My roomate treats his dad like shit

[TexasF355F1]

I am getting so fucking pissed off right now its unbelieveable! The reason for this is my roomate keeps talking all this shit about his dad. The deal is that his parents got a divorce recently and he keeps saying its his dads fault. The fucked up part is that I've known about it since late May, early June, and he just found out a few weeks ago when the divorce was almost final.

I've known my roomate pretty much my whole life and our dads have been good friends during this time. Well in May my dad saw his at Mail Boxes etc. and he started telling my dad why he had his mail transferred to a seperate mailing address from his house. So before I know it, my dads telling me that my roomates parents are in the process of a divorce and starts telling me all these details. His wife had started fucking with his bank accounts by going through his mail and forging his name. Come to find out my roomates mom is cheating on his dad. That sux b/c sometimes it can be hard to prove. But in this situation there are two keys people who can prove this. One being a private eye and the second being one of our close friends. He happened to be at the gym the same time the guy his mom is having an affair with is there.

My friend proceeds to listen to this guys convo with his buddy. He's going into detail about this affair he's having. And it basically goes into such detail that my friend knew who he was talking about. So I think God put him there at that time for a reason, and I am so thankful for that. Well anyways, so fast forward to when he finds out and he calls me and a few others aside to tell us and we just play stupid about it like we didn't know anything. He just kept saying how it was his dads fault and we kept saying you need to wait till you get everyones story.

My roomate has 2 sisters one 15 and one 20. And the older one has been suspicious of her mom for a while now. Her mom would say she's going on a walk but be all made up and put her hair up. But when she would come home her hair would be down and a mess. She finally confonted her dad and told her dad that she knew something was up and he finally told her since she was smart enough to figure it out on her own. Well she's pretty much been there for the past year and seen what goes on, and my roomate hasn't. But yet he doesn't even take that into account. He keeps thinking his dad is trying to get them on his side but in reality its the mom that keeps saying oh ill buy you this or that. Trying to suck up. His dad is the only one thats worked for the last 22 years while the kids grew up, the marriage lasted 27. Yet he keeps saying his dad is selfish and greedy. And today I over-hear a convo of his saying his dad is lazy and doesn't do shit. Well considering he usually works 12 hours a day 6 days a week, I wouldn't call that doing shit.

My roomate can't even talk b/c he would call his parents to get reimbursed for $1 for a pack of scantrons and whine when he didn't get money for a hair cut when we were in high school. This shits just pissing me off and he has to know the truth but I don't want to say anything unless my good friend who is the proof is there to tell him what he knows. Sorry so long, I'm just really pissed right now. I'm sure i left out a lot but its already long enough.

[sameintheend01]

maybe you should sit down and have a convo w/ your roomie. tell him the truth. Maybe have your dad talk to him to. That might help.

[crayzayjay]

Complicated situation man. If your friend is refusing to see the truth odds are you confronting him will only make matters worse. Sometimes you must just let things be. If he's remotely intelligent he'll see sense.

[TexasF355F1]

Thanks guys. Yea it is a fucked up situation. His dad has given us permission to tell him what we want when we want, provided he keeps bad mouthing him.

I would like to sit down with him, but my other 2 friends have to be there. Especially the one that actually witnessed that guys convo at the gym. He's a smart kid, but when it comes to common sense he's a few tools short of a full set. The biggiest indicator should be that his mom no longer associates with any of his friends moms, just divorced women. That right there is like a big light flashing. The funny thing is that his mom keeps digging herself a deep hole by continuing to lie. She told her youngest daughter to come up here for a weekend. That got me suspicious and her oldest daughter(the one whose figured out whats going on) told me that her mom said she was going to this ladies beach house. Come to find out our friends mom knows the lady and she doesn't have a beach house, she has a lake house. Which if the lights are on then anyone can realize she went down there with her boy toy. He's always talked shit about his dad and mom on occasion. A few years ago we even sat him down and told him to stop being such a prick to his dad and that contrary to what he thinks his dads a hard working great guy. We made him realize for like a minute but then he just keeps talking his mess. Okay thats all for today, everyone have a great one.

[Shiftlock]

Maybe he is just a straight out mammas boy.It will all surface,something like this can't stay hidden forever no matter how hard she tries.