Me=Problem talking to girls

[speedphreak]

I got a job at a day camp as a counselor for the summer. There are so many hot girls who work there. I just have a problem talking to them. I have no idea what it is. Most girls think guys just want in their pants, and thats it. I guess maybe its the rejection? I don't know. Any serious tips people? I would appreciate it.


-Chris

[drewh4386]

No matter what anybody else says in this thread, be yourself. Kinda frustrating being somebody your not.

[Oz]

Do NOT put hot girls on a pedestal. Always put yourself above the girl. Be confident and outgoing and completely non-phased by whatever reaction you get.

Do not talk about yourself any more than giving little tidbits of info out at a time, ie. a teaser to get them interested in finding out more.

[quteasabutton]

i agree, just be yourself. a girl who doesn't like who you are isn't worth being with anyways. just start out small too, you don't have to blow her away and wow her with your first conversation. show her what a nice, cool guy you are and trust me, she'll definetely want to talk to you more. and just like oz said, don't put us ladies up on a pedestal. as amazing as we are, it'll only make us seem less attainable, which is not what you want. try thinking of a few things you could say to them beforehand, that way you feel a little more prepared. maybe even practice saying it on ur way to work to get the jitters out. w/e works for you. so go get'em tiger

[Toksin]

Girls aren't that scary, they're just normal people. Just talk to them like normal people. Ozzie's right on the money.

[corning_d3]

Well... if it was for the summer only around women whom you prob. never see again, i say..Damn, your lucky....

[kenwood guy]

Originally Posted by corning_d3

Well... if it was for the summer only around women whom you prob. never see again, i say..Damn, your lucky....

I agree odds are your going to find one girl you can get along with more then the rest the key is to talk to them all

[highteknology]

if you need an ice breaker, and it sort of sounds like you do, just talk about your jobs. you and the girls obviously like doing it, well maybe you don't, but either way you are all doing the same job. talk about the kids whatever, it will eventually blossom into something better

[fredjacksonsan]

Look them in the eye while talking to them. There's enough people looking them in the chest. Not only will they appreciate it, but you'll be less distracted by their assets.

[speedphreak]

Thanks for the insightful information guys/gals! Yea, the icebreaker is the tough part for me, I'm sure I can overcome that. Maybe it will be easier when work actually starts up. And I'll stop putting the pussy up on the pedistal...lol

-Chris

[highteknology]

Originally Posted by speedphreak

I'll stop putting the pussy up on the pedistal...lol

that's exactly what i thought of when i first read this also, lol. someone mentioned looking them in the eye. this is so true. partly because everyone looks at their chests but i also think that in today's and age not enough people look each other in the eye. i've been talking to girls that look away from me when i talk to them because i look them in the eye. it's all about eye contact, even if you are going to initiate something look them in the eye. i feel that if you have eye contact then you can make something a little more because it shows that they are somewhat interested in you, especially when it comes to first impressions.

as far as ice breakers. even if you don't have the lengthiest conversation you can just start by sayin Hey or What's Up or something like. not only will help you break the ice but it will also get them to notice you the more you say stuff to them. this way you don't look like a COMPLETE fool when you just start talking to them out of the blue after a few weeks.

[speedphreak]

Ok cool. Yeah, I guess it would be weird if I just started tallking to her like weeks into the program. My goal tomorrow, is to just say, "hey, whats up?"

I forgot to mention this before. I don't know how significant it is but. The first day, the girl I found attractive, kept looking back at me (I think)...Well, she had wandering eyes in my direction. Next, she was walking out of the bookstore at school with 2 of her friends...I, as a gentleman, held the door for them, and she was the only one to say thank you...I dunno if it was just me, but it kinda sounded different, I don't know. I, in turned said your welcome. So, thats where I am right now.

-Chris

[highteknology]

just keep doin what you're doin. it is different for all people and i'm sure others will tell you differently. but for me, i can tell when someone is interested by the kind of eye contact. they may be wondering, but if she keeps on looking at you then there is probably some sort of interest there.

when i say interest though, it does not necessarily mean a romantic, intimate, whatever you want to call it. i simply mean that they want to get to know you more. that's when you start the conversations.

maybe a nice ground breaker would be something like if you two are having lunch (i have no clue how summer camp works cause i never went) but you could start talking and come up wit some BS like "man this is tiring, making sure these kids are having fun" if you are split into groups and stuff ask her about her group is doing and if she has ever done work like this before.

some people say don't act like a gentleman, act like a dick. for some reason girls like this, but i always hold the door and stuff like that. i don't go to the extremems of putting their napkin on their lap at dinner or some crazy stuff like that. but it's just polite to hold the door, or open it for them. just keep doin what you're doin

[quteasabutton]

its not that girls like assholes. ok well some do but personally i think they're weird. it's that those guys appear to us as strong, masculine, confident, outgoing and know what they want. those are very attractive characteristics so girls tend to gravitate towards guys like that. as far as bad boys go, girls love to have a wild good time and those boys help us bring that side of ourselves out. i <3 my bad boy.

what i'm saying is, be a gentleman. i remember one guy opened the car door for me once and i was shocked. there are so few guys that still have those gentlemanly manners and that's too bad so be assertive and try and be confident but not an outright dickhead to her.

[Oz]

Oh GOD guys, the ice breaker is SO FRIGGING EASY - compliment them!

"Wow, have you had a new haircut recently? It looks great"

"That blue shirt really suits you"

Etc. Trust me, compliments will get you everywhere. Just don't sound fake and cheesy when delivering them. And make sure you SMILE.