Regaining Trust

I would like to know how someone can regain someones trust in somone else....

For instance...if someone cheated on someone else and the person gave them a second chance...how could u get that person to trust you again...

Please some advice....

Julie

Well they have to prove that they are worthy of a second chance and want to be forgiven. For example, one of my friends was engaged and she showed up at his house one day and handed him the ring and said she didn't want to marry him. She eventually after several months realized she made the biggest mistake of her life and wanted to get back together. At first he hesitated and said he needed to think about it. Then he said well you have lost all of my trust and respect plus all of my friends repspect for you, so prove to me that you want to get back with me(at this point she lived in another city). So a few weeks later she quit her job and moved back home. I'm still not sure if they're reengaged yet, but they are together. So I say give another chance if it sounds like they really want it and recognized that they screwed up. Just keep an extra close eye now.

It's incredibly hard. I'm not sure that I've ever truly been given second chances b/c almost everyone is once bitten, twice shy. We as humans will do anything to keep the hurt from coming back. Your best bet is to show the other person that you will do anything for them, and be there for anything they could possibly need.

There's not a certain "method". If a second chance is granted, that shows some trust right there. The rest of it is just a slow process.. it's not like there's a set point at which trust is regained.. One day you just kinda realize that things are back to the way they were before anything happened and life is hunky dory.

Trust is one of the hardest things to regain. Most of it depends on the person who is the untrusting one. But I dont know if you can ever gain full trust.

Julie,
I think you already know my thoughts on this one, since you know that I know the person you are referring to.
Having experienced this person's nature myself, I don't think you would ever be able to completely trust the person.
I admit I do not know this person as well as you do, but just from 4 months of interacting with the person, I would have to say that I have never met anyone I have found to lie so much and be so deceitful in 28 years and living in 3 countries, as what this person has proven to be.

Sorry but I just had to speak my mind on the matter.

Ray..This isn't all referring to who you think it is...it is about me too...i need to regain trust to someone....and i was wanting to know how...and I am trying to trust the person u are referring to too...That is why I am asking how someone can regain trust....

I know...the person or I will not have full trust in me or them for a long time....


Julie