Soul Mates

How much do you guys believe in soul mates? I met mine during my xmas break. Girl called Georgia. Really pretty, really smart, but the thing is that within 20mins of meeting her we could tell each other exactly what was on each others minds etc, her thought process is EXACTLY the same as mine, its weird, Ive made a psych cry at my last military base when he asked what goes thru my head, he didnt understand it all. But she does. And its both cool and freaky.

way to go man

I do believe they exsist, just not for everyone. You either have one out there or not. For me, I do not believe there's anyone out there for me. I'm 20 years old, & not once ever have I had any girl even have the slightest interest in me. It's just not going to happen with me. I've come to expect nothing from women. Life really ins't fair. :(

that sucks man dont be so down on yourself cheer up!

Yeah, Im 23, have had a good few gf's, but never THE gf, and we're not actually going out, there's all the love we need, but i live too far away cause im in the military, so we're gonna see where it leads us...

Originally posted by 96Hatch
that sucks man dont be so down on yourself cheer up! Oh, dude I'm not down on myself, girls are. I don't really have any self-esteem problems(you'd think I would, though). I like myself, it's just I'm one of those "nice guys", so you can imagine how the opposide sex feels about me. I mean, think about it. How many nice guys have soulmates?

k just makin sure

Originally posted by Misundaztood
Oh, dude I'm not down on myself, girls are. I don't really have any self-esteem problems(you'd think I would, though). I like myself, it's just I'm one of those "nice guys", so you can imagine how the opposide sex feels about me. I mean, think about it. How many nice guys have soulmates?

dude I so know what you mean.:)

same deal here.

w3rd to this whole thread. I don't get it. I'm an average looking, nice genuine guy to chicks. And none want me. Teh Oz gives up...

Thats ur problem oz, ur decent. Remember Brad? We decided to grow beer guts, wear crap clothes and treat girls like shit, maybe this way we'll get to date cute girls!!! It doesnt make sense.

There are different kinds of soul mates. There are friends who are truly connected to you. I met a girl last term that I've become good friends with, but we don't need to hang out all the time to know EXACTLY what the other is thinking. We get the same mental images when we haven't even talked to eachother in weeks. It's really cool, but trust me, I'm not going to date her any time soon.

Then there is (whom I believe to be) my soul mate. Sure, there is a distance between us, but if it's meant to be, it will be. He's not that far away when all of time is considered, and I am confident that what is meant to be will be.

I definitely believe in soul mates and as soppy as it sounds I know that I've met and am married to mine. :)

Originally posted by Spec2 Girl
I definitely believe in soul mates and as soppy as it sounds I know that I've met and am married to mine. :)


:apuke:

Originally posted by saturntangerine
It's really cool, but trust me, I'm not going to date her any time soon.

Oh gee why not:D

Yeah I believe in soul mates and I hope one day to meet mine

Originally posted by saturntangerine
I met a girl last term that I've become good friends with, but we don't need to hang out all the time to know EXACTLY what the other is thinking. We get the same mental images when we haven't even talked to eachother in weeks. I'm going to date her any time soon.


:frog:

Originally posted by Misundaztood
How many nice guys have soulmates?

Yah, seriously; I hope I'm not being vain or anything; but I consider myself one of those people too: virtuous, no sex until after marriage, always helping; but girls always go for the bad boys. It sucks, are all girls like this?

Originally posted by Misundaztood
For me, I do not believe there's anyone out there for me.

Well, you have to be proactive; increase your probability of meeting your soulmate...meet more people!:)

Originally posted by Spec2 Girl
I definitely believe in soul mates and as soppy as it sounds I know that I've met and am married to mine. :)

:)

my problem seems to be that i make friends with the girl first, and near me it seems that girls like to date guys that they've only known for a week and know nothing about. then here i come, knowing them for a year, becoming great friends with them and if i ask them out, they say "but it will ruin our friendship". SO?? aren't relationships SUPPOSED to be based on FRIENDSHIP??? and so it doesn't work out and we break up, that doesn't mean i'm never going to talk to her again! she'll still be my friend! i would never see a girl walking down the street and walk up and ask her to date me just because i didn't want to ruin the friendship i have with the girl i truly like. i might think she's hot or other various thoughts (:alien2: ), but i wouldn't be thinking about an actual relationship unless i got to know her and found out if she was right for me or not. it's all way too confusing for THIS guy to work out...

Originally posted by S13_Iketani
and so it doesn't work out and we break up, that doesn't mean i'm never going to talk to her again! she'll still be my friend!

That's your worst mistake. You DON'T DATE FRIENDS. It's BAD. It never is "just friends" after a romance fails. Honest. I speak with plenty of experience in this.... I have managed to keep ONE friend after a romance, and I still don't talk to him often. DON'T DATE FRIENDS. DON'T DATE WITHIN YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS. That is all for now.

Short answer: No.

It's all just a big mindfuck to make shit more meaningful than it really is. But it backfires and hurts more than anything.

Originally posted by Steel
Short answer: No.

It's all just a big mindfuck to make shit more meaningful than it really is. But it backfires and hurts more than anything.

Exactly, hence why I don't care anymore and have given up.

Soulmates? Sure, i believe it could happen. Still, I agree with S13_Iketani, i want to make sure it would work before i invest lots of time/money in a relationship. But, that doesnt seem to be a good idea....

I think the best way to meet a soul mate is to, er, no idea:rolleyes:

Originally posted by saturntangerine
You DON'T DATE FRIENDS. It's BAD.

So do you suggest as S_13Iketani says:

Originally posted by S13_Iketani
that girls like to date guys that they've only known for a week and know nothing about.

Do you suggest that we hit on girls we hardly know? Rather than get to know and understand them before we politely ask them out?
:confused:

What a paradox?!

Yup, so far, that seems to be the way it goes. At work, a talked to a girl for about 2 weeks, then she told me she wanted to give me a bj:eek: Serious. I was goin for someone else at the time, and it was goin good, so i said no. :rolleyes:
But then there are ppl who I get along with great when Im around them, and would love to go out with them, but alas, now they dont want to.

It seems that men and woman often are on completely different thought patterns.:confused:

Originally posted by Chris
she told me she wanted to give me a bj:eek:
Slut...:rolleyes:

Originally posted by Chris
It seems that men and woman often are on completely different thought patterns.:confused:

And they said men don't understand women?:rolleyes:
It works both ways

Yeah, the other day, in the staff room, a girl was saying how her bf was saying that he really cared about her and liked her in so many ways, but didnt want a serious relationship. She couldnt understand. To every guy there, it was obvious; he wants to get physical, thats it:rolleyes:

Whoa; that's ironic on so many levels...
But I guess that's what makes bf/gf relationships so interesting: It's unpredictable!

Originally posted by NSX


Do you suggest that we hit on girls we hardly know? Rather than get to know and understand them before we politely ask them out?
:confused:

What a paradox?!

Not really. I mean, don't wait a year to ask a girl out. You can get plenty of an idea of a girl from a period of about a month. But you don't always have to wait. Sometimes it's best to jump in feet-first. The guy who is now in pursuit of me had only met me 2 weeks before we first went out on a "date" type thing... Doesn't mean that much of anything "physical" had to happen, but we had a great time talking and comparing experiences.

Originally posted by saturntangerine


Not really. I mean, don't wait a year to ask a girl out. You can get plenty of an idea of a girl from a period of about a month. But you don't always have to wait. Sometimes it's best to jump in feet-first. The guy who is now in pursuit of me had only met me 2 weeks before we first went out on a "date" type thing... Doesn't mean that much of anything "physical" had to happen, but we had a great time talking and comparing experiences.

Some of us don't feel comfortable doing that though. we need time to figure out if theres wnough compatibility.

Originally posted by darkness
Some of us don't feel comfortable doing that though. we need time to figure out if theres wnough compatibility.

Yah. I'm interested in a girl right now, but I'm not sure if she feels the same way yet; how should I approach this?

Originally posted by NSX


Yah. I'm interested in a girl right now, but I'm not sure if she feels the same way yet; how should I approach this?

Dude, just go for it... What's the worst that happens??? You get the f-word (as in friend) and then you wait. Can you date someone after a year? Sure, but in every experience I have with waiting like that it never works out, and something from the past comes back to bite you hard-core in the ass cheek. It's usually something that happened in the friendship, too, thus why dating friends is BAD.

Originally posted by saturntangerine
Dude, just go for it... What's the worst that happens??? You get the f-word (as in friend) and then you wait. Can you date someone after a year? Sure, but in every experience I have with waiting like that it never works out, and something from the past comes back to bite you hard-core in the ass cheek. It's usually something that happened in the friendship, too, thus why dating friends is BAD.

Cool advice; I'll try it out:) Wish me luck!

Originally posted by NSX


Do you suggest that we hit on girls we hardly know? Rather than get to know and understand them before we politely ask them out?
:confused:

What a paradox?!

No, this is easy. Only date people that you know, but that aren't your friends. In other words, people you hate. ;)

But seriously, ask the girl out, the worst that could happen is she says no. My poor fiance had to go through hell to get me, not because I was trying to be mean, but because I was so incredibly shy. I tend to flirt more when I'm in a relationship because it's "safe" flirting, and I don't care where it goes because I'm taken and it's all in fun. However, when I'm single I am painfully shy and nervous, and won't talk to anyone because I might screw something up. But my fiance was wonderful, put me at ease, and at the end of the date he asked if he could kiss me. (That's worth points in my book.)
Good luck with the girl. Treat women like ladies and you're more likely to end up with someone with class. (as opposed to the BJ girl. :rolleyes: )

Originally posted by boingo82
Treat women like ladies and you're more likely to end up with someone with class. (as opposed to the BJ girl. :rolleyes: )

I guess that's the golden rule.

I believe in soul mates. I also like to believe I have found mine, kinda sucks shes 500 miles away but its worth it. I dont think a soul mate has to be a the opposite sex, its just someone you connect with someone you can talk to about anything. It just happens that the one we are most comfortable talking with is someone of the opposite sex

CAN IT BE A CAR :confused: JUST KIDDING

I BELIEVE THAT I FOUND MY SOUL MATE WHEN I WAS A SENIOR IN HS BACK IN '97. SHE WAS PERFECT TO ME..I WOULD DREAM ABOUT HER EVERY NIGHT AND SHE WOULD ALWAYS BE ON MY MIND...SOME MAY CALL IN LUST OR INFACTUATION BUT I CALL IT TRUE LOVE. WE LIKED THE SAME MUSIC, FOOD, IT WAS LIKE SHE WAS MY FEMALE CLONE....I STILL LOVE HER THOUGH....BUT SHE REALLY COULDN'T HANDLE ,OR SHOULD I SAY HER FRIENDS MADE HER, ME AND OTHER WOMEN B/C I'VE ALWAYS HAD FEMALE FRIENDS AN LITTLE OR NO MALE FRIENDS. SO WE CALLED IT OFF...THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE OR SO I THOUGHT...AFTER GRADUATION I HAVE YET TO SEE HER AGAIN...BUT WE STILL CONSTANLY TALK ON THE PHONE, REMINISING ABOUT H.S. AND HOW WE WERE....THE ONLY THING IS THAT I'M MARRIED NOW WITH 2 KIDS...MY WIFE KNOWS THAT WE TALK AND AT TIMES THEY HAVE A CONVERSATIONS TOGETHER....BUT I CAN TRULY SAY THAT I STILL LOVE HER BUT AS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS...FUNNY THING IS MY WIFE SAID THAT IF IN THE EVENT OF HER DEATH SHE'D WANT ME TO MARRY HER B/C SHE KNEW SHE'D TAKE CARE OF ME AND OUR KIDS :D ANOTHER REASON WHY I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE

Cool story. It seems to be a prevailing theme: Friends being girls vs. girlfriends...

Originally posted by boingo82

However, when I'm single I am painfully shy and nervous, and won't talk to anyone because I might screw something up.

Sounds very familiar

Originally posted by BLU CIVIC
CAN IT BE A CAR :confused: JUST KIDDING

I BELIEVE THAT I FOUND MY SOUL MATE WHEN I WAS A SENIOR IN HS BACK IN '97. SHE WAS PERFECT TO ME..I WOULD DREAM ABOUT HER EVERY NIGHT AND SHE WOULD ALWAYS BE ON MY MIND...SOME MAY CALL IN LUST OR INFACTUATION BUT I CALL IT TRUE LOVE. WE LIKED THE SAME MUSIC, FOOD, IT WAS LIKE SHE WAS MY FEMALE CLONE....I STILL LOVE HER THOUGH....BUT SHE REALLY COULDN'T HANDLE ,OR SHOULD I SAY HER FRIENDS MADE HER, ME AND OTHER WOMEN B/C I'VE ALWAYS HAD FEMALE FRIENDS AN LITTLE OR NO MALE FRIENDS. SO WE CALLED IT OFF...THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE OR SO I THOUGHT...AFTER GRADUATION I HAVE YET TO SEE HER AGAIN...BUT WE STILL CONSTANLY TALK ON THE PHONE, REMINISING ABOUT H.S. AND HOW WE WERE....THE ONLY THING IS THAT I'M MARRIED NOW WITH 2 KIDS...MY WIFE KNOWS THAT WE TALK AND AT TIMES THEY HAVE A CONVERSATIONS TOGETHER....BUT I CAN TRULY SAY THAT I STILL LOVE HER BUT AS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS...FUNNY THING IS MY WIFE SAID THAT IF IN THE EVENT OF HER DEATH SHE'D WANT ME TO MARRY HER B/C SHE KNEW SHE'D TAKE CARE OF ME AND OUR KIDS :D ANOTHER REASON WHY I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE

shhh - no need to shout.

Originally posted by Oz


shhh - no need to shout.

GOING O/T.....NOT SHOUTING ALWAYS USE CAPS:)

Originally posted by BLU CIVIC


GOING O/T.....NOT SHOUTING ALWAYS USE CAPS:)

well your previous post was a little hard to read in all caps.

OK......

Originally posted by BLU CIVIC
OK......
Try to turn off your CAPS lock, B/C ITS VERY HARD TO READ IN ALL CAPITALS! YOU CAN TRY HOLDING DOWN YOUR SHIFT BUTTON AS WELL.

Sorry about that:cool:

I believe there is someone out there for everyone. some people just don't find them as easily as others;)

Originally posted by Misundaztood
I mean, think about it. How many nice guys have soulmates?

Me, for one.

It may take a while, but there's no reaason to assume it won't happen.

whats your definition of a while???

Originally posted by darkness
whats your definition of a while???

Well, I didn't meet Andy till I was totally convinced I was completely unloveable - and I had to piss off to Australia first as well. I had the "nice guy" thing, the "good friend" thing, all of that - for years. Then when you least expect it, something magic happens.

Originally posted by moondog


Well, I didn't meet Andy till I was totally convinced I was completely unloveable - and I had to piss off to Australia first as well. I had the "nice guy" thing, the "good friend" thing, all of that - for years. Then when you least expect it, something magic happens.

well at least someone believes in it.

and see thats the problem. the severe lack of mature, single, nice, non-bitchy, attractive women in this country is amazing

Originally posted by NSX

Try to turn off your CAPS lock, B/C ITS VERY HARD TO READ IN ALL CAPITALS! YOU CAN TRY HOLDING DOWN YOUR SHIFT BUTTON AS WELL.

Sorry about that:cool:

READ SIG

If you can't post from work in a civilised manner,please don't post from work.:bandit:

Originally posted by taranaki
If you can't post from work in a civilised manner,please don't post from work.:bandit:

CIVILIZED MANNER :confused: HMMM I'VE BEEN POSTING FROM WORK SINCE NOVEMBER AND EVERYONE SEEMS TO UNDERSTAND :alien:

Originally posted by S13_Iketani
my problem seems to be that i make friends with the girl first, and near me it seems that girls like to date guys that they've only known for a week and know nothing about. then here i come, knowing them for a year, becoming great friends with them and if i ask them out, they say "but it will ruin our friendship". SO?? aren't relationships SUPPOSED to be based on FRIENDSHIP??? and so it doesn't work out and we break up, that doesn't mean i'm never going to talk to her again! she'll still be my friend! i would never see a girl walking down the street and walk up and ask her to date me just because i didn't want to ruin the friendship i have with the girl i truly like. i might think she's hot or other various thoughts (:alien2: ), but i wouldn't be thinking about an actual relationship unless i got to know her and found out if she was right for me or not. it's all way too confusing for THIS guy to work out...

Thank you!!! My first, last, and only g/f was my friend for 3 years before we went out. Unfortunently I found out two days later I was moving away, again. We still keep in touch but long distance wasn't an option since I didn't know where she was moving to a couple months after me. It probably would have worked out...but that's was my only exception. It's always, can't we just be friends and not mess things up.
Actually, right now I'm going through such a situation. But this one is my choice because we are so close, connected so easily and I've only known her for 6 months, but I'm not sure whether to ask her out or not. I think I will, but true friendship is so hard to find these days, I think any kind of soulmate is good since there is already someone out there for you in any way. I actually believe that life throughout time gives you choices and and there is a path that'll make your life perfect, just make the right choices. It gives you the choice once and wether you seize it or not is up to you.

Originally posted by BLU CIVIC


CIVILIZED MANNER :confused: HMMM I'VE BEEN POSTING FROM WORK SINCE NOVEMBER AND EVERYONE SEEMS TO UNDERSTAND :alien:

What, is your boss allergic to lower-case? :bloated: I don't see what work has to do with caps-lock.

Originally posted by boingo82
What, is your boss allergic to lower-case? :bloated: I don't see what work has to do with caps-lock.

Maybe his caps lock or shift button is glued down:confused:

Originally posted by Damien
We still keep in touch but long distance wasn't an option since I didn't know where she was moving to a couple months after me. It probably would have worked out...but that's was my only exception. It's always, can't we just be friends and not mess things up.

Friends vs. Soulmates theme again?

Originally posted by Damien
I actually believe that life throughout time gives you choices and and there is a path that'll make your life perfect, just make the right choices. It gives you the choice once and wether you seize it or not is up to you.

:) That's a nice philosophy.

On a related note, I just wanted to say that I may be dating someone right now, but it just so happens to be that his roommate had "been interested" in me before now. The roommate and I are very often said to be "clones" of one another just in opposite sex bodies. But at the same time, I feel connected to the roommate on the VERY close friend level. I feel that after time I could tell him anything and not worry or be embarrassed. Granted, I've only known the both of them for a lil over a month, but some people you just connect with... It's kinda strange, but comfortable and just feels right.

That's what any sort of soul-mate is all about, no?

sometimes u want a gf really badly but ppl never really pay attention to what will it be like once u have one......

Originally posted by endlesskev86
sometimes u want a gf really badly but ppl never really pay attention to what will it be like once u have one......

Well, once you have one, you're in Dreamland :)

Originally posted by NSX


Well, once you have one, you're in Dreamland :)

not always.

Originally posted by darkness


not always.

oh?
How's that?

LoL, I really think I should post...being the one that this thread was started about...

Me being me, I'm easy to talk to, associate with and generally have a fun and enjoyable time with. I don't entirely think that I'm anyone's soul mate, but still, I have yet to find someone that is my soul mate...I suppose it could be said that whilst you find someone who is your soulmate, the reciprocation of that does not necessarily mean that you are theirs...LoL...ANYONE get what I'm saying?

I don't believe in soul mates, and have thus never conducted a search for them, simply because I don't feel a need to be that connected to anybody!. You are yourself and your world revolves around you and you alone.

More on this subject later.

Originally posted by MiSS-GvS
I don't believe in soul mates, and have thus never conducted a search for them

That would make sense, seeing how it's mostly believe soulmates are soulmates that you don't look for. They're just there and show up.

Then again, I guess that's another thing. If you do believe in soulmates, are they there, placed for you and you'll meet them no matter what. It's destined to happen? Or do you need to find them? If they're your soulmate, then you think you wouldn't have to, would you? guess that brings up my theory earlier...