it seems i can't do anything right

[quteasabutton]

quick facts: i'm 17 1/2, have a job, senior in high school and still live at home now for the story.. my mom used to be really nice and caring, overall an awesome parent..idk something must've happened to her like 5 years ago cuz thats when things started to really get bad. my dad isn't nice either. my mom has told me she doesn't love me anymore and she fucking hates me and wishes i would get the fuck out of her house. when i was 14 she bought me a cookbook for college... every day i get screamed at for something, often i haven't done anything wrong at all. she turned my cell service off because i refused to give her my phone every night at 10 when she went to bed. partly cuz i was doing bad in school but i'm a big girl and i think i should be let just learn my lesson. i paid for the phone anyways. so i work as a cashier at a petstore making $7.25 an hour, and i am typically a afternoon/night person. so i have to close the store and all that fun stuff. we usually get done late, between 10 and 11 so what time i get home varies. since i have to buy almost all my own food for myself i sometimes go grocery shopping afterwards. since my mom turned off my cell service, i had no way of calling her to tell her i was going to be another 30 minutes late and there was no other phone i could use. but i got screamed at when i got home that i was lying about where i was *i was holding the bag of groceries in my hands in front of her..wtf* and that i should've called and blah blah i'm such a failure and all that. she is constantly telling me i'm ugly and disgusting and an embarrassment and how i'm going to die of all sorts of things and all she's gonna say is i told u so. i drink soda so her and my dad keep telling me that i'm going to die of diabetes after they cut all my limbs off and i go blind. they tell me i've already failed in life so i shoudl just give up and i'll never make it into college *i got a 26 on my ACT, i think i'll be ok anyways* all my friends stopped speaking to me awhile ago for various reasons like they felt they were too good for me and stuff...imagine losing 5 friends and ur bf of almost a year in 2 weeks, yes it sucked. my friend wes has been my best friend for years now and he loves me so much but right now he isn't speaking to me either and yeah that sucks the most...he's always there to tell me someone cares about me when my parents punish me for things i didnt' do *they've made up stuff i've done and then punished me for it, it's so dumb* i also have to buy all my own clothes and save for a new car and college. i pay for my own gas and that's totally fair and fine with me. i'm not counting on my parents paying for college cuz if they will or not depends on their mood. yesterday my dad told me if i want to sound stupid all i have to do is open my mouth and he sure as hell isn't paying for college for someone as dumb as me who just wastes their life..i don't. i get in trouble for going out and doing stuff and then i get in trouble and they make fun of me and call me a loser with no friends and that everyone hates me if i stay home so i dont get yelled at for going out. if i do my hw i get yelled at for being busy with something, if i try and do w/e they want me to do my hw doesn't get done. i think my hw is more important than me cleaning the kitchen cuz they didn't feel like doing it. i help around the house when i can, i am always cleaning things up and picking up stuff. i'm a good girl, i don't go out and party EVER, i've never drank and never smoked. i'm just sick of being told i suck and that everyone hates me. my brother is 16 and my parents let him do anything he wants, he gets away with everything and it pisses me off. every morning before school he dicks around and then when i want to leave he has like 18 more things to do and then i get in trouble for getting mad cuz i'll be late. the last like 9 months or so i've been hooking up/hanging out with guys a few years older than me just to get away and be with someone that at least seemed like they cared about me. that's not the kind of girl i want to be. i want to meet a nice guy and be happy...any suggestions on how to fix all that i've fucked up?
p.s. i heart 2.2 straight six!

[2.2 Straight six]

sound like everythings fallin apart. i wish i had a magic remedy for it. i think you're parents need to grow up about all this shit. if it feels right to you tell them once they can't work they'll need someone to support them. it sound like you brother's unable to do that, leaving just you. tell them if they're gonna be like that to you then its an eye for an eye. when they cant support themselves and look to you, tough shit.

i know how you feel about work, i've stopped drinking an smoking, i cant get my work done. twice a week i go without sleep to keep up with work, my friends aren't talking to me either so i can relate to that an empathise with you. i can see that you're the most mature of you family, providing for yourself at 17 is a big thing to do, i know i couldnt easily do that.

if you can, without havine worse consequeces, confront your parents, tell them that they're hiding the failure of your brother by trying to find faults in you, hence the bullshit about you doing stuff wrong. tell them that they'll rely on you one day an you can turn them down, and they'll realise that they have no options left, given if you brother doesn't make anything of/for himself.

but i dont really know, i've done bad shit in my life an now i just want to help others, but i dont have a magic remedy, just think about stuff an see what you best option is, you have to feel the situation before doing something, if you confront them make sure they cant turn it around an do something mroe impacting to you.

i heart you too.

[quteasabutton]

no my parents aren't alcoholics are drug users or anything like that. it kinda makes me wonder how they both make the huge salaries they do being so stupid and ignorant. like last year before i got my own laptop with wireless internet, i wasn't allowed on the internet for internet homework. they'd be like oh, that's just too damn bad i guess you should've planned better. so then i'd have to go to school the next day and try and explain to my teacher why my hw wasn't done. just 9 more months and then i can leave for college. i hate it when i say i hate living here and then someone will respond oh no u don't mean that u really do love your family..um bullshit i do, what do they know about what's going on anyways? so if ur one of those people that says that..don't

[quteasabutton]

argh this is sooo stupid. i've been in my room all day doing homework while my mom took my brother out shopping to look at motorcycles and now he's spent the rest of the day watching tv and playing video games. he doesn't even have his license anyways. so now i have to clean the entire kitchen which is a disaster from the rest of my family, not me, cuz i don't eat in my house. grrr for unfair things like this.

[MBTN]

Hang in there a bit longer and when you're 18 move out. Got any friends or other relatives you can live with? Sounds like you need to just leave if your parents are going to put you down like that constantly. You don't have to put up with that. Be strong and keep focused, you can make it.

[imtheoneandonlyD]

Parents can be pretty cruel sometimes. Just hang in there til your old enough to get out on your own. It sounds like your pretty responsible from your first post. Just save up until your ready to move out and then just do it. Dont let them know about it or anything, just spring it on them one day. I hope everything works out for you. If you need someone to talk to my AIM is in my profile thing, im a pretty good listener. Sometimes its easier to talk to people you dont know. Good luck.

[351Cougar]

It seems like parents turn into assholes when their days of being able to control you are numbered. Look on the brightside you got 6 months left, me, I've got exactly 9 months lefts. My parental units new thing is to think they can take away my keys for the car I pay for, pay insurance for, pay for registration and everything. They want to act like the parent so bad when they wanna punish me but when it comes down to I need clothes, food, etc. they're never there. But anyways, keep your head up, youre almost out.

[Oz]

I heart you.

Internet cyber love at it's best.







"Blah blah blah, I never get anything done on time and my PARENTS, like, THINK I need an attitude adjustment!! WOWz0R!?!?? My 16 year old brother gets to do EvEryThInG! the last like 9 months or so i've been hooking up/hanging out with guys a few years older than me just to get away.............................................. ...................."



Oz

[quteasabutton]

r u making fun of me again oz... or just askin for a hookup?

[highteknology]

if you really want to you could probably emancipate yourself now. check into your local laws.the problem with some legal systems is that it would take longer than to go into effect then waiting till you turn 18. either way, if your parents don't help you with anything, why should you help around the house? that's the way i see it.

start trying to talk to your friends again. sometimes things come up with them that they need to deal with. i don't know though.

i'm sure things will start looking up for you. you seem like a good person. keep your head up and it will work out.

[quteasabutton]

i've tried talking to them, invited them over, called them and stuff. in the end i've just discovered they're not very nice people. one of them is so obessed with her bf nothing else exists to her, they are each other's life. plus she's nasty. another one thinks she's better than everyone else and is a huge bitch. the last one of my best friends that meant a lot to me now hangs out with girls larger than her and uglier than her cuz they worship her...just kiiiiinda shallow. they'll be nice to me when no one else is there but if other people are around i don't exist. i don't need to talk to girls that act like that. lately i've made friends with one of the most popular girls in school and we hang out and talk and she's really fun and introducing me to other really popular girls. so yup things are workin out now.

[Twizted_3KGT]

Yay, you're gonna be popular! ... I hate that mentality. lol


I got through school just fine without trying to be popular, most of the popular girls from my class (3-4 years later) are now pregnant, fat, strippers, or have some kind of major issues...it's kinda funny cuz they were always such bitches to everyone, and sad cuz I was cool with them.

As to your family situation, sounds like one of my ex-gf's...except she would get all that + get beat by her drunken/coked up dad (not to mention she was raped by him when she was younger). If it's really that bad, it's best to call social services and get out.

My advice is, don't become that vulnerable slut that sleeps around with different guys pretending to be ok and happy when your heart is really empty. Cuz then you'll start drinking, doing drugs, or kill yourself...and thats not all that good of an idea. I've seen too many girls go through the same exact thing and end up the same exact way.

[2.2 Straight six]

come live in london here, you can move out an live by yourself at 16, the coulcil should/often will give you free council housing there's a minimum wage of like $7.35/hour or something. an we have the funky milk bottles.

i've had mates with similar problems, one just hates homelife an her family is like the same to her, tried to take her phone away to stop her talking to friends etc...

one was literally ditched when he was 8, went through foster homes an stuff, he was beaten up everyday in one homes between 10-12 before being adopted by another mate's family. he claimed serious revenge on both his bio parents an the bastards that beat him up.

dont do anything stupid though, dont get yourself into a worse situation. if you put up with the shit, on like your 18th birthday just get your stuff in the night, put it in the car an leave a note tellin them you've gone. leave it at that dont tell them.

an OZ, come on man. she's goin through a lot of shit. how would you like it to be in her position, im not flamin you but its like you dont care at all about other when this shit happens.

i dont think she needs an attitude adjustment, if you read it you'd see she's way ahead of some for her age, she's got a job. works damn hard for school an everything.

an the "i heart you" isn't exactly cyber love, i know her outside of AF. so dont think this is a rant defending somone i dont know.

[2.2 Straight six]

Originally Posted by Oz

Internet cyber love at it's best.

jealous are we ? not gettin enough love eh oz ?

[Toksin]

Originally Posted by 2.2 Straight six

come live in london here, you can move out an live by yourself at 16, the coulcil should/often will give you free council housing there's a minimum wage of like $7.35/hour or something. an we have the funky milk bottles.

i've had mates with similar problems, one just hates homelife an her family is like the same to her, tried to take her phone away to stop her talking to friends etc...

one was literally ditched when he was 8, went through foster homes an stuff, he was beaten up everyday in one homes between 10-12 before being adopted by another mate's family. he claimed serious revenge on both his bio parents an the bastards that beat him up.

dont do anything stupid though, dont get yourself into a worse situation. if you put up with the shit, on like your 18th birthday just get your stuff in the night, put it in the car an leave a note tellin them you've gone. leave it at that dont tell them.

an OZ, come on man. she's goin through a lot of shit. how would you like it to be in her position, im not flamin you but its like you dont care at all about other when this shit happens.

i dont think she needs an attitude adjustment, if you read it you'd see she's way ahead of some for her age, she's got a job. works damn hard for school an everything.

an the "i heart you" isn't exactly cyber love, i know her outside of AF. so dont think this is a rant defending somone i dont know.

I wanna hear how your mate got serious revenge.