well my wife came home and found the CORRECT fuse in the manual. clearly she is better than a service person at a ford dealership!
it isn't even inside the cockpit.
the "Power Ports" are #7 and #9 in the fuse box under the hood next to the brake master cylinder.
the fuse is a square, blue, 20A big hunk of plastic.
stupid me was looking for a "cigar/cigarette" labled fuse under the dash.
