Crushes

I'm just curious to see how many other people have ever crushed on someone either online (like AF, AIM) or via snailmail (like a penpal)...

I'm guilty!!!! :eek:

Ive done it b4, it was dumb of me, cause it took me forever to get it through my tiny brain that Id never meet her in person

I can't think of anytime that I did, but I'm sure I probably have, so I put maybe once just in case...

No, not on someone I've never personally met.

Guilty....thats all i'm going to say about it :finger: :finger:

*thinks to self* This could get interesting... ;)

I can't wait to see what this looks like when I come back tomorrow! :flash:

I personally can't fall for someone online, especially if I never have or never will meet him. Also the internet is a scary place sometimes. You can be anything or anyone behind a screen name.

Here's a little story on why one should be careful with meeting people on the web:

My sister hooked up with some guy off an internet dating service and ended up marrying him :apuke: The best way to describe him is a control-freak-nazi. He talks to her and her kids like he owns them. And all he talks about it money. Her first husband was killed in an accident 3 years ago...so we all know that means there was life insurance. I have a feeling he is one of these guys who marries widows...takes them for all they got and leaves. I ran his name thru our lovely court system and found 3 divorces, an annuled marriage, and 2 other incidents where he was charged on 3 counts of aggravated assault and class 5 felony influencing a witness...other than all that he's a great guy :rolleyes: I found all this out AFTER he told my mom his wife of 14 years left him and he had been single since 1991.

I am sure there are plenty of good matched made on the web but I bet more bad than good ones have been made.

Maybe I should ask anybody that went on and had a relationship with the girl/guy after meeting online?

I have had web-crushes, but I have a policy of not meeting anyone via the net

I can honestly and proudly say I've never gone out with, had a crush or fallen for anyone on the internet :smoker:

Not me. I just cant develop a crush based on text on a screen (or a picture) The sound of someones voice is more important then the font they use.

Yeah I've had a few, mainly people who were close to me and i could meet. The closest girl that i ever met online lived less than 3 miles away :eek:. We only met like twice, never went out on a date but id have to say that was the most recent one.

Nope, never online, unless I knew and had met the actual person.

What about meeting a person some other way, then using the internet as one way to talk to each other?

Originally posted by kbslacker
What about meeting a person some other way, then using the internet as one way to talk to each other?

It's up to you as to what you want to consider that....

I technically met my b/f on the telephone and then we grew together via the internet....

Originally posted by saturntangerine


It's up to you as to what you want to consider that....

I technically met my b/f on the telephone and then we grew together via the internet....

No offence meant here saturn, but how do you meet someone on the phone? Does a stranger just phone you up one day by mistake and then u start talking? Or do you just go randomly dialing numbers on the phone until you get someone that seems nice?

I dont get it :confused:

Originally posted by HuMMerMan


No offence meant here saturn, but how do you meet someone on the phone? Does a stranger just phone you up one day by mistake and then u start talking? Or do you just go randomly dialing numbers on the phone until you get someone that seems nice?

I dont get it :confused:

Well, it's kinda a long story... I was dating this one guy and one day when we were on the phone, his best friend came over. I spoke to the best friend, and we totally clicked, so we started IMing eachother on a regular basis. We kept that up for 10 months before we met face-to-face. By that time I had been broken up with the first guy for 9 months, and I began dating the best friend. :eek:

I'm honestly not the devil. We (current b/f) never intended to get together when we first met....

Ok, I understand now

Originally posted by saturntangerine
We kept that up for 10 months before we met face-to-face.

Holy Shi* thats a long time to talk to someone and not actually meet them.

Originally posted by HuMMerMan
Ok, I understand now

Holy Shi* thats a long time to talk to someone and not actually meet them.

You're telling me!!!!!!! You should have seen the first guy's face when he found out I was dating his best friend!!!!!!! :uhoh: They renounced their best friendship in exchange for only being on speaking terms... and often not even that!!!!!

i put that i don't but maybe once....... cause i think that when i was 7 i had a crush on some girl on tv

that's the only time i can think of though :)

Well, I have, and am currently in a situation like this. We have met a few times. I am currently on a little vacation with her until Sunday. Nowdays, it is a very common thing. Plus, the internet saves on the phone bills. :)

I wouldn't say that I've really had crush, but I've really wanted to meet some people I met online. My friend's roommate for example. She sounds cool and I have real world verification that she exists and is who she says she is. I've been meaning to get together with them (my friend and her roommate), but all of us are sooo busy.

lol.. just be like hey man, you wanna do something? I'll come over :) then end up just goin to see the girl :devil:

Originally posted by gang$tarr
lol.. just be like hey man, you wanna do something? I'll come over :) then end up just goin to see the girl :devil:

Now thats the way :D

or if you are trying to pick her up, you could call the chick and say "wanna grab a burger, or maybe smoke some pot?"

:lol2: :lol2:

Originally posted by HuMMerMan

or if you are trying to pick her up, you could call the chick and say "wanna grab a burger, or maybe smoke some pot?"


lol.... i never smoke up with girls. I don't know why, i just don't like it. I always feel like they shouldn't be doing it..... i have no clue why.

blazin with my homeboys or gettin drunk with girls :D :D


seriously though do what i said, go over pretending to see your friend but go to see the girl, hehe tell me how it turns out :)

Well that's the crux of the matter. I can't get together with either of them, b/c they're only free on weekDAYs and I'm only free on weekENDs. Stinks, don't it? That and I don't know whether she has a b/f or not.

Originally posted by Twist
Well that's the crux of the matter. I can't get together with either of them, b/c they're only free on weekDAYs and I'm only free on weekENDs. Stinks, don't it? That and I don't know whether she has a b/f or not.

Well that does suck.

And G$, I just said that so-called pick up line as a joke. I dont smoke-up nor would I be ever saying that to a girl. :bloated:

just thought it was funny thats all :D

Nope. :D

Originally posted by jay@af
Nope. :D

Nope? thats it? just Nope. No Witty Remarks, nothing?

im dissapointed jay :(


j/k :D

Originally posted by HuMMerMan
Nope? thats it? just Nope. No Witty Remarks, nothing?

im dissapointed jay :(


j/k :D Simplicity at its most serene, in this thread of lovers' angst. :coolguy:

Originally posted by HuMMerMan

And G$, I just said that so-called pick up line as a joke.

Lol, i know.... nobody would ever say that :D

Originally posted by gang$tarr
cause i think that when i was 7 i had a crush on some girl on tv


LOL :hehehe::hehehe::hehehe:

Who was it?

Well, (he says with a blushing sense of embarrassment)I have this teeny-tiny crush on saturn<<sigh>>, but I know deep down in my heart of hearts that the chances of me meeting HER are about a gazillion-to-1!!

Something about a woman that actually KNOWS more about cars than putting the gas in it..... :eek:

Besides.... who da f*** even KNOWS that North Dakota exists??? (besides the fools that live here):sun:

Oops, I thought it was crushes in real life, you can scratch that "All the freaking time one" LOL

:hehehe:

Originally posted by nubiannupe
gazillion-to-1!!




That's like looking for a grain of sand in the Sahara Desert.

ive met some pretty cool chicks online. the last on my friend(who i also met online) introduced me to her friend that goes to the same college as me. we met like a week later and have been goin at it like rabbits ever since :D

Originally posted by Porsche



That's like looking for a grain of sand in the Sahara Desert.

Oh no.... because your chances are theoretically BETTER, I think! Besides, I'm really shy in real life (like this isn't REAL) and she doesn't even know I exist!:D

Originally posted by SkylinesKillAll
ive met some pretty cool chicks online. the last on my friend(who i also met online) introduced me to her friend that goes to the same college as me. we met like a week later and have been goin at it like rabbits ever since :D


I hate you and your dmaned mastery of the messenger sevice.

I really don't have a tendancy to go nuts over girls online. I think you can get a way better feel of what they are like by meeting them in person for a few minutes than all the talking you could do online. And then that way, you can see how they treat others, and I think that's a big thing. If a person is nice to you, but bitchy at the waiter, chances are that they will be bitchy to you too, eventually.

Do people really get crushes on messageboards?

I'm missing out.

Originally posted by Porsche



I hate you and your dmaned mastery of the messenger sevice.

lol thank u very much. i guess im good at what i do :D

I can honestly say NO ....u really can't see or talk to the other person then there's really no point . I'm not saying it couldn't happen but it hasn't happen to me so far .

Originally posted by Heep


LOL :hehehe::hehehe::hehehe:

Who was it?

lol... i don't even remember, i was like 7 years old and it lasted like a week. that's the only time i can think of, i think it was cindy crawford or somebody like that

Well, I'm not guilty of having a crush on someone I haven't met, but I am guilty of having MULTIPLE crushes!

Letsee - theres this girl at church, a girl I work with, a girl I see at the Tim Horten's drive through, and lastly, a girl I see every day on my route - I like her the most, and think she likes me too :). Too bad I'm a big chicken shit and will probably never ask her out :(.

Originally posted by MercCougarXR7
I like her the most, and think she likes me too :). Too bad I'm a big chicken shit and will probably never ask her out :(.

lol... this sounds like kindergarden :D :D
what do you have to lose? just go and talk to her!!

Originally posted by gang$tarr


lol... this sounds like kindergarden :D :D
what do you have to lose? just go and talk to her!!

Merc sounds like me.

I just rarely have the balls to ask a girl out. From the way you talk G$ , it sounds like you have no trouble talking to women, but some people like me are chickenshit, i guess its a fear of rejection. i donno :confused:

you guys should just go for it.... cause you seriously got nothin to lose. Then again you don't just go and ask her out straigt up, just start talkin to her, then maybe invite her to coffee or whatever, somethin small. Then after she gets to know you and starts likin you alot, you ask her out and start dating..... as long as you're not a hidious jackass that'll almost never fail :D

Originally posted by gang$tarr
as long as you're not a hidious jackass that'll almost never fail :D

Damn, I guess the technique you discribed wont work for me then :(

I have, and it was dumb cuz he lived 250 miles away from me :(
Oh well, theres still the 2 guys here that I've crushed on for the past 2 & 2½ years :)

what do you have to lose? just go and talk to her!!

I have to see her every day on my route :).

Asking her out when I only THINK she likes me would make for a very uncomfortable environment for when I'm there.

Who knows - maybe before next fall (when I quit Purolator) I'll ask her out. We both are going to be pursueing educations, and don't need/want relationship presures. But, if we both know it'll be casual - maybe it'd work :).

The last girl I asked out laughed at me - kinda hurt, but I never had to see her again, as I asked her on her last day at work :D!

Originally posted by HuMMerMan


Damn, I guess the technique you discribed wont work for me then :(

whoa whoa whoa!! that was uncool man, bad self-esteem :(
you gotta bring that self-esteem up!! You gotta think that you're the shit!! girls like confidence

some of them haven't enjoyed my cockyness so much though, so don't over do it :)

Merc: you still got nothin to loose, she's either gunna say yes or no. If she says no, than carry-on with your life, no big deal, just one girl out of many. Or you could even ask her if she'd just like to be friends

Originally posted by MercCougarXR7


The last girl I asked out laughed at me - kinda hurt

That sucks dude....they really know how to hit you where it hurts at times

Originally posted by MercCougarXR7


I have to see her every day on my route :).

Asking her out when I only THINK she likes me would make for a very uncomfortable environment for when I'm there.


you just have to be subtle, drop some hints, smile at her, give her an opertunity to say something that might revel her feelings.

Either that or just walk up to her and ask if she would like to go out with you next friday for dinner? If shes yes then sweet!
If she says no, well then you just say, "Ok, just thought I would ask" smile and continue as if nothing happened. Next time you go in there just be friendly and polite. Then move onto the next office. :D
Everyone gets told no at some point.

Why even lovable little old me gets turned down on occasion. :(

Originally posted by MercCougarXR7

The last girl I asked out laughed at me - kinda hurt:D!

Some girls can be total biatches!!! We're not all like that, honest, so don't let that one time stop you from asking someone else out!! :)

Originally posted by gang$tarr
whoa whoa whoa!! that was uncool man, bad self-esteem :(
you gotta bring that self-esteem up!! You gotta think that you're the shit!! girls like confidence

some of them haven't enjoyed my cockyness so much though, so don't over do it :)

Merc: you still got nothin to loose, she's either gunna say yes or no. If she says no, than carry-on with your life, no big deal, just one girl out of many. Or you could even ask her if she'd just like to be friends G$ is spitting out some straight up brilliance today! :flash:

He is so right about girls liking confidence. If you just do your own thing, but you do it good, they'll notice. :D

Originally posted by jay@af
G$ is spitting out some straight up brilliance today! :flash:

He is so right about girls liking confidence. If you just do your own thing, but you do it good, they'll notice. :D

you see, i know alot about girls.... but nobody seems to believe it, maybe jealousy? ;) :p (ahem, moppie) lol :D j/k

Originally posted by gang$tarr


you see, i know alot about girls.... but nobody seems to believe it, maybe jealousy? ;) :p (ahem, moppie) lol :D j/k

Actualy my little man I was just about to agree with Jay, this is one of the few things you have ever said that is on the ball.

Even a little self confidence can make a huge differnce, it affect how other percieve you.
You can of course take it to far, and end up just comeing accross like a complete arrogant prick, some girls like this, but most don't, and they can tell very quickly.
The trick is to be hummbly self confident. :cool: as it were.



:smoka:

Originally posted by Moppie

Even a little self confidence can make a huge differnce, it affect how other percieve you.
You can of course take it to far, and end up just comeing accross like a complete arrogant prick, some girls like this, but most don't, and they can tell very quickly.
The trick is to be hummbly self confident. :cool: as it were.



:smoka:

Ok. Dumb question here then.

How the FUCK do you be "humbly self-confident"?
I just dont get any of this shit :confused:

Originally posted by HuMMerMan
Ok. Dumb question here then.

How the FUCK do you be "humbly self-confident"?
I just dont get any of this shit :confused: Not a dumb question at all. When I was in grades 9 & 10, I had no idea about any of this either.

I think it's really a matter of getting involved in something. Something you like, and that you can be good at. But, don't just join up with groups just because you think you'll meet chicks.

For me, it was getting involved in the theatre - improv comedy in particular. I liked it, and I was good at it. That's what builds confidence.

Finding the thing that will do that for you is the hard part.