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Originally Posted by veilsidercng
I don't know guyss...I'm SO stressed out. I'm a junior in high school, and I feel like I always have to do stuff for my parents to make them happy. They've been really gay lately, especially about like finding a career/college, and all that. I honestly don't know what I want to do yet, and I understand I have to choose soon but I just don't know=\ They won't shut up about it, and if I consider something that isn't a doctor, lawyer, or engineer they shut it down. I really would like to be a film editor, maybe...but I don't want to move far away, and I doubt it would be easy to find a job. I was thinking maybe teaching something but I don't know what, I don't like math or science..or history..or english..maybe something elective but how would I go about that in college/finding a job. I just don't know what to do  Another part of it is this girl I'm in love with that lives 84 miles away. I don't have my license yet but I seriously love this girl, like more than anything and I don't know..I barely see her (which will change) but I don't know I just want to see her now, when I'm with her I always feel better, and nothing else matters. Sorry that was random..but like the SAT's are comming up too and my parents want me to study online (which involves taking a practice full length test 4 times plus other shit((the test is 5 hours long too)) I just need help..I don't expect anyone to like solve it, but I don't know maybe some ideas..just ramble I don't care I just want to feel better. Sorry this is so long and gay. Thanks.. |
Ahhh to be young and in high school again (not!). It is a very trying time and I want to shoot the person who said your teen years are the best time. They say that ONLY because you still don't have to face real world matters such as mortgage payments, full time work, etc.
Society expects you to be ready for the "real world" by the time you are 18...move out of the house, know what career path to take, go to college etc. The truth is not everyone is ready for stuff like that the day they graduate high school or turn 18. Your preparedness (or lack of) depends on your own life situations, whether it be in your living/family environment, financial, etc. Deciding what you want to do til the day you retire is a very hard decision. Your teenage years are too young yet to decide how you want the rest of your life to go. Sure you can make plans, and it never hurts to have a plan, but the odds are they can/will change as you develop and take on responsibilties of adulthood.
You need to sit and talk with your parents about your career choice and discuss that you need to go school for what YOU want to do, and what YOU will be happy with. This is your future in the making, not theirs. Yes doctor/lawyer/engineer work is good money, but you have to work your ass for it. The schooling for each is grueling as well. Not that it doesn't pay off in the end, but there's no use wasting time and money working toward something you don't want or feel pressured into.
Another thing, a big paycheck doesn't necessarily mean more happiness or success. How much money you make isn't key, but how you handle the money you do make is. Money isn't everything and it can't buy happiness, relationships, or success. My personal definition of success is this: if you pay your bills on time, manage your money well, keep a roof over your head/clothes on the back/food on table, and maintain good relationships with the people in your life, then you have achieved success.
So sit with your parents and try to explain what you want out of life, what you want to go to school for, and how this is your future, not theirs. Every parent wants to see their child do well in life, however they need to eventually let go, let you go on, learn from your mistakes etc.
As a parent, you can be the best mom or dad in the world, provide and teach all the right things, but ultimately children still go their own way once they are adults, and sometimes go the opposite direction that their parents had hoped for.....but we ALL need to find our way in this life. If you are doing good, keep up the good work. If you falter or get yourself into a hole, then get out of it and get back on your feet again.