Did the same thing yesterday... and will do it agian tommorow.

[Ace$nyper]

Man thats a shame you feel like that but i can't say anyone who went thought H/S didn't feel that way at one point. I agree starting something is a good idea. I picked up my love for greek writing reading the the illiad many times over it started many hours of just thinking enjoying the storys from that time i also picked up restoring ww2 rifles but once you find something you'll start to enjoy the day to day grind more.

[drklver]

you said your dad wont let you drive?did he say you couldnt own a car?
shit!get one!make lowrider bikes,make music,drink beer,design programs,lift weights,do photography,make bongs,sports,shit man there is all kinda shit to do! no boredom=happy life!

[integra818]

saturntangerine, I used to go to kick-boxing but it was very boring after a while. I like running, I would run for about 40 minutes-80 minutes a day just for fun, but I got tired bored of that too.

I do have a hobby, I build model cars. It's fun, but I get pretty frustrated becuase my cars look like crap and I always mess up every car I start, but it makes me work harder on the next one though.

drklver, I don't have enough money to buy a car. I'm not allowed to work either so I don't really have enough money for a car. I don't like beer or alcohol at all (I'm not a sissy, I just don't like the taste) I'm not into lowriders, makin music/designs or anything computer related for that matter.

ILike2DriveCars, random naps make me too cranky, and when I awake, I feel like I wasted the whole day


Everyday I feel like I wanna fight somebody. I don't have a bad temper (at least I don't think I do) but I feel like I wanna take my anger out on something.

Thanks for all your suggestions though, I appreciate them.

I'll try to think of how to change the everyday routine. Alot of the things mentioned before, although very good suggestions, were already checked off. I dunno, I'll see where the road goes sooner or later.

[slave]

Lol, I just get whacked on stupid amounts of caffeine and sugar when Im bored, I find they hit me better when Im bored. But thats me, and Im not all there... lol. Other than that I always try to do different things in my spare time, yes you're stuck to certain routines, but not 24/7.

[Oz]

Hmm...heres some positive things to do:

-Volunteer to do some work experience in an industry you think you might like to work in. They get your services for free, but if you're good, you get AWESOME references from them when it's time for job.

-Join a gym. I have. Best move ever.

-(from Tangie and me) START SKIING

[Ace$nyper]

good call OZ with the volunterring work i did lots of (and still do) i was in Civil air partol worked in a nature park helped the govner i wanted to win by passing stuff out. It's a good thing to do you can enjoy it to plus you do get paid back later.

[integra818]

Originally posted by Oz
Hmm...heres some positive things to do:

-Volunteer to do some work experience in an industry you think you might like to work in. They get your services for free, but if you're good, you get AWESOME references from them when it's time for job.

-Join a gym. I have. Best move ever.

-(from Tangie and me) START SKIING

I'll think about the volunteer thing. Not allowed to goin a gym yet, have to be 18, I'm only 17. CAn't ski, closest mountain to ski is about 5 hours away and I don't drive. Thanks for your suggestions though.

[KatWoman]

I felt the same way as you when I was your age....everyday I wok up wondering when things would change, would I ever have a life, would I ever have a better car (NO) and will I get on in life? Once you hit college age things change ALOT, and for the better. But the thing YOU need to do is change your attitude. If you think negatively, negative things will happen. I had to learn this the hard way. I used to have my own pity parties and feel sorry for myself. I had to get off my ass one day and actually do something about it. And start thinking positively. Once I changed my attitude things started looking up. I still backslide sometimes but have to keep reminding myself how no so far that attitude takes me.

As for your parents not letting you drive....ask them to sit down and chat one of these days. Tell them you are your own person and just because your brother street races doesn't mean you intend to. Tell them that you want to prove you can be trusted with a vehicle. Let them know you want to get a job so you can start learning how to deal with life "in the real world" and can contribute to gas and insurance if they will let you drive. And if they do decide to let you drive and get a job then stick to any promises you make and don't flake out on them.

[integra818]

Originally posted by KatWoman
I felt the same way as you when I was your age....everyday I wok up wondering when things would change, would I ever have a life, would I ever have a better car (NO) and will I get on in life? Once you hit college age things change ALOT, and for the better. But the thing YOU need to do is change your attitude. If you think negatively, negative things will happen. I had to learn this the hard way. I used to have my own pity parties and feel sorry for myself. I had to get off my ass one day and actually do something about it. And start thinking positively. Once I changed my attitude things started looking up. I still backslide sometimes but have to keep reminding myself how no so far that attitude takes me.

As for your parents not letting you drive....ask them to sit down and chat one of these days. Tell them you are your own person and just because your brother street races doesn't mean you intend to. Tell them that you want to prove you can be trusted with a vehicle. Let them know you want to get a job so you can start learning how to deal with life "in the real world" and can contribute to gas and insurance if they will let you drive. And if they do decide to let you drive and get a job then stick to any promises you make and don't flake out on them.

Thanks. The attitude needs to be changed I guess.

I've had many many many chats with my father (about 30) about driving. I told him I was'nt gonna streetrace just becasue my brother did, I told them I can be trusted with a car. I told them everything. Did'nt work. My dad is way too stuborn (spelling?) but my mom wants me to drive because she knows I'mm be much happier if I have more freedom.

Thanks for your suggestions katWoman.

[Prelewd]

your dad has to let go at some point. give him the old: "if you don't let me make my own mistakes, i'm only going to be worse off in the longrun."

[Z Babe]

integra818,

It sounds like your situation is similar to my own when I was your age. My older sister basically "ruined" it for me. Everything was given to her (4 cars, 3 colleges, rent, utilities -- you name it), but she always found some way to screw it up. I was only 1½ years younger than her, but when I turned 16, do you think anyone offered me a car, schooling, housing, etc.? No. Actually, I didn't want their help, because I didn't want them to think I was a begger, or falling into the footsteps of my older sister, who later turned out to be a drug addict . . . and a lesbian. It does take time, but when you decide YOU are going to do something with your own life, nothing can stop you if you're willing to make it happen. Believe me. I made it happen, and I'm live a wonderful life . . . because I made my own life . . . not having to rely on anyone. It can happen . . . as long as YOU make it happen.

In the meantime, while you are still living with your parents, think about what they want, and give it to them. You are under their roof, and it is only respectful to show your appreciation. I believe the best thing you could do to win their trust right now (in light of your brother's prior behavior) is to show them love and respect. Go out of your way to help out around the house, and be very considerate of their feelings, wants and needs. You will be amazed at how they will give you the same in return. Trust is something you must strive on. Without honesty, trust, love and respect, life can be horrible. But, YOU can make it happen.

Also, as far as diverting your attention to "happier" things, what do you enjoy? There's a lot of things you can do that are inexpensive. For example, if you like to write poetry or draw pictures, enter them into a free contest. It would be a great accomplishment for you, something to add to your resume in the future, and something your parents would be proud of.

Show them you're not like your brother . . . that you are loving, caring and responsible. And remember, if you want something bad enough, YOU can make it happen. Have faith in yourself. Your life is what YOU make it to be . . . not what someone else dictates. Happiness comes from within. With a little effort . . . you'll create the happiness you deserve.

Truly best wishes!

[Sierra Six]

Now now, nothing wrong with lesbians.

[Z Babe]

Oh, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean it that way. And, my sister is now one of my best friends. My point was that my family disapproved of it, and even though they did, they gave her anything she wanted, but not me. That's okay, though. Everything I have now is what I worked for -- not given to me, as it was to her. And, I don't hold any grudges. Actually, I am happy for her -- for finding "herself", and not letting anyone else dictate her future (also my previous point). Duh, I guess I didn't explain my point earlier. I'm sorry!

[Sierra Six]

No need to apoligise...I forgot to put this: smiliey next it.

[Z Babe]

Thanks, Sierra. You know, this is also a good example for integra818 . . . simple misunderstandings arise in everyday life. If you're willing to take the time and effort to explain yourself (as Sierria and I just did), life isn't so bad after all. There will be problems that you won't know how to handle, and some might seem impossible to solve. You're not alone, integra818. Everyone has to deal with some sort of problem on a daily basis. Don't give up and feel depressed . . . instead, fight back, and show yourself that YOU CAN do it. That's your "test" in life . . . show that you can handle it. Try to make the right decisions. If you fail, that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes. I'm sure everyone reading this can vouch for that. Just consider it a learning experience, then apply that knowledge to future situations to avoid further failure. As long as you apply your knowledge reasonably, it works. Trust me.

Also, it is very important to show your feelings (as long as you are respectable in your presentation -- think before you speak). Communication is so important, integra818. Thanks again, Sierra. And, please remember integra818, life only gets better . . . as long as you put forth the effort to make it that way. Voice your opinion (like Sierra) and show your parents that you are unique (not like your brother) . . . communicate with them in a respectful manner, and show them the love and respect they deserve. In return, you'll find your happiness. :frog: