Just broke up

[Knifeblade]

Mail her your gift, or try to return it, get it out of your way. It a tangible cue to keep bringing it up.

[TexasF355F1]

Sorry to hear this Jay. Hope all turns out for the best. Keep your head up.

[crayzayjay]

Yep.... thanks guys.

Things are going to be very different from now on. I'm also in negotiations with my employer to leave my job, probably before the end of this week. It's a fresh start in almost every aspect, but it's not easy to stay positive about everything.

It doesnt help that so much reminds me of my ex - it's weird just calling her that. Half the things i wear were bought by her (you try going out with a girl for 5 years and still buy your own clothes by the end of it), amongst other things...

anyway, out tonight with the boys. we'll see how it goes..

[caviman69]

I know what your going though man. Its sucks and unfortunatly will take some time to get over. I had to move when i broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years, everything around my house reminded me of her. It helps to get a way for a while. Good luck man, I hope it works out for you.

[crayzayjay]

Ok im really struggling here. Being alone sucks.

[Neutrino]

Originally Posted by crayzayjay

Ok im really struggling here. Being alone sucks.

I never been with anyone that long so I cannot even imagine how hard it must be to get used to be on your own for a while. Unfortunatelly there is nothing to make the pain go away except time.


My advice is to keep yourself as busy as posible this way you cannot think about her. Focus on the job, or on whatever job you're going to be getting, or if you want some time off focus on anything that will keep you busy, especially cool guy stuff. Cars, computers, football games, hang out with your buddies etc...whatever you like to do.

[Jimster]

Damn Jay, sorry to hear about it man, but you did what you thought you had to do and I commend you for having the balls to do it.


Where do I send the stripper? Or are you still in the sweatpants phase of things?

[Rally Sport]

Originally Posted by Jimster

Damn Jay, sorry to hear about it man, but you did what you thought you had to do and I commend you for having the balls to do it.


Where do I send the stripper? Or are you still in the sweatpants phase of things?

Can I have the stripper? I live in Texas, and I just want the stripper or an STD free prostitute.

[958Rocky]

It sucks to see you down like this, you always lighten the mood in these kinds of threads.

Hope your feeling better

[drewh4386]

Just to brighten the mood for you jay.......

Originally Posted by crayzayjay

Ok im really struggling here. Being alone sucks.

Its hard to have sex without a woman isn't it?

[crayzayjay]

Originally Posted by Jimster

Damn Jay, sorry to hear about it man, but you did what you thought you had to do and I commend you for having the balls to do it.


Where do I send the stripper? Or are you still in the sweatpants phase of things?

I'm definitely in the sweatpants phase.

Getting the itch to call her. Bad. Trying hard not to scratch that itch.

[drunken monkey]

not quite the same but at university i was with this girl for about three and a bit years. we were always aware of the fact that her being a foriegn student the time would eventually come when we would have to say our good-byes (there's slightly more to this but i won't bore you with specifics).
when the time came it wasn't good (and i have to say a bit messy because of things i did during this little period of 'cooling off') but like i said, we knew it was always going to happen and i guess i was more prepared than she was.

ever had a relationship on which all others are judged against? well, this was it. i can honestly say that for those three years, we were practically living together 24/7 and there wasn't a single argument.
sometimes, i think about whether or not i made the right choice all them years ago. maybe things would've been better if we both just said 'no, this is not going to end well'.
is there an answer?
well, we all know that there never is an answer. you just get on with things and see how it goes.

[2003chevcav]

Originally Posted by crayzayjay

... with my girlfriend of 5 years.

Things haven't been great recently and i saw her tonight for the first time in almost three weeks, having just returned from vacation. Our phone conversation before i went over wasn't the warmest, but once i saw her she looked great and i was very happy to see her. We had dinner, and all was going well until she started talking about the relationship (lot of arguing recently). She asked me if i missed her while i was away and i replied "the first week, a lot, the second week, less". She felt the same.

The main issue is commitment. We've been together for such a long time and she knows i have no desire to get married or even move in with her, or any partner. We had a big argument before i left and i thought about having a break then. But it was the night before i left, so i didnt say anything. In hindsight it would have been a good idea.

Tonight she said we could either try to work things out, or break up. She said she didn't see us going back to the way it used to be, to which I agreed. So we broke up. My girlfriend of 5 years and best friend. Both of us were in a state of shock. She cried. I didn't, but couldn't really look in her eyes as i left. We still love each other, which is what really hurts.

Anyway, that's it. I still have a present i bought her while on holiday which i didnt take to her today lying on my bed, and i don't know what to do with it. 6 million things in my room remind me of her.


We've broken up once before but i know this time it's for good. And it fucking hurts.

Hey bro,

I am sorry to hear that. I have also been with my girl 5 years. If you don't mind me asking - How old are you?

[958Rocky]

Originally Posted by crayzayjay

I'm definitely in the sweatpants phase.

Getting the itch to call her. Bad. Trying hard not to scratch that itch.

yea man, this what friends are for, think of us as neosporian for feelings. call one of your friends if you get that urge.

I would tell u to call me but i doubt that you want to make a long distance call to cali, and I think my parents are going to look at me funny when i'm talking to a british muppet with a midget fetish.


Hang in there

[pickle]

My bf broke up with me yesterday through texting messaging (pussy ass bitch) after being together for 8 months and friends for 3 and a half years. I have good friends to help me get through this tough time. They're getting me drunk every weekend AND when Jared (Ssom) gets back from Auckland, he's taking me to a strip bar. Now that's a true friend.