Joey Greco I need your help!

[00accord44]

So last night me, my supposed-to-be girlfriend (Rebecca), and her/our friends and family got smashed drunk for the 4th at her house. I drank waaayy too much Hennesy and passed out in the bed by midnight. Its not unusual for us to be up til 5am drinking and hanging out so I wasn't surprised when I woke up out of my sleep at 4am and heard Rebecca and Eddie (her son's uncle) still up and talking. I had the door closed but I could tell they were the only ones still up.

***Keep in mind that in the past few weeks I've noticed that they talk alot and seem to be closer than they would have anyone believe. Also when Rebecca drinks heavy she routinely has no recollection of what happened the next day***

So I continue to listen because I'm both suspicious and a little bit nosey and I hear less talking, then what sounds like kissing, then what sounds like fucking. Now I'm still very drunk and I manage to eventually sit up and walk to the door. By that time the sounds had stopped and when I looked outside no one was in the kitchen (the normal hangout spot), our friend Eron was asleep on the couch, his girlfriend Danielle (rebecca's sister) was gone so it wasn't them I heard. The bathroom door was closed though and it has become a popular sex spot with Eron and Danielle with the giant countertop.

So I got no real proof that anything happened other than the sounds I heard in my drunken state. I guess it could have been the people upstairs that I heard but I've never heard them before and my hearing is pretty damn good. So I'm debating on whether or not I am going to say anything to her about it because it will most definitely start some shit in the house and she probably doesn't even remember. Eddie would never admit to doing anything to me and no one else was around to hear or see. What I did do was immediately begin to take all my shit out of her house (I've been living there ever since I came home from school) and moved back into mom's house cause I can't be in that house anymore without thinking about what might have happened. While I'm walking back and forth out of the house taking shit to my car, I see Eddie walking out of the baby's room and I'm not sure where Rebecca was. I was only concerned with getting outta there asap before I said some things I would heavily regret. I really wanna confront her about it but I don't see the upside of bringing an accusation for which I have no proof other than my drunk ears and personal suspicions.



CLIFF NOTES:
I think I heard my girl having sex with some guy after I passed out last night. Everybody was drunk and she probably doesn't even remember. I have no proof of anything going down, just what I heard through two doors after I woke up from a drunken pass-out. I don't know if I should even confront her on it when I have no evidence other than what I believe I heard.


Any suggestions? The way I see it whether she did or she didn't, the fact that I believe its possible means I don't need to be with her anymore but I don't wanna end our relationship if she didn't even do anything.

[hondacivic99sivtec]

damn that sucks, i feel for you though.

[highteknology]

maybe you could be like, "sorry i passed out so early last night. What time did you go to sleep?" Then see where it goes from there.

[taranaki]

1. LEARN TO HANDLE YOUR LIQUOR
2. Don't leave the woman that you care about alone at parties
3. If you don't trust her not to screw the last man concious, you don't have a relationship.
4.If you come to a car forum asking for advice/sympathy after you've got drunk and jumped to some conclusions, she deserves better than you anyway.

[00accord44]

Originally Posted by highteknology

maybe you could be like, "sorry i passed out so early last night. What time did you go to sleep?" Then see where it goes from there.

I figure I'll start with asking if she even remembers the events of the 4th. We went out last week and I had to outline all the events of the night for her cause she couldn't remember anything that happened after we left the club so I imagine the other night is just as hazy if not more so.

Originally Posted by taranaki

1. LEARN TO HANDLE YOUR LIQUOR

If having too much to drink during holiday celebrations is a free pass to have sex with my girlfriend then I guess I'm screwed. I don't drink liquor too much anymore and I let the Henny sneak up on me. But yes, I shouldn't have had as much as I did if that's the point you're trying to get across

Originally Posted by taranaki

2. Don't leave the woman that you care about alone at parties

She's a big girl and I expect her to be mature enough in her 26 years of life to handle herself appropriately. This wasn't a 'party', this was 5 people hanging out at her house celebrating the 4th and having some drinks

Originally Posted by taranaki

3. If you don't trust her not to screw the last man concious, you don't have a relationship.

Before this, I thought I could, but apparently I can't. Like I said, whether she did or didn't do anything with Eddie, the fact that I'm this suspicious means I probably don't need to continue along this road.

Originally Posted by taranaki

4.If you come to a car forum asking for advice/sympathy after you've got drunk and jumped to some conclusions, she deserves better than you anyway.

This is the relationships forum. If you don't want to hear about members' relationships don't read the threads here. I made this thread for suggestions not sympathy and certainly not for you to bring your typical holier than thou attitude and that chip you carry around on your shoulder. Outside Taranaki, there are people who actually have the desire to carry on relationships with others and not pass judgement on internet car forums... you should meet some of them and maybe you can become one someday.

Thanks for your thoughts but keep the bullshit to yourself in my threads cause I don't need it

[poormillionaire2]

Dude, that sucks. All I know is, from experience, is to confront something that is bothering you. If you don't, and you try to brush it off, it will bug you for a loooonnngg time. Its going to eat you alive until you talk about it. Not neccessarily grilling them about what exactly happened, but just ask what she did after you disappeared.

And I had to read it a second time because I thought it read 'Her Uncle', not, 'Her Son's Uncle'. That would have been really messed up and I would have suggested that you move.

But, I think you need to bring it up, sooner rather than later, before it is too late. Good luck.