fyi, i was able to replace the flex pipe with another piece, used a clamp and welded the other end, for 100$ problem solved.
as to the oil leak, its coming out the back side up by valve cover gasket. however, they were just replaced in december. Im replacing the pcv valve today, but i am suspicious sludge is causing it

as there was considerable sludge build up when valve cover gaskets were done. it is building excessive oil pressure in the crank case, i am suspicious this is causing it to lead oil. any thoughts on that theory??