That's why a Mugen rubber kit is the best way to go. Mugen is a stiff rubber, slightly weaker than poly. Rubber is meant to flex and absorb will poly isn't. My car has a mix of both poly & oem bushings.
Poly bushings are shifter, engine mounts, upper/lower strut bushings, sway bars, end links.
Ball joints, tie rods, & control arms are stock since those travel the most with suspension, no need for the noise since it's not a race car. If you lube them often they'll be quite.
Once your under the car it's pretty easy to figure which ones go where.
http://www.suspension.com/tips.htm
