[fredjacksonsan]

2stroke, I agree that until/unless faced with the decision, it shouldn't be worried about, and I hope (unrealistically) that no one has to make that decision. But I'm addressing the funeral issue.

Difficult to convey this thought in writing, but:

woman has abortion. woman feels guilty. fetus buried with ceremony. woman might feel better that child "went to heaven". But I agree that it may keep the memory of what happened alive.

woman has abortion. woman doesn't feel guilty. woman should not care what happens to "medical waste", whether it's burned in the incinerator or put into the ground and buried. If she did care, then that would indicate that she is more like the first woman.

So if you care and feel guilty, by human nature that indicates you think you did something wrong. This leads to the thought that if you did something wrong, it's not just a medical procedure but the taking of a life. (In which case a decent burial is a good idea)

If my appendix is removed, I wouldn't care what they did with it afterwards. But if I thought that I was doing something wrong by removing the appendix, I would want some control over it afterwards, which is where the discussion is coming from.

Of course, I haven't addressed some views, just the guilt issue.