Are All Men This Confusing????????

:confused: Ok, they say that women can not make up there minds. Me and my husband have been married for 7 years. For the past 4 he has been hinting at me, and asking me to have a 3 some( me, him, and another woman) Well, I finaly decided that this would be the perfect gift for him. So I went out and got this girl that I knew. (My husband has been eyeballing her.) We got a sitter for the kids. Got some vodka, and some beer for him, and a few other party favers. All this time my husband is at work, he has no idea this is goieng on. Well, around 8 he pulls up in the driveway. My friend meets him at the door and kisses him. She hands him a beer and I hand him the party faver. He sits in his chair with a shit eatting grin. He seem to be enjoying himself. Me and her are allready juiced up. He says that he would rather watch for a while. Ok, thats fine with us. Me and her are getting into it and he suddleny gets up and walks out the door and takes off in the car. Me and her are totaly in shock. This was totaly unexpected. He comes back 15 munits later and says he is sorry, That he did not want to do this because it was not right. NOW WHAT THE FUCK< HE HAS BEEN BEGGING ME FOR THIS FOR 4 YEARS> NOW HE CHANGES HIS MIND!!!!!!!!! OH HELL NO :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

Bahahaha!!

Sounds like his imagination imagined something quite different from reality, and maybe when it came down to it, he didn't want to share you with someone else. That's the way I'd feel about it.

Haha. man I've been dropping hints like crazy with my gf for two years now. Well not even hints but flat out asking. Anyways I hope she eventually gives in also. i don't know what to say about your husband. He just thought he wanted it, but when it got there realized it wasn't for him. I guess its the manly thing to do to want a 3 some, but i guess that kinky stuff really isnt his thing.

PS
:useless:

Looks like he pussied out on this one, He may not have truly wanted it, may have just been a fascination or something like that.

- Kevin

Call me strange but i dont see what the big deal about 3-somes is anyway. I mean u only got one "connecter". He probably realized "Wtf is the point?"

Call me strange but i dont see what the big deal about 3-somes is anyway. I mean u only got one "connecter". He probably realized "Wtf is the point?"

Ok, ill call you strange. Strange. Anyway, its not the whole one connector thing its more of just feeling special knowing you can be with 2 girls at once, unless your like me and have 2 penis's.....think about that one.

:werd: fred

Ok, ill call you strange. Strange. Anyway, its not the whole one connector thing its more of just feeling special knowing you can be with 2 girls at once, unless your like me and have 2 penis's.....think about that one.





No WAY!!! :wtf:

No WAY!!! :wtf:

Ok maybe I dont have 2, but just think about the possibilities. Although I would feel sorry for the girl Id be having sex with because she would have to deal with it for twice as long lol.

Ok maybe I dont have 2, but just think about the possibilities. Although I would feel sorry for the girl Id be having sex with because she would have to deal with it for twice as long lol.


Nothing wrong with that. Most men stop too soon anyway. biggrin:

Nothing wrong with that. Most men stop too soon anyway. biggrin:


Not true :rolleyes:- women take too damn long to climax .

Call me strange but i dont see what the big deal about 3-somes is anyway. I mean u only got one "connecter". He probably realized "Wtf is the point?"
y'know that hole in your face where words come out of? that thing seves multiple purposes.

Not true :rolleyes:- women take too damn long to climax .

not if you know what ur doing and have a big dick. With my girlfriend were kinda talking about something similar, but its not fair. She calls herself Bi-Curious, i call her Bi sexual. Well she wants to have a 3 some with another girl, which is fine with me. But she says im not allowed to touch the other girl just her. But she and the other girl are allowed to do stuff to eachother. So i told her no that its not fair. It doesnt matter what gender you have sex with, its still you having sex with another person and i cant. So no 3 some so far. . . oh well. . .maybe one day. I can dream.

you dont have to have a big dick, you just gotta know how to use it. And if you dont know how, there are other ways to to get a woman off...

karmacae, your husband suddenly went gay on your ass. Plain and simple.

It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean.

and...

What good is a tool if you don't know how to use it?

idk, im just going by what my gf says. She says size is the biggiest thing. Not saying that knowing how to use it isnt important. As far as otherways, Yeah i can get her off by fingering or eating, but she says it isnt as good.

karmacae, your husband suddenly went gay on your ass. Plain and simple.


:rolleyes: believe me, he is not gay.

lol i dont think hes gay. Im just curious how many guys here have actually ever had a 3 some before? with 2 girls 1 guy i mean. I dont know how i would react. I mean i know its prolly every guys fantasy and im sure we would all like to try it once. But once it comes down to it, idk if i could. I mean do you really want to share the person you love with someone else? Or watch someone else do things to them only reserved for you?

:rolleyes: believe me, he is not gay.
No man in their right minds would turn down a threesome with 2 other girls. Either that are the combined uglyness of both of you doing obscene acts caused him to tun gay.


Take your pick

now thats just wrong. I agree with Jayson. I think he did not want to see me with someone else. I get hit on all the time, so I know that I am not ugly, I probaly look better than any woman you have ever had guranteed.....

now thats just wrong. I agree with Jayson. I think he did not want to see me with someone else. I get hit on all the time, so I know that I am not ugly, I probaly look better than any woman you have ever had guranteed.....

NEVER LET A GUY HIT YOU! If he hits you once, hes out. Domestic abuse is never justified. And if guys on the street are hitting you, call the police. . . man was a cruel world.

No man in their right minds would turn down a threesome with 2 other girls. Either that are the combined ugliness of both of you doing obscene acts caused him to turn gay.

Take your pick


Dayum Raz, you take the angry pill today? If not, please 'splain :D to me how that would make him gay.

NEVER LET A GUY HIT YOU! If he hits you once, hes out. Domestic abuse is never justified. And if guys on the street are hitting you, call the police. . . man was a cruel world.


no comming on to me

NEVER LET A GUY HIT YOU!

Dude, hit ON. Quite different, unless you're into Sadism.

Dayum Raz, you take the angry pill today? If not, please 'splain :D to me how that would make him gay.
Gladley.
Scenario a) The man is gay for turning down 2 females that were willing to do anything for/to him. That would only be explainable by him being mentally challenged or gay.
Scenario b) The poor bastard was subjected to watch 2 hideous creatures go at it in his own house and had to walk off the nasty images, then decided to return to his wife of seven years, put on the "serious" face and tell her it was a bad idea.


So you'r either butt ugly (proove me wrong and then proove me your better looking then any of the women i've been with), he's turned gay or he is mentally handicaped.

I believe you're missing one salient point: he decided that he wanted his wife, and ONLY his wife and didn't want to share her, with anyone. I'm not commenting on the looks of either woman involved, as no pics have been (or likely will be) posted.

Have you never turned a woman down?

I believe you're missing one salient point: he decided that he wanted his wife, and ONLY his wife and didn't want to share her, with anyone. I'm not commenting on the looks of either woman involved, as no pics have been (or likely will be) posted.

Have you never turned a woman down?
Then why the major hints at a threesome for 4 years?


And yes I have turned many women down....because they were ugly. Shallow? Yes. I'm not here to save the world.

I can't be sure 'cuz I don't know him, but check my previous posts, maybe he decided it wasn't what he thought it was. I know that alot of people have backed out of things that they decided at the last minute weren't for them (good example: skydiving)


The man is gay for turning down 2 females that were willing to do anything for/to him. That would only be explainable by him being mentally challenged or gay.


and...


And yes I have turned many women down....because they were ugly.



By your own logic then, are you gay (or mentally handicapped) because you turned down a woman that would have done anything for you?

By your own logic then, are you gay (or mentally handicapped) because you turned down a woman that would have done anything for you?
Flawed logic.

1. Both you and I aren't sure she would have done anything.
2. It wasn't the case that women were approaching me in pairs.


:D

EDIT: I forgot to mention that these women were not pretty in my terms. Hell they werent even close to my loswest standard of do-able. So that's 3 things now.

A big fat TOUCHE' on point #2. :grinyes:

But it's been established that the man in question finds karmacae attractive, so your point #3 doesn't apply to their situation; karmacae also stated that her husband had looked at her friend, so her friend must have been at least somewhat attractive to him as well.

And yes, for point #1 I was making the assumption that a female that's hitting on you is interested, but exactly how interested is always the question, so my logic there was definitely a stretch.

Let's delve into the psychology of the situation a little. So....for 4 years, man talks about threesome. Then, accomodating wife sets it up. He's taken by surprise when he comes home, and watches. Now several things could be going through his mind: (not an exclusive list)

1) Gross. 2 women together is turning me off, that's odd I thought it would turn me on
2) Hey, only I'm supposed to do that with my wife
3) Oh no, what if my wife likes women better than men? I would have contributed.
4) Damn, I'm not drunk enough
5) What if the kids see this
6) etc etc

So it's obvious by his reaction that he wasn't in to it, for some reason. That doesn't necessarily make him gay or mentally aberrant, any more than you or I turning down someone that we don't find attractive for whatever reason would make us that way.

-edit- The situation just gets more complicated with more than one person, so it may have been the situation, not necessarily either woman, that the man found unattractive.

A big fat TOUCHE' on point #2. :grinyes:

But it's been established that the man in question finds karmacae attractive, so your point #3 doesn't apply to their situation; karmacae also stated that her husband had looked at her friend, so her friend must have been at least somewhat attractive to him as well.
True, but all 3 points of mine were to show that your logic of calling me gay for turning down other women is truely flawed.

And yes, for point #1 I was making the assumption that a female that's hitting on you is interested, but exactly how interested is always the question, so my logic there was definitely a stretch.
Stretched in my case but not so far off in hers. 1, she said they were both "juiced" up, so in other words they were pretty out of it and we all know what happens to the majority of women who consume alcohol (Refer to thread about new warning labels :lol: ). 2, She had already went to the extreme of finding another female companion to aid her in her quest to satisfy the man's urge for a threesome and had already sarted the party. 3, well she's his wife and depending on their married life, she would either be willing to do anything or nothing for him.

Let's delve into the psychology of the situation a little. So....for 4 years, man talks about threesome. Then, accomodating wife sets it up. He's taken by surprise when he comes home, and watches. Now several things could be going through his mind: (not an exclusive list)

1) Gross. 2 women together is turning me off, that's odd I thought it would turn me on
2) Hey, only I'm supposed to do that with my wife
3) Oh no, what if my wife likes women better than men? I would have contributed.
4) Damn, I'm not drunk enough
5) What if the kids see this
6) etc etc

So it's obvious by his reaction that he wasn't in to it, for some reason. That doesn't necessarily make him gay or mentally aberrant, any more than you or I turning down someone that we don't find attractive for whatever reason would make us that way.
Let's.
1. The man is gay. 2 women together turns on any guy, at least the majority.
2. Then he wouldn't be hinting at a threesome if he's worried what another woman would be doing with them.
3. Possible if it were not the first time she had been with another woman in this manner. That is info neither one of us have.
4. Easily solvable by drinking, not by leaving for 15 minutes
5. What if there were no kids?

I know they don't make him gay, the comment was suppose to be humorous until I found out how shitty of a day I'm going to have.

A big fat TOUCHE' on point #2. :grinyes:

But it's been established that the man in question finds karmacae attractive, so your point #3 doesn't apply to their situation; karmacae also stated that her husband had looked at her friend, so her friend must have been at least somewhat attractive to him as well.

And yes, for point #1 I was making the assumption that a female that's hitting on you is interested, but exactly how interested is always the question, so my logic there was definitely a stretch.

Let's delve into the psychology of the situation a little. So....for 4 years, man talks about threesome. Then, accomodating wife sets it up. He's taken by surprise when he comes home, and watches. Now several things could be going through his mind: (not an exclusive list)

1) Gross. 2 women together is turning me off, that's odd I thought it would turn me on
2) Hey, only I'm supposed to do that with my wife
3) Oh no, what if my wife likes women better than men? I would have contributed.
4) Damn, I'm not drunk enough
5) What if the kids see this
6) etc etc

So it's obvious by his reaction that he wasn't in to it, for some reason. That doesn't necessarily make him gay or mentally aberrant, any more than you or I turning down someone that we don't find attractive for whatever reason would make us that way.

-edit- The situation just gets more complicated with more than one person, so it may have been the situation, not necessarily either woman, that the man found unattractive.

Wow! Damn, don't hurt yourself. What we have here is a case of cold feet. simple, really.

Let's.
1. The man is gay. 2 women together turns on any guy, at least the majority.


I know they don't make him gay, the comment was suppose to be humorous until I found out how shitty of a day I'm going to have.


Eh, so he's in the minority. Not necessarily gay.

I'm enjoying the debate and thought you were joking, as usual.

So at the risk of getting the thread closed what is the Shit Day you're going to have? (or Stress Release!)

So at the risk of getting the thread closed what is the Shit Day you're going to have? (or Stress Release!)
Probably gonna start a new thread on that one.

Interesting thoughts. A little over thought, but interesting. But their's one option that was never discussed. This thread has be going under the thought that the thought if a guy thinks that 2 girls on 1 guy is hot that he will think this all the time. But, this not the case. He may have thought for 4 years that sex with 2 girls is hot, and then change his mind. What of the grin. Answer; he was this thought's:

"Man, cool. I going to get what I want for 4 years...wait...this isn't turning me on at all...better try enjoy it. After all, I have been hinting about it for 4 years. No, this isn't sexy at all."

Just a thought.

wtf

1. Part of the problem is probably that it was a fantasy and that's all he ever really wanted. The fantasy.
2. Pics or it didn't happen.
3. Did you end up getting off with the other chick?

:thumbsup:
Ozzie

lol i was being sarcastic with the hitting part. . .no one understands my lame sense of humor but me and my gf. . .oh well.

hes not gay, im pretty sure karmace gets a good pounding atleast once a day. some people might joke around about things like that, never expecting it to happen. Maybe they just find it amussing to talk about or think about. I used to always joke around with my GF about anal, then one day she said sure and i was like ummmm nnoo. It was just to nasty for me. Even though i found it funny to joke around about and tease about, when it came down to it, i didnt want to. Does that make me gay?

Ive always said dont knock it till youve tried it. And im the kind of person to try anything twice.

:1:

Heres what I think happened. You say you surprised him right? Well, the man was in shock. When you are in shock you cant always feel what you should be feeling.. He lost sensation in his penis, and could not become erect, which is why he said he'd rather watch first. He STILL couldnt get a boner. He walks out the door, hops in car, goes to empty lot and wacks it off for 15 minutes hoping for a boner. Still in shock, No boner. He doesnt want to be emberrassed by no boner so he says it was a mistake, and not what he wanted. I guarantee that was the worst moment in that mans life, having to tell his wife that he is not into the threesome thing, just because he couldnt get a boner. That kind of trauma can cause issues which may make him question his manlyhood, feel down in the dumps, become depressed. I say you need to provide him with mucho lovin to keep his spirits up and prevent him from taking an irreversible dive into the pits of hopelessness. Then in a few weeks ask him if he wants to try it again, and he should say yes. I say introduce him to the "2 naked females" environment slowly so as not to put him back into a state of shock. Try giving him a BJ while your friend gets naked and he knows she will be joining in soon, and then let her come in and let him F*%# the daylights out of her, then you and so forth until he is totally comfortable in the "2 naked females" environment. Also, you need to provide moral support to your very nice friend who volunteered to put the three in threesome. She may feel unwanted or develop issues concerning her physical appearance. You may want to provide her with mucho loving for a while as well.

That, or he's gay.

Rick

Sounds like his imagination imagined something quite different from reality, and maybe when it came down to it, he didn't want to share you with someone else. That's the way I'd feel about it.

:werd:

totally agree. it's fun to think about but when it gets down to reality, it's different. My girlfriend, when we started dating, she told me I could sleep with whoever, but i couldn't take them out on dates and stuff. Mostly because we weren't sleeping with each other yet. If I had a 1 night stand and everything, that would be ok. So then one night i had a few friends over and we'd been drinking and I make out with this girl that I'd known for a while and had always thought was gorgeous, and she'd finally broken up with her boyfriend. she was gonna spend the night, but her friend wanted to go home. GRR... So my g/f finds out and gets mad at me! she didnt even KNOW about the sleeping over thing; the part that was supposed to be ok. and she gets pissed cuz we kissed, and was like "you can get that from me anytime! i just said that you could have sex cuz we're not doing it yet!" me, being amused by this whole thing (i can fuck her but i cant kiss her?), I reply with:
"Well then how am i supposed to get her in bed!?"
She got pissed. we didnt' talk for a little bit then she said later that I couldn't do anything wiht anyone else now. lol

I think he left quickly because he remembered about the girl he met at work that he convinced to come have a 3some with him and you, and he had to make sure she wouldnt come over and ruin his chances with it.

if that was true, he should have just asked.. "how about a foursome".. and then.. when he got back after making sure he didnt ruin his chances, why would he say he didnt want to do it? I liked that theory at first, but its impossible. And cyprus.. dude.. if a chick ever tells you you can fuck other girls and it will be okay... It wont be. Ever. The only time it will actually be okay is if she doesnt give a fuck about you and shes fucking other guys too. In that case, you dont want to call her your "girlfriend" anyways. maybe fuck buddy at the most. Apparently your girlfriend did not mean it when she said you can have sex with other people. If she is the type that doesnt want to give up her virginity because it is special to her, then why the hell would she want to give it to a guy that goes and fucks other girls because he cant wait until she is ready? Not possible. You are a male though, so its easy to see why you were thinking with the wrong head while you had that conversation with her. If I was her though I would dump you. And then talk shit about you. Maybe I'll say that to my next girlfriend.. lol.. "baby we cant have sex yet because I want it to be special. but if you cant wait then you can go fuck other guys until Im ready." lol.. girls are so evil... man....

oh yeah, by the way... if she doesnt break up with you cyprus.. you will never hear the end of it, trust me. Girls dont forget. They remember shit like that forever so that when they get caught doing something (all girls do stuff behind guys backs, some just dont get caught).. they have a great comeback for ya. I say dump her. Play her game before she plays it on you. Say.. "Im sorry, you were too confusing. I need a girl that knows what she wants, and tells me what it is. I didnt mean to do something you didnt want me to do, and I dont want to always be feeling guilty about things you didnt explain to me right the first time. Im sorry." This will make you look like kind of an asshole, but at the same time, she will feel stupid for tricking you. (I may have just a slightly altered perception of girls since I found out my last girlfriend was a lyng, cheating, caniving (sp?), ho that pretended like she wanted to be my housewife). Once I figured that out I broke up with her, and then 3 months later got back together with her and played mind games with her right back just like she did to me for the first 2 years, except I was better at it, and she actually deserved it. Now Im just looking for a girl that dont do that shit. Mind games are a no no, and instant dequalification in the "hunt for a lifemate" game.

no mercy.

I had a 3some with my ex and one of her friends. Honestly the fantasy is better than the real thing. Its nothing to special or what you think it will be.

Also its not hard to get women to orgasm. You just need to know what your doing and how to do it.

Plain and simple if you dont know what your doing your not getting the job done.

I know this is off topic, and im not trying to promote a total sway in the thread, but real quick:

some women can be very hard to please. there have been many scientific studies which show a lot of women have never had an orgasm through sex. these are not just 20 yr old women we're talking about... real women.. this can be caused by some childhood trauma such as molestation, rape, or upbringing which proclaims the whole subject to be taboo. whatever the case, it is mostly psychological, and 90 percent of women have faked orgasms in a majority of their sexual encounters. If this is the case, the best way to deal with it is to talk about it. My ex was molested as a child and I had to teach her how to orgasm. Eventually it got to the point where sometimes she was having a hard time keeping up with me. Its all psychological. If there is difficulty... use the fingers and make it a loving environment, whatever it takes to make the woman comfortable. its like a sport. the more you practice it, the easier it becomes. Then, just so we dont have a million people saying otherwise because their girl never had any issues with it... there are some women who never had any issues with it. There.

and just for the record.. I still want to have a threesome... all I can say is.. "two fine naked asses right in front of me".. I dont care if it FEELS any better... 2 fine asses... thats all that matters, twice the butt cheeks to smack.. I would never ever dis on a 3 some.

:confused: Ok, they say that women can not make up there minds. Me and my husband have been married for 7 years. For the past 4 he has been hinting at me, and asking me to have a 3 some( me, him, and another woman) Well, I finaly decided that this would be the perfect gift for him. So I went out and got this girl that I knew. (My husband has been eyeballing her.) We got a sitter for the kids. Got some vodka, and some beer for him, and a few other party favers. All this time my husband is at work, he has no idea this is goieng on. Well, around 8 he pulls up in the driveway. My friend meets him at the door and kisses him. She hands him a beer and I hand him the party faver. He sits in his chair with a shit eatting grin. He seem to be enjoying himself. Me and her are allready juiced up. He says that he would rather watch for a while. Ok, thats fine with us. Me and her are getting into it and he suddleny gets up and walks out the door and takes off in the car. Me and her are totaly in shock. This was totaly unexpected. He comes back 15 munits later and says he is sorry, That he did not want to do this because it was not right. NOW WHAT THE FUCK< HE HAS BEEN BEGGING ME FOR THIS FOR 4 YEARS> NOW HE CHANGES HIS MIND!!!!!!!!! OH HELL NO :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

Bahahaha!!






:lol2: :grinno:

oh yeah, by the way... if she doesnt break up with you cyprus.. you will never hear the end of it, trust me. Girls dont forget. They remember shit like that forever so that when they get caught doing something (all girls do stuff behind guys backs, some just dont get caught).. they have a great comeback for ya. I say dump her. Play her game before she plays it on you. Say.. "Im sorry, you were too confusing. I need a girl that knows what she wants, and tells me what it is. I didnt mean to do something you didnt want me to do, and I dont want to always be feeling guilty about things you didnt explain to me right the first time. Im sorry." This will make you look like kind of an asshole, but at the same time, she will feel stupid for tricking you. (I may have just a slightly altered perception of girls since I found out my last girlfriend was a lyng, cheating, caniving (sp?), ho that pretended like she wanted to be my housewife). Once I figured that out I broke up with her, and then 3 months later got back together with her and played mind games with her right back just like she did to me for the first 2 years, except I was better at it, and she actually deserved it. Now Im just looking for a girl that dont do that shit. Mind games are a no no, and instant dequalification in the "hunt for a lifemate" game.

no mercy.


lol, it's happened to me too. Same thing just about. But never got back together. She'd come back, "I'm so sorry!" yeah well it's too fuckin late for apologies. You can't fix shit with an I'm sorry. Especially 6 months of constant, solid, constipation style shit.



rofl, oh I figured out that I'd never hear the end of it. She's ridiculously practical, and literal. So she thought that was the practical thing to do to keep me cuz when we started dating she didn't know me that well and thought I was just vain like that. It didn't take long for her to take it back and say she'd strangle me if I actually did it. *Sigh* girls and their "i think I know what I want"s. rofl i know, I only said that cuz of the irony about the post :p

I had a 3some with my ex and one of her friends. Honestly the fantasy is better than the real thing. Its nothing to special or what you think it will be.

Also its not hard to get women to orgasm. You just need to know what your doing and how to do it.

Plain and simple if you dont know what your doing your not getting the job done.

I did it with two of my best friends at the time. Not even my idea, but at the time it was just kind of the 3 of us always. and YES it was 2 girls, before you ask. I was expecting different. :bricks1:

1. Part of the problem is probably that it was a fantasy and that's all he ever really wanted. The fantasy.
2. Pics or it didn't happen.
3. Did you end up getting off with the other chick?

:thumbsup:
Ozzie



Sorry no pictures were taken

Yes I did

Yes I did

this is gunna bring up alotta problems in your relationship now i think

If my girl got off with another girl while i wasnt there i would consider that cheating... 3somes are a risky thing

this thread has been very entertaining to read! definitely a case of cold feet, he's not fucking gay, that's stupid to even say that. i'm sorry for him though, missed out on something others would kill for

Sorry no pictures were taken

Yes I did
If he ends up dumping you, oz [ @ ] automotiveforums.com :cheers:

After reading very little of this thread, I can provide a solution to the problem in one word.





"Viagra"

you dont have to have a big dick, you just gotta know how to use it. And if you dont know how, there are other ways to to get a woman off...

i think all men should read the sex/kama sutra specials in cosmo magazine.

i think all men should read the sex/kama sutra specials in cosmo magazine.
I've been forced to read Cosmo by my significant other before, it's surprisingly informative, actually....