[jpb53]

Yes the female connectors for the relay are small and it is good you did not force the multimeter leads into them. You can spread the pins and cause more damage by doing this. If the relay is clicking then more than likely the contacts in the relay are closing. You have to check slot 30 for the relay and seeif there is power there. Power comes from the battery through a 40 amp fuse in the PDC ( power distribution center). That is the module underhood that has the relays and fuses in it. You canuse something like a small paper clip in the connector as a probe. Just make sure it is small enough and you don't spread the connector.