Rejection

[replicant_008]

Goddamn, I'm 24 years old, when the hell am I going to understand them

You expect to understand them? I'd have expected by now you'd have realised that no guy ever will.

Show me a guy who tells you he understands women and I'll show a guy who is probably:

- Far too in touch with his feminine side and possibly not heterosexual
- Deluded
- On drugs
- Liar
- All of the above

The only wisdom I can impart is that as soon as you think you understand them you are in big trouble buddy - it means you have no idea...

[darkness]

Well, yeah i didn't mean it that way.

[tazdev]

Rejection sucks.

I was rejected bigtime when in college (what you Americans call high school). I made the mistake of letting this one rejection really affect me and as a result I have had no confidence to even talk to any females in a bar ever since (and this happened 7 years ago )

I am now beging to understand that "hey shit happens - get over it" Hopefully things will change soon.

[darkness]

Originally posted by tazdev
I was rejected bigtime when in college (what you Americans call high school). I made the mistake of letting this one rejection really affect me and as a result I have had no confidence to even talk to any females in a bar ever since (and this happened 7 years ago )

I am now beging to understand that "hey shit happens - get over it" Hopefully things will change soon.

Pretty much what happened to me, just a few times.

I'm still not over it. I've probably got some major issues.

[replicant_008]

Let's see I've been out the last few days...

Darkness - 'pulling' someone who isn't necessarily attractive at first glance. Okay, I didn't necessarily mean 'pull' but like everything there are first steps. Confidence is a fairly fragile thing - having a conversation with someone is a good start when you feel the consequences of a previous rejection are overwhelming.

There would be nothing worse than meeting someone that you like and not being able to find the words to express yourself because you haven't tried to for a while. Meeting new people will give you a perspective, let you build some confidence and you may even make friends (which increases your chance of actually meeting someone special).

As for rejection overall, if at first you don't succeed then give it another go. I'm going to admit that I've had my fair share of romantic cul-de-sacs along the road of life and I also have to admit I've done a bit of cold shouldering at times (which I'm not proud of). The thing is if you don't buy a ticket to the lottery then you ain't going to win. I figure every time I walk out the door of the house I'm going to meet someone I haven't before.

Each of these people I meet will create an impression, I'll create an impression on them - even if I don't speak to them. I guess what I'm saying is that we have bad experiences - if we dwell on them it serves us no good, the experience is something we need to live with and learn from.

OzRiceBoy would agree with me that either one of us could have let the first big fall on a ski-hill put us off skiing. And for some people that is the case, but after denting my confidence I got back on those planks and tried the same thing again... which is why I'm still skiing... and still looking for the 'right' girl too...

[swamack]

Thanks for the advise. I feel a little better. I think.

[Dustin_S]

hahah...yeah...rejection can suck. I remember asking a girl to a middle school dance about six or seven years ago. I ended up getting smacked by her (so is that a no?) and laughed at by her freinds. Four years later, in high school, I got the honor of pretending to not know who she was when she wanted to go to prom with my group...revenge is sweet.

[SentraGirl]

Speaking from a girls perspective, yes our minds are very twisted but a girl wants what she can't have. A girl wants a challenge, she wants someone who makes her play her "A" game. Just play hard to get and try not to act to interested at first and she'll be more interested. But be careful with that because if you play hard to get too long she'll think you're not playing so after you got her hooked start showing interest, little by litte. Hope this helps, sorry we're so twisted.

"Born to Please, But Taught to TEASE!":angel:

[SeXy_AnGeL]

babe, trust me, your life isnt bad at all. I didnt go to an actual HS, i traveled to play soccer so i was tutored while i traveled. I missed out on all of those things. At 15 i was diagnosed with a chronic disease that i wont ever recover from. My mom kicked me out of her house 4 times in 3 years. One of my brothers died because of my stupid ass and now my other brother is training to be a navy seal, and I'm pregnant with matt's (the guy who raped me) baby.you're life is great compaired to mine..

[integra818]

Originally posted by swamack
...I am considered a nerd...

NO you're not, being in the chess club does'nt qualify as being a nerd, you should be happy you could even play chess, I wish I could play. It's not that you're a nerd, it's just that whoever considers you a nerd is a moron who has nothing elso to put you down with exept," you're a nerd"
I'm not a "nerd" but I know what you're talkin about.

My 9th grade teacher: they'll call you nerd now, but they'll call you boss later"

And no, he didnt say that to me, he said to someone else.

Cheer up buddy, you've got it easier than me ...