my problem seems to be that i make friends with the girl first, and near me it seems that girls like to date guys that they've only known for a week and know nothing about. then here i come, knowing them for a year, becoming great friends with them and if i ask them out, they say "but it will ruin our friendship". SO?? aren't relationships SUPPOSED to be based on FRIENDSHIP??? and so it doesn't work out and we break up, that doesn't mean i'm never going to talk to her again! she'll still be my friend! i would never see a girl walking down the street and walk up and ask her to date me just because i didn't want to ruin the friendship i have with the girl i truly like. i might think she's hot or other various thoughts (:alien2: ), but i wouldn't be thinking about an actual relationship unless i got to know her and found out if she was right for me or not. it's all way too confusing for THIS guy to work out...