Hey its all good, I don't know what happened, I would have done the same thing. Yea I agree, I was just trying to put all my problems down to one lol. Anyway we picked up a new starter last night b/c the one we had was fried, and it still won't even crank.
We've jumped the starter, by a) touching the two bolts together (the power bolt directly from the battery and the ground from the solenoid) and b) the power bolt from the battery and the smaller wire that clips onto the solenoid. and c) the solenoid wire and the ground wire.
with scenario A the starter spins but thats it. nothing else happens. with scenario C the starter makes a grinding noise. and with scenaior B we get nothing. I'm leaning on a bad wire connection or short or some sort.
For the starter relay, which relay is that? We don't have the manual so we can't look it up in there. Thanks for you help bro. Again sorry about the duplicate threads, I don't know what happened.