Relax, some one will get to your post . . . . .
You want each end to be the same length, here is a pic of mine which is on the stiffest setting(pic was taken while the car was in the air, so the angles will be different with weight on tires).
It's next to impossible to connect the sway bar to the control arm with no weight on the rear tires. Here's what I used to at the track
lift the rear of the car and set it on car ramps so there is weight on the rear tires. you could also crawl under the car while it's on the ground but that's a pain.
If you still need the instruction I could scan them after work tomorrow.