lemsip;
sounds about right to me. many times i have to put one tire on a curb at the gas station after connecting one side. the first time i had to reconnect with no ones help, i didn't know the trick and didn't have time to think about it (i was splitting from a run to make a wedding i had to be at 3 hours away and was running late).
afterwards what i do it get the bolt and one nut just barely on the threads and then do the same on the other side. it is the only way i can get the sway bar on without the curb trick. our line is "they are called quick disconnects, not quick connects."
and yes getting the bushings out sometimes when disconnecting can be a pain.
kirk