Thanks guys, you're exactly right! After plugging in the relay the other night, I went back in and started pulling fuses again. Didn't find any fuses burned. Then started pulling relays checking for poor contact. While I was doing this my teenage son was telling me about the latest news at school, so I can't honestly tell you everything went back into the same hole it came out of, but I can say everything now works, including the rear window defrost which hasn't worked since I bought it...
Thanks for the help guys!! Now if I could figure out why my temp gauge doesn't work...