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Originally posted by ozriceboy
Can you get this chicks number through friends of friends type thing? What causes the shy reaction? A fear of what people will think? I'm probably no help at all because I'm as extroverted as they come - I'm just genuinely interested as to what triggers the shyness?
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Well, could get her number through friends, but I just can't do that. If I'm going to get her number, I need to get it from her. Even though I have it upstairs in my room on the Employee List, I need HER to write it down or say, "well you have the list dont you?" I know I'd be MUCH MUCH MUCH happier if I did just call her, but it just doesnt seem right. And I talk to people that se goes to school with, but I cant really tell them to tell her that I want her email address, because then I feel like I'm 10. A fear of what people think? Don't think so. Not consciously anyways, could be sub-conscious though. I would have to say that the shyness is triggered by lack of experience. I've always been the perused, not the pursuer.
As for faking self-confidence. I usually can, no-problem. A nifty little thing I read somewhere abouth this, I forget where, but here is the general idea of what it said:
"Think of an emotion you would like to be able to put yourself into whenever you want. Think of a time you felt that emotion (in this case, confidence.) Now while your thinking of how this emotion felt, do a unique movement of some sort. For instance, think of a time you were extremely happy and how it felt then. Now while your thinking about how it felt, you could inhale deeply, then exhale through pursed lips while you blink rapidly. Practice this excersise. It associates that particular combination of movements with happiness. Now whenever you want to feel happiness, go through those motions and think about how it felt that one time. It will put you into whatever emotion you chose it to. Its almost like having a push-button for that emotion."
I've done this, and I have to say, it really does work great. But this time... I don't know, I just froze. I'm going to go kick things now because my hands hurt.
