Sorry for the confusion, been working on this for awhile and haven't checked back...
I DO have the bolt and I tried what Arnoldtheskier suggested (thought of it on my own but took awhile) and it worked insofar as I can turn the crank now. HOWEVER, it seems that the crank and camshaft cogs don't line up anymore (4 teeth off maybe?), so how would I go about re-aligning them? I also can't seem to do the "feel for compression at the spark plug hole" trick from the Haynes manual because I can't get my fingers in that deep. (only cylinder 3 works for that) so it's tough to tell when everything's in the right position to start realigning them.
My best guess is to get the camshaft realigned to TDC at piston #1, take the timing belt off and do the work I need to (water pump, belt tensioner) then before I put the new belt on, turn the crank cog to its TDC and reinstall the belt. Am I going to screw anything up this way?
Ready to hang myself with the strap wrench it took 4 hardware stores to find...