My life is being dictated.

[-Davo]

i'm only 17, i just graduated highschool, last september, had my final exams october to november, and i can't remember december.

First, I start year 11 (2nd last year of highschool, I live in sydney, BTW) my mum trying to get me to work 24/7 on my school work

so i don't. I have BETTER things to do, like my music and drool over lamborghini's all day long (it helps in motivation)

Then year 12 starts, begining of 2003, and i swear to god, 4-5 times a week, my mum won't stop pissing me off with the following lines: "SO WHAT R U GONG 2 DO AT UNIVERSITY?" assuming that I was going in the first place... My reply is as follows: "I don't want to go to university"

her responce?

"You have to go, so what are you going to study?"

My responce??? "I'M NOT GOING!!!"

She says: "YES YOU ARE!"

See my point? See the trend?

for 5-6 months, this went on 4-5 and sometimes MORE PER week...

FINALLY she asks me why i don't want to go (by this time i had thought of a good excuse) and i explain that i'm sick of school now, i don't do any work in school as it is, what the hell makes you think i'll do work at uni? i'm SICK of school! i HATE it! i will NOT like university! I'm telling you now! I'm sick of learning, i want to have a break, get some sleep, and life live just a little bit before i make any life long commitments, plus, what the hell makes you think i'll use ANY degree that i come out with?"

she says "i will not let you waste your life away, i'm sending you to uni!"

for 8 months this went on, her dictating my life, telling me what I will be doing, whether i like it or not.

So what does she do? She gets ENROLEMENT forms, and a huge 600 page book about the differant courses, which she sat me down and literally went through the differant courses, trying to sell me the idea how much fun i'll have with such lines as "won't what be interesting! that sound like fun! oh wow! that sounds soo great! imagine the possibilities!"
Finally, september 13th, i give up. I gave up fighting, i already had a stable job offering me endless possibilities, and the only job that'll make me actually wealthy (long story), but mum couldn't see it, she was blinded by her ignorance, and her believe that university is the ONLY key to sucess! she's under the impression that if i want a lamborghini i'll have to waste 3 years of my life and use a degree, WELL IF IT'LL MAKE ME RICH, WHERE ARE YOUR MILLIONS MUM? YOU HAVE A UNI DEGREE IN MICROBIOLOGY! WHERE'S THE PORSCHE OUT THE FRONT? HUH! TELL ME!!

Goddam it, so i gave up as i said, i went through that book, and i picked out a bachelor of creative arts: sound composition and production, i'm a musician so it'll be mildly interesting for me.

I enroll.

Here's how to get into university: go good in highschool, and get a UAI (University Admission Index) ranked from 0-100. The highly smart people who work non-stop get 90+...It's basically a rank, a number you're given, and what ever number you get is your rank in the state to other people, it depends on subjects you took and how good at them you were.
To do Information Technology, the UAI was 90.2, if you got under that (that's 90% of the people) you can't do it.
My arts degree was 80.5, so in order to NOT get accepted, i needed a lower uai that 80. I got 56.9, i'm dissapointed in that, but that basically ment that no UNI for me! So i'm happy
90 people sat the hsc in my school, 3 got over 90, that's showing the odds.

then mum turns to me, and says 'oh, there's allways tafe' so we go through the same arguments about tafe, I DON'T WANT TO GO THERE EITHER!!!!!!

At this point, i'm already earning more than my mum in one week than what my mum earns in a fortnight, but she thinks it's "not right for me" as if she knew in the first place!

Then january 10th, or what ever, a monday, the university's first round of offers came in, and i got accepted! Which basically meant from now i'll be ditching, literally, 200k to earn NO money, and come out with a degree i don't even WANT! Or use!

This pisses me off because that forces me part time, and i'm only doing 1/10th of the work i can do, and because of that, i'm not earning any money, and now mum is forcing me to pay for my own f'king transport!
Which will end up costing me 12k in 3 years, i don't even have that much saved up!

Here's the stupid part, she said she'll pay for my fee's, so we get the friggen bill 2 weeks back (mid febuary) of 3 thousand bucks for this year alone, she looks at it and screams "I CAN'T AFFORD THIS!" which is basically forcing me in a situation to pay for my OWN F'KING FEE'S FOR SOMETHING I DON'T EVEN WANT!!!

Goddamn this pisses me off just thinking about it

don't get me wrong, i like uni, and i like the course, but lets be realistic, I WONT USE IT!!!

not to mention 3 years of no income, having to pay for my own transport, and if i'm lucky, mum will pay 1/2 my fees.

i'm in the 3rd week of uni, and already, i've spent 30 bucks on transport., and had to fill my car up twice because i've had to drive down, that's 50 bucks, so in total, my 3 week outcome is 80 bucks. and this week isn't over yet.

goddamn it.

[burnM]

So what's this job with all of these possibilities?
You've got my attention now...
I think your mom's heart is in the right place. She doesn't want to see her kid end up with nothing.(that's what I can gather from this)I find that most parents pick at their kids like that that out of love.
On the other hand though, I can see where you're coming from if you think that you can do just fine with the job that you have now.
I don't know what I can possibly say to help, but venting like you just did always helps me to see things more clearly.
I hope you can figure something out...Best of luck to you

[Toksin]

Find Oz. He lives in Sydney. Get pissed with him. Life will seem better. Carry on with uni with positive attitude..

[Oz]

What uni are you at and what suburb of Sydney do you live in?

What is this magic job you speak of?

[YogsVR4]

The reality is you are an adult now (at least in the legal sense). If you really don't want to go, get your ass out of there and do what you want on your own. Otherwise you're pissing into the wind.













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[-Josh-]

You graduated, your not going to college, you make more than your mom...And you haven't moved out ... Time to take the high road and get an appt by yourself or with a friend. Or live with Oz, i'm sure he wouldn't mind the extra company

[stealthj]

get a friend and move out with him,

mum is not listening ot you

[Oz]

Originally Posted by Z28Josh

You graduated, your not going to college, you make more than your mom...And you haven't moved out ... Time to take the high road and get an appt by yourself or with a friend. Or live with Oz, i'm sure he wouldn't mind the extra company

Fuck off! I don't need another whingeing sponge.

[MagicRat]

There is nothing wrong with taking a year or two off and working through what you want. I took 4 years between high school and university to discover I could get NOWHERE without higher education. The right university degree is a ticket to a much better job, more $$$, more confidence, more chicks that you thought possible and all around a much better life.
However, when people told me this at 17 I had no time for it. At 23, I thought it was a great idea.

[sameintheend01]

goto school. Not for the education, but for the experience. It is totally different than high school. I'm having the time of my life here and i'm at a difficult school.

[jon@af]

Sooo....your pissed because, even though you say you have a job that has endless potential, your mother is hounding you because she wants you to be successful in life and have the best life you can. You're right, she's a bitch for caring.

[Steel]

Yeah, college is fucking stupid. I could not believe the amount of idiots there. It's like everyone got hit with with stupid righ before they arrived. Including me . But now I'm out, and i'm no longer miserable!

[-Davo]

hehe, thanks guys for the support, i know what mum's trying to do, and i appreciate it, don't get me wrong, it's just that she's forcing me to do things i don't want, and that annoys me

Originally Posted by Oz

What uni are you at and what suburb of Sydney do you live in?

What is this magic job you speak of?

i'm going to wollongong uni, i live in engadine

i mentioned my work for the reason that i can't spill my guts and not give a legitimate reason, but you start out as a sales rep, and you work your way up through what they call the 'edge program', it's basically an un-controlled promotion, you're given criteria, and all you have to do it do it (which isn't easy) and you get promoted, and get more money, then you are given more criteria, you do that, you get promoted, this happens 5 times i think....i think...
if you work your ass off (i'm talking 10+ hour days, which is actually fun, not a dead-end office job, walking the streets, then traveling around, meeting a lot of people etc) it will take you less than 7 months to become a level 6 rep, or in other words, "regional distributor" that when the big money rolls in...


because i'm at uni, i'm forced part time, which has dramatically reduced the time i can spend looking for work, which means i'm not getting the work, which means i'm not making money...

Please note, it isn't a 'magic job', it's a business that has very good opportunities, and i want to take full advantage of that. I know what i have to do, i just need to go do it. It's like this; if someone said to you, i'll give you a million bucks, just do this, this and this, will you go 'ah, nuh mate, i'll be fine'? and regret not doing it? or will you "carpe diem"? which is what i'm trying to do...Fresh out of highschool, I DON'T want to end up like my bassist, a bloody alcoholic.

Oz, where bout do you live?

[TexasF355F1]

Originally Posted by Steel

Yeah, college is fucking stupid. I could not believe the amount of idiots there. It's like everyone got hit with with stupid righ before they arrived. Including me . But now I'm out, and i'm no longer miserable!

You're right! It's amazing how dumb kids are. Now I'm not saying I'm the brightest kid, but at least I have common sense(which in a lot of ways can get you farther in life than being book smart). I'm the typical lazy college student b/c I really don't give two shits about school really and know i'm going to get hired based on my ability to get along with others easily and am usualy well liked. Plus a lot of high up people I've met working with my dad have made numerous compliments about me to him.

But the kids that piss me off are the ones that ask questions that the prof just answered like 2 seconds before. Pay attention dumb fucks and maybe you won't be as lost as you are.

[Hypsi87]

Man I was the same way as you, I just wanted to get out of school and GTFO of town..... I did that for two years and at the end of that, I wanted to be in school so bad it was not even funny! To get along in life today requires an education beyond highschool. What are you going to do if that job you have goes out of business? Then you are stuck in the world without any skill all you will have is experence at a copany that went out of business. Go to school and get your degree, and get the college experence as well. There are sooooo many people to meet at a college (not to mention the large ammounts of beautiful women that will be there also ) Go there with an open mind . College is soo much different than high school. You don't have to be up at the same time every day. You can pretty much make up your own class schedule. The ammount of accuall assigned homework is almost none. Yea they give you problems to do but, you don't have to do them all. If you can grasp the concepts that the professor is teaching, then you don't have to do the whole thing.