Thanks to all of you a whole bunch, thats was a big help since I still don't own a repair manual for my Windstar and AutoZone.com don't have the repair manual online yet. I'll try to get the Chiltons book for it this weekend.
Power Steering Cooler go figure... Thanks phil-l for clearing that out. I do have a *single* finned pipe, visible through the openings under the front bumper, no wonder I could only see the line go under the tranny and not to it.
So the lower line with the smaller diameter is the one that needs to be disconnected to flush out the tranny and the top larger diammeter stays connected to circulate the old fluid thru, right...? Why does it seem so confusing to me, but I think I got it!
Thanks for the torque specs for those screws 12Ounce I'll follow your advice and stay withing the 8 - 10 ft lbs range and I'll probably keep the old difficult filter seal and keep reusing the one that is stuck in the tranny body like you all suggested, althought mine only has 33500 miles on it maybe the seal won't give me a hard time.
Thanks again for the help.