Relationship questions.

Wow, I have not posted here in a long time. I guess I need to pay more attention.

Well, lets get to the point. I have a question to ask all of you, regarding a long distance, online relationship.

Please, if you reply, dont post some BS answer.

I "met" this girl a few months ago online. She has a great personality, which I adore. We talk almost every night online, and I call her 3-4 times a week. I look foreward to talking to her every day. I would eventually like to meet her in person, and see what happens from there.

Has anyone been in this type of situation, or know someone who has?


Thats about it. Just a quick little post from little old me :)

Thanks.

Well all I can say is that, I have heard of these situations before, So go bad, some are matches made in Heaven. I'd just say be careful and don't get to attached, did you see that Ally Mcbeal with the Midget?

I know of 2 people that have done this.

One couple meet and are still together and are very happy. The other couple it didnt work out at all.
I guess the real choice is up to you.
You seem to have been talking to each other a lot. Give it time and see what happen's. Dont expect to much untill you meet and see how things go.

I look at this way, we're living in an information age, and communication today is far different from what it was 30, 20, or even 10 years ago. The internet, for better or for worse, has become an integral part of our culture and our daily lives. Given that, I would say that it's a perfectly legitimate way to meet new people. Whether or not the relationship works depends on the two people. However, I *will* say that *long distance* relationships are very difficult. You'll have to make a lot of accomodations that you may not be able/willing to make. I don't think the method of meeting is the problem here, but rather the distance involved. Contrary to what some people think, I *do* believe it's possible to love and care for someone before having actually met them in person. That is, unless your love is based solely on physical attraction, in which case it's not really love IMHO. Still, I can't see much satisfaction in a relationship in which you will *never* meet the other party involved. You'll have to decide if you're willing to do what it's going to take to make this one work out. It *is* possible, but it won't be easy...

Strange,

I met my ex online, and she lived 5 mins away from me, she DEMANDED me to call her etc.....


She was okay at first, then turned into a MAJOR BITCH in the end, I'm glad that bitch and I aren't going out anymore. Sorry for my rants:D

My little brother did that, but it wasnt long distance (hes grade 7 so, it doesnt matter anyway). He knew someone who knew her, and they met, and he hated her. So it all depends.
Good luck man:)

i don't do this.... i'd rather meet somebody person to person, at a party or somethin

but sounds like you know the person, since you talk on the phone with her (that's key), so you know she's not a guy :D and if you haven't seen a picture of her, don't expect anything spectacular, hehe :D

Make sure you get a pic of her first, and vice versa.

I know a lady that meets guy soff the net from other countries, got preggers to one 1st night they met and never saw him again etc,but shes a f*cking idiot.
Meet, see what happens
Good luck, youll need it.

Unless she's some crazy bitch I doubt that you have anything to lose.

I have heard about many of these situations. Some turn out good - some bad. Just like any other relationship, really.

And don't assume that she'll be ugly just because you met her online. :)

If you come back and read this, tell me where you met her. I need some net romance.

Originally posted by Slip
Make sure you get a pic of her first, and vice versa.

I know a lady that meets guys off the net from other countries, got preggers to one 1st night they met and never saw him again etc,but shes a f*cking idiot.
Meet, see what happens
Good luck, youll need it.

she sounds like a loser :D

can't she meet people in other places?

Okay, here's a girl's perspective:

I've definately done/tried this before. First time I was too young, and it totally didn't work out. Most recently, I talked with the guy for several months both on IM and the phone before we finally got to meet. When we did meet, it was totally awesome. We would still be together if it wasn't partially due to distance (5 hour drive away). Naturally, it's totally up to you if you think you are in this for the long-haul... But trust me on this one, long distance relationships are VERY hard to keep consistant. In my experience, jealousy sets in and can ruin everything.

So despite all that talk, the choice is yours. :flash:

I go with the majority on this one. Long distance relationships are hard to maintain if not, have. It will almost always come down to making some form of arrangement to meet. My advice to you would be to meet this person face to face, if possible. It's different with the person in front of you as opposed to on the internet. I've met a few people and have to say that some were pleasant, other's weren't. But in the end, the decision is yours.

Proof that relationships are evil:
we all know that to start a relationship up you need some money and to keep it going you need time. so:

relationships = money x time

now we all have heard that time is money so
time = money
so by substitution we get
relationships = money x money

we have also heard that money is the root of all evil, so the square root of evil is money. Knowing this we can say that money squared (money x money) = evil.

Now by substituting evil into the initial equation we com to the conclusion that

relationships = evil


:frog:

Cav: That was honestly the most hilarious thing I've ever read!!! :lol2:

why thankee. I cant take credit for being original but........ oh well.

Originally posted by Cavallino
Proof that relationships are evil:
we all know that to start a relationship up you need some money and to keep it going you need time. so:

relationships = money x time

now we all have heard that time is money so
time = money
so by substitution we get
relationships = money x money

we have also heard that money is the root of all evil, so the square root of evil is money. Knowing this we can say that money squared (money x money) = evil.

Now by substituting evil into the initial equation we com to the conclusion that

relationships = evil


:frog:

No, no, no. This is what you are looking for:
http://www.users.qwest.net/~bkc3/+junk/girlsmoney.jpg

KB: You better edit that to EXCLUDE present company :mad:

OH yeah... anyone else notice that the thread starter hasn't posted since the first? :confused: I don't get it...

the one kind of math i won't fail, lol :D don't seem to have a problem with relationships

so far there hasn't been any girl that i've liked and couldn't get
i'm a love machine :D

yep thats the one gan$tar. Fun stuff there. But hey, i do recall saying i didnt come up with it so i'm clear. whew.

Originally posted by saturntangerine
KB: You better edit that to EXCLUDE present company :mad:

You're excluded!:D

Me date pretty one day...:bloated: :hehehe:

Boy, you guys (ok, saturntangerine.... gals too) are hilarious!!! But I think we're all in agreement that long distance relationships CAN be an interesting endeavor. And add to the equation (as if we HAVEN'T done enuff math) the Internet, it can be downright scary. I met my last girlfriend thru a chat room/IM. Now that I've broken up with her, though, I've sworn off those accursed things!!!

Use your best judgement, get to know them well enuff that U are VERY comfortable with them, and for goodness sakes, meet in PUBLIC first!!!

That's just MY $0.02 worth!!:smoka:

Meeting in public is VERY important. I'm suprised no one's mentioned it yet:confused:

I just assumed that everyone did that. That is what I always did when meeting someone from the net. That way, I have an excuse to bounce on them if we didn't click.:D :p

Originally posted by Chris
Meeting in public is VERY important. I'm suprised no one's mentioned it yet:confused:

that's what i meant when i said, can't that girl meet people in other places
when somebody was talkin about some girl they know who has lots of one night stands with people she meets on the internet

Originally posted by gang$tarr


that's what i meant when i said, can't that girl meet people in other places
when somebody was talkin about some girl they know who has lots of one night stands with people she meets on the internet

I dont think thats what he meant. I think he meant, that if you do decide to meet for the first time, do it in a public place, with people there. Not at their house, or somewhere private.

Originally posted by kbslacker


I dont think thats what he meant. I think he meant, that if you do decide to meet for the first time, do it in a public place, with people there. Not at their house, or somewhere private.

ohh, whoops... i thought he meant like bars, clubs, etc.

Thanks for all the replies. I did meet up, and things when pretty good. :)

Good for you:) So are you going to see each other again?? Not that its any of our business.