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Originally Posted by Oz
A few thoughts for you - wouldn't you rather know if she's going to do it anyway? Peer pressure rarely motivates teens to do anything, except for those with particularly low self esteem. Sex is a normal part of human behaviour, it should be discussed freely.
While I am not suggesting running an 'open house' to do what she wants, I am suggesting keeping dialogue open so that if it does come to a problem, you're still on talking terms. Voicing your disapproval/punishing her will lead her to secret all of that stuff away from you and in the end you end up hurting both of you.
All of those actions indicate she is a normal teenager, and I can't see it threatens her happiness of success in college. 
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Oz...I am keeping open dialogue with her...thats how I found out...but I still see this little girl in pig tails...it's hard to find out she is doing things I tried to keep her from doing...but I am trying to accept it and hope to keep her going in the right direction.
I have even told her friends that if they ever get in a situation and drink too much that they can call me and I will give them a ride home or if worse case scenario they know their parents will get mad that they can come here and crash for the night...I am trying to be understanding while biting the bullet if you know what I mean...This is totally against my character...I was a "Goody two shoes"...never did drugs ect...I don't want her to think I think it's ok and yet I want to provide her and her friends a safe place to go when the going gets tough...I have found that there is a medium between mothering and being a friend...and we are taking it day by day...but she is going to do it rather I like it or not...
It's time for me to step up and help her to make adult decisions as her friend...I just don't want this guy to disuade her from going to college...:-)