busted!! caught in a lie......help???

[Raz_Kaz]

/\ kinda offensive, appologise before it's too late!

[2Slow4U_Noob]

Originally Posted by Raz_Kaz

/\ kinda offensive, appologise before it's too late!

haha i didnt think it was offensive..but im not one to offend anybody so i's a goin to apalogize in advance..so sorry

[lamehonda]

Originally Posted by 2Slow4U_Noob

It's funny that no girls have replied yet, I bet they would have been like

"nah uh girlfriend, you need to dump that loser and find yourself a real man, girl power!"

or something like that.

True
true
true
I think that maybe we have just seen to much daytime tv

[Raz_Kaz]

He doesnt learn...it's ok

[RSX-S777]

To be brutally honest, and I don't intend to hurt feelings, here- if he LOVED you and really wanted to work things out, would he have done this to you. If I love a girl- there's no way in hell I'm even thinking about sleeping with someone else. Screwing other girls shows a lack of interest in truly working things out and a lack of respect for your feelings. Find a man who respects you. When he realizes that he sacrificed a good woman for cheap tail, he'll be sorry...

[hotgrlzracin]

Originally Posted by RSX-S777

To be brutally honest, and I don't intend to hurt feelings, here- if he LOVED you and really wanted to work things out, would he have done this to you. If I love a girl- there's no way in hell I'm even thinking about sleeping with someone else. Screwing other girls shows a lack of interest in truly working things out and a lack of respect for your feelings. Find a man who respects you. When he realizes that he sacrificed a good woman for cheap tail, he'll be sorry...

i agree and your honest opinion is what i was looking for.

i'm going to just not worry about it and move on. i know i deserve to be with someone who will treat me with the same respect and dignity that i give them.

thanks again for all advice.........the more the marry'er.

[mx6rrr]

hey hotgrlzracin......im single!
hope that helped........
lol...
sorry, that's always a tough subject, but I think if he did it to you like that, he'll probley do it again...but it's your life, and you know him better than I do (obviously)...basically, do what you want, and I hope it goes good for you. Talking always seems to help one way or another....Good luck!

[Raz_Kaz]

Originally Posted by RSX-S777

To be brutally honest, and I don't intend to hurt feelings, here- if he LOVED you and really wanted to work things out, would he have done this to you. If I love a girl- there's no way in hell I'm even thinking about sleeping with someone else. Screwing other girls shows a lack of interest in truly working things out and a lack of respect for your feelings. Find a man who respects you. When he realizes that he sacrificed a good woman for cheap tail, he'll be sorry...

That's not RSX-S7777 talking!!! It's an imposter, get him!!!

[RSX-S777]

*Lifts wig and to reveal horns, removes giant, mirrored aviator sunglasses to reveal glowing, red eyes*

"Keep it down, Kaz...I'm undercover...jeeez..."

[Raz_Kaz]

my bad
*shuts mouth up and leaves the room*

[kublah]

Originally Posted by hotgrlzracin

i'm going to just not worry about it and move on.

I personally have never really bought that whole forgive and forget thing. When something like this is really bothering me, nothing makes it linger more than trying to just shrug it off and forget about it. Forgiveness may come with time, but these are things that you NEVER forget about.

If you feel pissed off and hurt, be pissed off and hurt. Don't let something that really upsets you slide just because some stupid cliche says you're supposed to.

I've been in a position similar to the one in question here, and I screwed it up in a manner similar to what he did because I was naive. My whole world got turned upside down, and I was hating life for quite a while. Of course I came out on the other side a stronger, slightly less dumb guy, so even though it was painful as hell I'm sure I'm better off for it. The point of this is that I think many guys are a little bit clueless about these things, and it takes an earth-shattering event to make them realize some of the things they were doing that they didn't know were wrong, and to know a little more about what loving someone is really about.

Forgive and forget if you want things to stay exactly the same way they have always been. Give him a hard punch in the nose (figuratively speaking), leave his ego on the ground crying like a little girl and you stand a chance at making some good come out of this. Sometimes that's what it takes with us...

[-Davo]

Originally Posted by hotgrlzracin

Here is the situation.......

Boyfriend and I broke up, we were still working on things (nothing really changed except seeing less of each other). we both agreed not to sleep with anyone or see anyone else.

needless to say, i caught him almost red handed. i found one condom missing. ( i knew there were two left after the last time we used them). how i found out one was missing is that i just looked. it was gone, well i found the used condom in the trash. i was devastated. not only did i feel bad for snooping but i felt worse that my feelings had been disregarded and that i felt disrespected.

when i confronted him, he lied about it. came up with some story blah blah blah. it took him less than a week to admit he did but when he did he said, " i lied, i was wrong". he also said, "what i did (sleeping with someone) wasn't wrong".
he thinks that b/c we weren't BF & GF that it wasn't wrong but what matters is how i feel. yet again i feel my feelings are being disregarded.

i'm so confused right now.........i really like this guy and want things to work out but my mind tells me if things have gotten this bad and gone in this direction that perhaps i should just move on.

heres my question's.........

how wrong is he for sleeping with her even though we were broke up yet still working on things??

should i just really move on, not give this relationship a 2nd chance??

please provide opinions and thoughts........be open and honest as you like.

Everybody makes mistakes and a life with out forgiveness is a life of loneliness

Your fault for trusting him

the "we're broken up, but i still don't want you to sleep with anyone" is stupid.
It's like saying "You're fired, but I still want you to work for me"!?!?! WTF!?!?

you must realise, YOU BROKE UP.
If you can't understand what that means, then you shouldn't be seing people

I agree with the dude. It doesn't matter.
You're saying it's your feelings. Did you ever stop to think, or even ask how he feels?
He might think "we broke up because she stoped liking me anymore so I'll do what I want" and I agree with that.
Fuck it. If you do not share the same bond anymore, stop trying to control him.