headlight remote entry

this just started when I lock or unlock my door the headlight pop up & go back down must be a short or bad ground
any ideas
thanks

Is this an aftermarket remote entry/alarm system? If so, many of those have an option to flash the headlights and/or chirp the alarm to acknowledge the unlock command. If it is set up to do so that is why you lamp doors are opening/closing.

If this just started happening with the alarm system it is possible the programming or setup has changed to this mode due to a low battery, voltage transient, nearby lightning, or other cause of interference, or due to a poor power connection to the alarm unit.

original remote even does it if I lock the door on the arm rest

Check the owner's manual for alarm setup. Some of that was done through the factory radio, and it may have been scrambled or reset to default.