal avenues then she is getting a psychological high out of running for help and you're a dumbass to play the game, tell her whats up and help her get the RO... if he comes within x amount of feet call on his ass... just like that

i would agree that smashing the guys face with a boot is the overall best method and would be my first choice but the truth of the matter is if you get an assault charge on your record it can fuck you for life, more and more companies flush your resume down the toilet for misdemeanor/felony convictions... don't risk it man, i know it's tempting but don't risk it.... then again maybe the satisfaction of comatizin' this guy may be worth it