The security light was staying on. I ran a jumper from the Ign switch to the park/neu switch and got it to crank over. Could not find the fuel pump hot lead. NEVER found the start relay. I know it's got to be there somewhere under the right side dash. I've given it over to the dealer to put it on diagnostic and tell me what's wrong and where. I'm pretty sure it's in the VATS or the "non existant relay". Could also be something real easy like a broken wire some where. Will find out and let everyone know, if nothing else but just to know. Why am I not going to be surprised when they try to charge me for a Starter enable relay? Will have to remind them they can't charg for something they said doesn't exist..
Thanks for all the hints and help anyway, it gave me places and things to check.