so she just wants to be friends..WTF?

[Soyo]

Originally Posted by Gloriahusk

you sound like a nice caring young guy...there are many girls out there looking for someone like you...seek and destroy...lol

yea thats what girls always say... but then they always want the bad boy dickheads. I honestly think girls are just dumb as can be and don't know what they want... in the teenage years atleast.. makes me wish I was a couple years older

I feel you man, I acctually have a similar thread to yours on here, chics suck.

[ghostguy6]

So get this, while Im putting all her stuff into a box she drops off a letter, well more of a poem. Im pissed off, upset, and have 100's of other emotions and she expects me to be able to understand a poem? I mean WHAT THE FUCK! talk about mind games.
Can someone try to explain what this means? Im way to messed to try to figure it out.

I remember the things that you did,
that make you who you are.
I remember everything like it was yesterday.
Here I stand by myself, wondering what I sould do now.
I look at my reflection,
and wonder what has become of me.
But I will not give up,
I will prove them wrong.
I will not fall.
I can change my life.
The sun doesnt always shine.
Heros can break down and cry.
the rain will fall,
and the world holds its silence.
So now I lose myself,
and in some,
lose another.
You dont know me.
Even memories die.
When all is said and all is done,
we will remember our friends that fell.
This is goodbye.
Maybe one day we can be friends.
If you can learn to accept me as who I am.
And if i can learn to forgive.
P.S. keep your head up and remember who you are and who you were.
Ps look up
artist: yellowcard
song: believe
its a good song

[Raz_Kaz]

I'm no good in poetry but I can take a guess here.
Shes trying to tell you that she feels lonely, and remembers the good times. She will try and move on and at the same time try and have some sort of continous interaction with you if she can learn to forgive (herself or you, that part confuses me). If that part does not fall through, she knows she has to move on and forget everything and start up as new.


Pertty much that she thanks you for what you did for her, she will not resort to her old ways. She's telling you to be strong and forget about her if she forgets about you




I say talk to her...goes against what I said earlier, but talk to her. Find an oppurtunity and talk things out

[ghostguy6]

Every time we do talk things get worse, Ive given up trying to get her to talk, if she starts the conversation Ill talk with her but I wont start them. The thing is when we do talk she sounds so different, I honestly do think she will go back to what she was before

[Raz_Kaz]

Well according to the poem, she syas she will change...so we can hope

[ghostguy6]

IMHO...I think shes refering to changing back to what she was. If any women read this thread can I have your input on this, maybe a woman's wisdom could shed some light on this. Yes I did ask for a womans help and Im not ashamed to admit it.

[Soyo]

well I think shes saying she will remember you and that you had good times but its time for a change and you two just aren't right for each other anymore, then shes saying goodbye, hopefully you can get over it and so can she so that you can be friends in the future

thats what I got out of it atleast

[Gloriahusk]

Ghost...2 things....

1:...she sounds like she is letting you go but she still wants to to hang on (it's her game on her terms) Why the poems??? Why keep in touch??? She's mind F&^%**& you!!!!
2:...like I said earlier...she is wanting you to hang on to her...to have a fall guy...but it's not healthy for you...you need to let go and move on for your own mental health...she is playing mind games with you...best thing here is to not play her game...

From a womans point of view...she knows she's got you...and she can do anything...you need to break that cycle...we hate when the guy acts like he's not interested anymore...you are acting too interested...she knows she's got you where she wants you...she is a game player...break her off!!!!

[ghostguy6]

im already over the fact that we broke up. I know that Ive accepted that, and Im looking for a new g/f. She also knows that If she does deside to fall back an me and try to rekindle the b/f + g/f reationship it will never happen. The only thing I am worried about is keeping her as a friend, before we became involed with each other she was one of, if not my best friend. All I really want to know is this possible or not?

[Gloriahusk]

Originally Posted by ghostguy6

im already over the fact that we broke up. I know that Ive accepted that, and Im looking for a new g/f. She also knows that If she does deside to fall back an me and try to rekindle the b/f + g/f reationship it will never happen. The only thing I am worried about is keeping her as a friend, before we became involed with each other she was one of, if not my best friend. All I really want to know is this possible or not?

I have tried to be friends with the "Ex's"...it's not possible...you have to ask yourself why you fell away from the friendship/relationship in the firstplace...is it because you grew apart...just like highschool friends...
Friends are there for eachother at all times...I see you giving all the time...you talk about how much "You" helped her out...but friendship is a 2 way street...how much has she given you?
In order to have friendship she has to be there for you too...ask yourself if you are getting anything out of this "Friendship" or if she is getting the benefits and you are doing all the giving....

[ghostguy6]

She has given me alot in return, alot more than she could ever know. I never thought of it like that, its always been if she needed something, I was there and if I needed something she was there, I never kept track of it as far as I was concerned if she was happy we were even

[Soyo]

yes you can be friends with your EX's, its not that hard really, you just have to give it time first, and once its out of both your minds and you have better things to do and talk about you should be fine to just hang out