#5 and #17 on the 20 pin connector that's attatch to the radiator support by the battery (on the left side on engine compartment) turn key on engine off.
If you need me too I will scan a copy on the whole precidure with details. Also remeber that if your van didn't come with RKE it won't work, but, you can buy the ETACS for the ex with RKE and add the couple of fuses missing from your fuse box under the hood and have factory RKE. "I must add this for whatever purposes" the marks that is.