is marriage an obsolete concept?

[taranaki]

With the church playing an ever diminishing role in public life,and laws covering marital property rights now being extended to cover common-law and same-sex relationships,and the spiralling divorce rate,marriage as a 'normal' behaviour pattern seems to be increasingly endangered....will it reach the point where it just becomes a novelty?

[Moppie]

Yes.

[TerminalVelocity]

I think its already there...with marrages I no longer see any point to it, what once had honor, tradations, lore...not is just something people do.

[carnut]

Personnally, I don't see myself getting married again. The first was very bad and I don't want to relive it. I have some really good friends and of them only one is happily married and retired. My married friend and his wife have a very happy relationship and laugh together all the time. I can be who I am with my other friends and we all have a good laugh together.

[KatWoman]

It depends...you will always have the few couples who are committed to each other, work together, and communicate well to each other, keeping the relationship intact.

I think some things that are ruining what marriage should be are:

1. lack of communication
2. financial problems
3. issues of past and letting go (i.e. growing up in a broken family)
4. infidelity
5. inability to forgive when mistakes are made
6. religious clashing - when the partners come from different religious backgrounds.

I can probably think of a hundred other things, but these are the big ones that stick out in my mind.

[Lizard King]

I think marriage is only as good as what it means to YOU. If you have strong feelings about the virues of marriage then anybody else's opinion is meaningless.

Personally I hold marriage in high regard but my marriage will be free of any religious meaning. I see it as a sacred bond.

[YogsVR4]

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[higgimonster]

Marriage is important to me and i see it as almost a rite of passage into a new life shared with someone who is your best friend and lover.
but i don't feel that marriage is very sacred among many people. I used to work for a couple who had been together for almost 15 years but never got married. they might as well be but they just don't see a need to celebrate their love through a ritual.
I go both ways on the issue i guess. i think that in the future you will not so much be married but will have a life partner (like in same sex marriages).
the morei think about it the more i go back and forth between what i want for myself and what will most likely end up happening (marriage becomeing obsolete)

[Grendel]

I can't see myself ever getting married... I wouldn't want to be "stuck" with someone my whole life...

There is the whole divorce thing, but even if you do get a divorce, they still get to take your stuff and all that...

-Grendel

[Steel]

remember "Who wants to marry a millionaire?"

Yeah, that's what its aobut these days.

I spit on the world. Im moving to Mars. Fuck this wicked beat shit.

[Damien]

Originally posted by Steel
remember "Who wants to marry a millionaire?"

Yeah, that's what its aobut these days.

I spit on the world. Im moving to Mars. Fuck this wicked beat shit.

I agree with steel....moving to mars that is , but marriage is actually something that is definently going to wind up gone.

There will always be marriages, just it'll become something of a whole new concept.

The two poeple that get married muct believe in it's original foundings for it to actually mean anything...but if just one person does, well your f****d

[speediva]

I have come to call myself the "White Minority." My parents are and have always been married for the last 30-some years (no, I don't know exactly how long--another story).

I pray that one day my marriage will mean something to me and my lover such that he and I both share a solid, natural relationship "for as long as we both shall live."

[tazdev]

its good to know that some pople out there are not as disillusioned as others.

[taranaki]

Originally posted by tazdev
its good to know that some pople out there are not as disillusioned as others.

life is all flowers and chocolate hearts.









too bad the chocolate stains,and the flowers wilt.

[TerminalVelocity]

blah, lets leave this post at that