ex-girlfriends...make up your damn mind!

[Suislide]

so most of you who come into the forum know the many trials and tribulations i have been through with my latest ex girlfriend.

she cheated on me twice, dumped me for another guy etc. etc.

when she dumped me, she was a cold hard bitch. i wanted her back so badly, and for a while i would call her every night, crying, asking her why she dumped me and why she won't take me back. i even puked one time over the phone when she came clean about the fact that she left me for another guy. her response to that was "ok you're puking over me and that's too much for me to handle, goodbye" and hung up.

every time i saw her, she made me feel like shit. so i decided (once i realized what she was doing and got over the idea of getting her to take me back) that i'd be better off without her completely. i stopped calling her, stopped seeing her, stopped thinking about her.

during this time, she got bad. she's graduated, but she went back for a semester to upgrade marks. well, she dropped out. and she doesn't have a job yet. she says she's looking, but i don't know how hard. she sleeps all day, and what does she do at night? smokes weed. almost every damn day. i admit, i do partake in it every once in a while and i don't have a problem with other people who do. but to do it every damn day is just sad.

so out of the blue this week, she starts calling me again. trying to act all cutesy and innocent. i had none of it. i am sick of her shit so i acted cold over the phone.

last friday i had to pick my friend Rob up to go to a party. so he tells me to come in for a second. i go into his room with him, and he's talking to her on MSN. he doesn't tell her i'm there. she's going on and on about how she wants me back, she regrets what she did, things aren't going well with the new guy, she misses what we had etc. etc....i thought to myself "tough shit".

she wanted to see me on Wednesday, she said. so i said i'd call her back. i didn't. i went to a snowboard shop with one of the guys from Suislide instead. she calls me while i'm there. "why didn't you call me today?" me: "i don't know. sorry." her: "well, call me tomorrow and we'll talk some more".

so i hadn't even woken up today, let alone put any thought into calling her, when SHE calls ME. at like 11am (which was early considering i'd been out until 3 the night before). acts all cutesy wootsy, asking me what was up and telling me about her life as if i gave a damn anymore.

then she asked me about my plans for tonight (friday), and said she'd heard i was having people over (i'm having a party). i said "yeah". she said "can i come?" i thought to myself "wtf", then said, bluntly as i could, "no."

she started crying, and asked me why.

and that's when i got mad.

i flew off the handle for maybe 10 minutes about how she's trying to patch up the mistakes that she made, and how she thinks she can just come back and act cute and things will be normal after she treated me like shit for 2 fucking months now, ever since we broke up. i told her about how she made me feel like shit every time i saw her after we broke up, and asked her why the fuck she would think that i would want her to be there tonight if she makes me feel that way? she said she's changed. i said i don't care. she cried some more, and i yelled some more, about how she had 2 weeks after she broke up where i was GROVELLING AT HER FUCKING FEET, BEGGING her to take me back. and she was an emotion-less bitch to me for those 2 weeks. i told her she had her fucking chance, and now i'm having too much fun in the single life, too much fun not having to care about her any more, and how i don't want her back for a long time.

she cried a bit and said nothing, and i said "look i need to get back to sleep. i need to work tonight. goodbye". she said "i love you". and i sat, silent for a second, said "goodbye" and hung up.

WHAT the FUCK is wrong with some women?!?!?! this bitch has fucked me around SO MUCH, and tonight i found out that she's cheated on me more times then i know, and has done alot since we broke up too.

good fucking riddance.

[-Davo]

holy shit man.

That's fucked. I've never had an ex call me back, I'm quite thankfull though.

I just have to say, I hope it works out for you.

But one question, am I right to assume you don't have any feelings for her anymore?

[Robs71Nova]

I realize I dont know you all that well but I figured I'd post my . I don't know what kinda of person you are but this is what I"D do. I would make her a booty call. It seems to me like you are successful while she is not, and shes just using you for what you have. If you aren't into making her a "booty call" Id take her back, go out for two weeks, the cheat on her and make sure she finds out about it. Let her know how it feels to be cheated on. If you cheat on her and she still want's to be with you then maybe she has changed somewhat and you two can talk about having a real relationship again. Either way im sorry to hear about your problems and I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do.

Rob

[Suislide]

Rob, your posts are always excellent in this forum.

you're mostly right about her wanting me for what i have. i went over to her house about a week after we broke up, and while she was 100% cold to me in every other way, she said "damn i wish i wasn't on my rag so we could have sex...i'm so horny."

so she still wanted to have sex with me...but didn't want anything else to do with me.

while that may be a compliment in some ways ( ), it's definitley a sting in other ways.

making her a booty call would be an option. but my good friend (who she also knows and apparently tells everything to) has told me that she's done alot of stuff since we broke up, and has cheated on me more times then i know.

i think i'll get the full story from him before i go having sex with her again. if she got around as much as he says she did, then i don't really want to touch her again.

also, i have a few girls that i'm interested in that might develop into something. i'm not going to hurt my chances with them just to have sex with my desperate, slutty ex girlfriend.

Davo- you would be right in assuming i have no romantic feelings towards her anymore. none what-so-ever. her being a total bitch to me after we broke up turned off every feeling i had for her. and, seeing the downward spiral that she's in now, i'm not even sure i'd want to be her friend anymore either.

[-Davo]

I know how you feel about the whole "cheated more times than I know". My ex, whomb I dated for 2.2 years cheated 5 times, and I found out when she came to me for 300 bucks, while I was willing to give it to her, the reason was because she was needing an abortion...she kept trying to tell me how it was mine, but I hadn't had sex with her in almost 6 months (she moved 2 hours away).

[Fully_Sick]

Wow man, It would be a battle for me to even tell any of my g/fs that I smoked weed..

Yet she smoked all the time, that is some phat shit

on the real though

Life is too short to be crying over someone who disrespects you by dumping you. So move on get a smarter and more sophisticated girl then walk by her one night, and make her feel bad for dropping you!

nuff said shizzle

[ledhedsymbols]

Had a similar situation myself. We had been dating for almost two years and I was deployed to the Persian Gulf for ten months (please hold the Village People Jokes.) I came back and it took all of 48 hrs for her to dump me square on my ass. I went through many of the same things that you did (minus the puking on the phone.) Almost crawled into a bottle and didn't come out again. It's been a year now, and a couple of months ago she started calling me again. In all honesty though, I was (and still am a little) seriously hung on this girl. In the past year, I got the full story of what happened while I was away. Ultimately, she traded the drawbacks of what I was doing for a living and stability, for someone who was convenient.

Here's my take on the similarities between the two situations. Some people never realize what they have until it's taken away from them. It stings even more when it's their own damn fault. The bad news is that you have to ask yourself if it would happen again? Usually the answer is yes. As soon as things are better, she will forget all about it and start doing the same things that she did before. Do yourself a favor and get her out of your life. Don't allow yourself to be an emotional casualty because of her, and don't allow her in to wreak havoc in your life. It's just not worth it. Booty call, "friend" or whatever she might want, it's all a sham to get what she thinks she wants/needs. Nobody needs a selfish bitch to screw up their lives. Especially since you know what her stripes look like.


Am I bitter myself? Yep, just a little bit. I haven't lost faith in the fairer of our species, but I'll be damned if I'll be so wreckless with my heart again.


Micah

[ghostguy6]

Send her a black rose, perferably dried and wilted. As far as i can tell when girls (some but not all) break up they tend to play alot of mind games that only end up hurting us more than the inital breakup did. My sugestion is play games with her head too. You said you dont want her back, so stick to that princible. If she smokes weed everyday there is a chance she may be addicted to some other form of drug and just wants you for your money to aid her habit. From what i know about you, you sound succesful so it is a possibility I can tell you this though, everytime one of my ex.'s has called me or something its usually a set up or they want something from me. My advice is to move on and get over her as soon as possible. If she proves to you that she is totally sincere about getting back with you, sit her down and talk EVERYTHING out, but you stay in control of the conversation, not her.

[-Josh-]

Holy shit man, you're experiencing almost the same shit i am with my ex.... Only 30 minutes ago she calls me and asks if i want to do something with her this weekend and she always calls and emails me trying to get back with me.... I just tell her i dont care about her opinions anymore and that she means absolutely nothing to me(she's dead to me). Makes her cry but it was her mistake and she'll have to live with it. You ever wanna talk i'm on AIM.

[YogsVR4]

I know the type. You hurt her in the harshest way possible - she now knows that she doesn't have you wrapped around her little finger. She's more upset about losing that control then (sorry to say) losing you.

You did the right thing. You got that shit off your chest. Confronted the deamon woman and now you just have to brush her next few advances off.

[Mediocrity]

Good job man. I'm really proud of you.

[Raz_Kaz]

I would advise you to keep silence between the two of you. Starting anything, yes even a botty-call, can give her the wrong signals. Be careful with whatever your doing, women can be crazy little things

[publicenemy137]

wow what a bitch. Good thing you got your revenge. Don't ever talk to her again. Associating yourself with people like that is never a good thing. Start anew, and be glad that that bitch is now out of your life. Let her back in and she may (and probably) will hurt you again one way or another

[twospirits]

Good for you Brian, I am glad you are over her and are doing the right thing. Like others have said, don't even say a peep to her. Its not worth it anymore and it might give her the idea that you do want her etc.

Again, you did the right thing,

This buds for you (or whatever you drink)

TS out

[WickedNYCowboy]

Yeah. I know exactly what you are going threw. BUT what I did was.... this lead her on when she asks you out again slam her in the face with a big no. Sounds kind of immature but that would be such a slap in her face she'd be done with you. I have did that route and havent heard a word in weeks.