99 Cougar Alarm issues!!!! Help

Hey everyone, have a 99 Cougar that recently started setting off its alarm at random. Morning, Noon, Night....Yeah its a big hit with the neighbors. Anyways, We don't have the keyless entry remote for the car to reset the alarm and now the key is not deactivating it when you insert it in the door or ignition. What I would like to do is just disable the relay or bypass it to shut the alarm down for good. There is not much sense in having it on around here. Anyone able to help me locate which one it is or where its at? The schematics don't show it on the diagram. Thanks a bunch!!!

Luke