Adults have no friends

Ever notice how a good number of adults have no friends whatsoever? What's that all about? :confused:

If you are a friendless adult, can you tell us a.) when you stopped making friends and b.) the reason for your friendlessness?

Dunno, it's just something that happens when you get old.

From what I've seen many adults get too wrapped up in their own lives or careers to the point they have no time to get out and socialize. I guess making more money or trying to gain a higher stature is more important than making new friends. Add to that the division of the classes,( those that are considered the "haves" versus those who are considered the "have nots" ) further adds to the problem of obtaining and keeping friends. People tend to stay in their own "social class" and not go out of the "boundaries".

Add to that the division of the classes,( those that are considered the "haves" versus those who are considered the "have nots" ) further adds to the problem of obtaining and keeping friends. People tend to stay in their own "social class" and not go out of the "boundaries".
Indeed, people avoid those from other social classes that are outside of their boundaries. But why do they do this? I think it's basically because it would suck to hang out with those people for any number of reasons. So in a nutshell, that is just one example of a myriad of sucky social situations. The thing is, social situations in general have a STRONG tendency to suck, both within and without conventional boundaries and norms. A fun party will always be the exception, not the rule, to the norm. Perhaps we come to understand this more as we get older? Since, more and more, everything we do is a means to an end, do we choose to disregard friendships that serve no functional purpose? I think so. But as far as I'm concerned, hanging out with people sucks unless it's a hot girl, but that's only because I haven't been laid in a while (8 days). More often than not, I go somewhere with friends to get away from my fucking annoying roommates, rather than out of a desire for good company.

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Adults don't have friends because they realize that most people suck at being friends. You find a few people that you can really count on, who you really like, and everyone else just comes and goes through your life.

I would not say adults do not have friends, but rather their friendships are often less abundant due to the ever growing responsibilities of being an adult.

Children play a HUGE role in friendship circles as well. When you have kids your friends that do not tend to shy away from you.

I have several friends, and I value them dearly but I don't get a chance to be with them very often. We have a few parties when a good birthday rolls around and we love getting together. The reality is, when you become an adult, you lose freedoms and time to every growing repsonsibilities. You keep only the friends who are truely friends and disregard the rest simply because you don't have time and/or energy to play social games. Another thing I have noticed as I have gotten older is that you stop pretending to be something your not (thank god) so the friendships you held simply to be part of the "in" crowd are no longer of any value.

That is my $.02

Adults don't have friends because they realize that most people suck at being friends.


Exactly. I have lost a lot of friends as I got older and more as I settled in my relationship.

i say:
it's when you are an adult and working full time and have a family that you know who your friends really are. Until then, the people you hang out with when you have nothing to do, are just people you hang out with when you have nothing to do.

i say:
it's when you are an adult and working full time and have a family that you know who your friends really are. Until then, the people you hang out with when you have nothing to do, are just people you hang out with when you have nothing to do.

+1

There are only a few of my old friends that I truely miss. The ones that I have now are in exactly the same position that I am and understand when I don't call or talk to them for a month. True friends that will always be there when I really need them, and they can count on the same from me.

There are days when I feel like a social moron because we aren't going out or having friends over, then I remember all the information above and it all becomes clear again.

when you are young, you have lots of "so-called" friends and you do foolish things...when you are an adult you turn away from those things and take on more mature adult things such as working, paying bills and don't have the time nor need for as many friends.

I'd like to add to my previous post that I also think it's harder to have friends,(or gain new ones) as you get older. My wife and I are going on 12 years of marriage. Before we got married , we used to spend a lot of time at our friends' houses playing cards, drinking, watching movies, etc. Over time, friends get married and settle into a new life, others get a different job that affects their free time, some move away, and others who have also settled down with family obligations are too busy with conflicting schedules between work, the kids school and extra curricular activities take away most if not all of their free time. After we got married, we thought about increasing our circle of friends so that we would have more opportunities, but after a short while realized it was harder than it seemed. The reason was many of the things I previously outlined cut into their schedules. There were many times we scheduled something only to have it canceled because something came up. I think it's harder to make new friends in your 30's through the early '40s, but might get easier as we age and realize the importance of friendships, plus schedules tend to be a tad lighter as we get older and some of the things that kept us away back then are no longer pertinent. I don't know... that's just my theory. Check back with me in 10 to 12 years and I'll let you know if that's true :lol:

For my last post before "MagicRat" bans me, let me say that I don't have many friends anymore because I don't trust to many fuckers around me. Human beings are opportunistic, and for the most part, cannot control themselves. I see it in myself, so I know it's in others.
I am now of course slightly more paranoid than I should be, and that does cause me some concern, but for the most part, I just stay behind that line. I love dealing with customers at the shop, helping people if I can, but I just don't make many close friendships. Ultimately, it's not worth it.

Think about the fellas you could drink with. Notice how when someone leaves the room, or the gathering for the evening, there is always some gossip to be spilled out about the person... you know that happens when you leave too.

I congradulate anybody who is strong enough to be a bit of a loner, but yet not be a fucking weirdo. When you cut your own path, you are more enlightened, and in the end, see more of the big picture.

Human beings are opportunistic, and for the most part, cannot control themselves. I see it in myself, so I know it's in others.

that's your first error.

I congradulate anybody who is strong enough to be a bit of a loner, but yet not be a fucking weirdo. When you cut your own path, you are more enlightened, and in the end, see more of the big picture.

that's your second.

I congradulate anybody who is strong enough to be a bit of a loner, but yet not be a fucking weirdo. whats wrong with weird??? :uhoh:

that's your first error.



that's your second.

is this one of those, 'is the glass half empty or half full' things now? I don't even know what your getting at here.

whats wrong with weird??? :uhoh:

Blessed are the cracked ones for they are the ones that let in the light.

Blessed are the cracked ones for they are the ones that let in the light.


ok... not wierdo in the Howard Hughes kind of way... I meant wierdo in the perveted serial killer kind of way

you assume everyone is like you so you are falsely projecting yourself onto others.
you postulate that if you have few friends, you are better than those that have many.

The thing is, social situations in general have a STRONG tendency to suck, Perhaps we come to understand this more as we get older? Since, more and more, everything we do is a means to an end, do we choose to disregard friendships that serve no functional purpose? I think so.

a means to an end... hmmm, sounds like every situation we enter is only entered because it may present us with some opportunity. Geeez, what percentage of the population doesn't operate with normal human instincts? OH! drunkenmunkey.... I guess you count as 1 since you seem to disagree. You know im as right as this guy. i postulate that with uttmost postuability.

Finally, I said cutting your own path CAN, not WILL MOST CERTAINLY. Now, I've read you many times, and you make sence. So if you disagree, i'll concider your postulations, as im sure you've postulated even the unpostulatable postulates.

I have the same number of friends that I had when I was a kid. The thing is now I don't see them every day like the old days when we had nothing to do but hang out and party. Friends that I would see practically every day when I was in college - I now see them maybe twice a year. Everyone has families and jobs and other responsibilities.

Blessed are the cracked ones for they are the ones that let in the light.

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What an awesome quote!!! I've sigged it too.

Is it an original, or do you know where it came from originally??

With regards to the original topic - I'm an adult (legally if not mentally) and I have more friends than I've ever had and I seem to keep making more ?

Just go to a local pub. The secret is to become a tradie, you'll always have friends and drinking buddies and a nagging wife and boring kids on drugs.

I have pretty much the same friends I had in high school. When the family and business come into the picture, I got really focused on that and I am just now able to relax a bit more and get back into having a social life.

I think getting married and having kids is a big part of not having as many friends. I dont think it keeps out friends all together. I'm just settling into a serious relationship, and I noticed that I tend to spend the most time with just a few friends who are extremely important to me. It's not that I don't want to see my friends it's just that I've found the person that I like to go home to and relax with during the week days. I think that's what most people tend to look for. I'm not saying all, just a lot of people do look for the person they can do that with. Its a lot of energy keeping up with multiple people. I think that's why it's also easier to keep more friends when you are younger. There's probably a number of small reasons why that all just add up.

I'm later-years old, and I can count two BEST buds, 3 GOOD buds, and around 7 buds. No, not talking of the brand of beer here, LMAO.

Sadly, my BEST buds aren't around, {geographically speaking}. Doesn't and