Soul Mates

[MiSS-GvS]

Yeah i guess, sometimes the things u go looking for never come to you, but things that u're not looking for always seem to appear? Maybe the price of satisfaction is all too high, so we settle for less, but in reality it is more of what we need rather than want?

Is it better to be loved cos of need
Or needed cos of love?

I suppose this is getting a lil off the topic, but still, its an interesting thought.

[Damien]

It's not off-topic. We do philosophy in here and this is the deepest I've read in awhile.

Besides, that all rounds back to soulmates. they may not be what you want, but what you need. They don't meet your highest needs of which you can't acheive so you settle with them, when they are less.

I hope most would agree on the fact it's better to be needed cos of love...

[MiSS-GvS]

Tru. w3rd to the fact it is better to be needed cos of love rather than loved cos of need!

I guess sometimes I find myself wanting perfection rather than facing a truth. Like I'm talking perfectiong = over 6', built, toned, tanned, educated, over 21. So far, I've only found one of those, and although he was a decent guy, I always came second to his ego, which didn't bother me at all cos I was on par with his ego level and arrogance as well as intellectual level. I screwed that up and have myself to blame, but compromise wasn't his thing so we never got over it!

Thing is, because I always find myself in positions that make me second, I have developed a phobia of being put first, hence the reason why I run from anyone that wants to put me first, I just can't deal cos I'm not used to it. I've grown to live without it and I am the centre of my own world...

[darkness]

Originally posted by MiSS-GvS
Thing is, because I always find myself in positions that make me second, I have developed a phobia of being put first, hence the reason why I run from anyone that wants to put me first, I just can't deal cos I'm not used to it. I've grown to live without it and I am the centre of my own world...

sounds too familiar.

[Damien]

Originally posted by MiSS-GvS
Thing is, because I always find myself in positions that make me second, I have developed a phobia of being put first, hence the reason why I run from anyone that wants to put me first, I just can't deal cos I'm not used to it. I've grown to live without it and I am the centre of my own world...

I do believe it's come kind of outbreak across the globe. I mean, I know a lot of girls that want that, but when it happens, they freak like "how is that possible?" "Are there actually guys that nice out there!?!" Yeah, I'm one. I guess cliches aren't as stupid as they seem...

[MiSS-GvS]

MiSS-GvS pet hates are insolence and ignorance, they come about thru immaturity!

Being a perfectionist by nature, its oftn hard to find exactly what you want without having to sacrifice on some things! There's more sense in finding my Mr-Right-Now rather than plain Mr Right cos you miss out on half the fun of developing a relationship if you jump right in the deep end!.

[slave]

lol, miss-gvs needs to realise this thread was NOT about her but a girl I knew about a year ago... I reposted as an interest.

[buickgirl]

Hello i thought i would post to this topic because i have a lot to say on it. First off everyone in my book was born with 2 soulmates one who is of the same sex and one which is of a different gender, the same sex soulmate is a bestfriend ,someone who knows what you are thinking even before you do, someone who knows you almost as well as you know you know yourself, the diff-sex soulmate however has been put on this planet to make you happy and in turn you have been put here to make them happy. I have found both of my soulmates, my fiancee is the best, he knows whats going on in my head when i cant even explain it, he is in the navy and a couple of days before he left for bootcamp i threw out the topic of soulmates and how i thought he was mine, at first he told me "NO" because his belief of soulmates is that they are supposed to be best friends and nothing more.... i was crushed ..... larter when he asked me to marry him he told me that the meaning of the word soulmate has changed drastcally, he says we were twins in another life but i think that there is someone for everyone out there and it might just take time to find that one person...... and for all you nice guys...... there is hope out there just wait untill some girl is sobbing on a park bench, crying about the guy who dumped her and let her cry on your shoulder....( this is how i met my fiancee) be a "nice" guy and talk to her about him.... let her know what an asshole the guy was for leaving such a pretty .... smart....( you know) and she will soon be yours Happy Hunting To All You Single Folks!!!

[Damien]

Well, just in response to the previous post. What if both spots are of the opposite sex? *laughs* Yeah...soulmates, I believe in. There are so many kinds for you. Fate...now there's another story.

[replicant_008]

Was once a girl in Rep's life that he thought was his soulmate. She and Rep could spend time with each other hardly saying a word sometimes or pouring out our feelings between us without reservation or judgement. We always enjoyed each other's company in a platonic way neither of us ever considering changing the nature of our relationship as the friendship was deep and caring.

This relationship and affection for each other carried itself for several years. This marked a time of serious change and upheaval for both parties with extended periods of separation from each other - lots of time spent on long distance and overseas phone calls, often calling and speaking to each other more than our respective partners and families at times.

But during the whole time, the friendship was strong, caring and mutual between us. However, in the past few months Rep noticed the girl calling less and her conversation not reflecting the person he loves and cares for. Admittedly, the girl has shut the door on a relationship but this has happened before during the friendship but somehow things have changed.

Rep is beginning to think that as a result of the end of something - that the girl wants to reinvent herself as someone else. Someone that she thinks will attract someone different and Rep is a little worried. Not because Rep's friendship is fading but that the girl may wonder in a year or two years time that the person she has become isn't the real girl but a projection of what she regards as being invulnerable and a projection of what she thinks is attractive.

If the girl wants to do that, Rep will stay her friend as long as she wants him to be but he can't help wondering why someone so beautiful and such a wonderful person wants to go through that.

Rep is tempted to hop on a plane and see her to reassure her but there are reasons he can't or won't including his own happiness and loyalty to another. Caught between obligations and commitments Rep now waits confused and a little hurt wondering what the next sip of melancholy will serve him.

[lamehonda]

Considering what I look like, soulmate would scare the freakin crap out of me. Have probably already seen her

I just ran off

[CarSuperfreak]

::nudge:: (psst! this thread is more than a year old!)

[DGB454]

Still it was funny.