Slightly Lost & Confused.
CamaroSSBoy346
10-19-2007, 04:13 AM
Heres a heads up... Its a relationship problem. Read on if you wish... :shakehead
well... I guess I'll start from the beginning. I met this girl through my best friend, as they were at one point together. Anywho, they broke up on bad terms, and they now seem to have a like/hate relationship. Anywho, I was talking to her one night, after her & my best friend have been dating on and off for a few months. She admitted to having feelings for me, for... well a few months. On a side note, I was/am really good friends with her for a while. Kinda like a big brother figure.. even went to Prom together. anways I talked to my best friend about it, and he swares he doesnt care that we're dating. Anywho, everything is fine and dandy, I'm happy, shes happy, when it seems everything goes down hill. She starts hanging out with another 'friend' of mine. (We'll call him "Bitchass") Alot. to the point where I have to wait for her to be done hanging out with him, before I get to see her.
The first breakup went something like... well I got off of work, and met up with her roommate and his girlfriend (both of which are really good friends of mine). She said shes with (friend mentioned above) and will be back in a lil bit. Okay. Long story short, I waited three hours for her. Honestly, would anyone else? Well I get the bright idea to go sneak around, so I find his house, sneak down there, and see that shes totally drunk.. and wasted. I walk up there (after letting everyone else there know my presence) and she doesnt even notice I'm there, it seemed like. All of like 4 words were said to me. Later that night she asked why I was upset. I explained to her, in an angry fashon, and made her cry. I felt like a tool, so I up and left, and went for a drive. I get a text saying something like "you walked away. were over" Now I feel like a real dousche, so I drive back to her house, and aplogize. She forgives me, and we're back together. Well after that, a few days later when Im about to get off work, I txt her to see what shes doing. well. do you want to see me? "i guess" wtf kinda answer is that? I dont know... maybe its just me, but an "i guess" isnt very acceptable. Also, when I'm at her house, she'll call Bitchass, and invite him over. W T F ? !
Now for the second. It was my day off of work, so I planned to spend the day with her. Well my father had to go to the doctors, so I took him, and he ended up getting doped up. So I had to do a couple of errands for him. By this time, its starting to get late. I leave the house, and call her... no answer. I call her bestfriend.. "have you talked to 'my g/f' today?" "yeah, shes at home, then were gonna help (friend) move." .. "oh, who yall gonna be with?" "friend, friend, friend, bitchass" ... "oh. okay.." anyways I txt her after not picking up. and she explains that she was doing laundy, and couldnt pick up. Okay, why didnt you call back? she cops an attitude like I was supposed to know what the hell she was doing. Then she calls me about 15minutes later. I'm like "well, I'm going out to hang with my buddies for awhile, and I guess you already have plans, so have fun" click. wtf. she hung up on ME! lol... well I get there, and all my buddies are there, including my bestefriend/her ex. I explain that I'm pissed, and mention that yeah, I think im about to be done with this bull shit.. then I get a txt from her saying something like how I dont give a shit about her. Anyways my buddies call her and explain with much obsenities/name calling that I am done with her. She called me back crying, saying she really wouldnt expect this from me, and honestly, I didnt want it to end like it did, with my friends "help" and she said she wanted to atleast talk to me in person. Okay, fine. Call me when your done hangin out with Bitchass.
Later that night, I talk to her. And she explains to me that the only reason she dont go to live with her mother (in another state) is me. And that I am basically the one that is holding her heart. Maybe I'm just a sucker, and/or maybe I believe her, and I told her I want to work it out, and give our relationship another chance. Like honestly, I've completely fallen for this girl. She explains that she'll need a couple days to "recouperate". Anyways, I checked her phone, I'm no longer on the top of her contatcs list, nor am I mentioned in her myspace anymore. Damn, we were only broekn up for a day. Guess I didnt mean that much. Then tonight I was talking to her again, and explained to her that I was sorry for what I had done, I want her back again, and I love her more then any other girl I've ever met. She said that she still needs a couple days to get over what happened, and she still wants to be together, and she really loves me. alot. (if she loved me as much as she said, wouldnt she take me back right away after apologizing? idk?..) and she wants to give it another try, and if later on things dont work, she still wants to be my friend. my bestfriend.
Yeah, I'm kinda tore up. I love her to death, but If we get back together, and the same old shit starts happening again.... idk. Or should I try and move on before I end up getting hurt again?
well... I guess I'll start from the beginning. I met this girl through my best friend, as they were at one point together. Anywho, they broke up on bad terms, and they now seem to have a like/hate relationship. Anywho, I was talking to her one night, after her & my best friend have been dating on and off for a few months. She admitted to having feelings for me, for... well a few months. On a side note, I was/am really good friends with her for a while. Kinda like a big brother figure.. even went to Prom together. anways I talked to my best friend about it, and he swares he doesnt care that we're dating. Anywho, everything is fine and dandy, I'm happy, shes happy, when it seems everything goes down hill. She starts hanging out with another 'friend' of mine. (We'll call him "Bitchass") Alot. to the point where I have to wait for her to be done hanging out with him, before I get to see her.
The first breakup went something like... well I got off of work, and met up with her roommate and his girlfriend (both of which are really good friends of mine). She said shes with (friend mentioned above) and will be back in a lil bit. Okay. Long story short, I waited three hours for her. Honestly, would anyone else? Well I get the bright idea to go sneak around, so I find his house, sneak down there, and see that shes totally drunk.. and wasted. I walk up there (after letting everyone else there know my presence) and she doesnt even notice I'm there, it seemed like. All of like 4 words were said to me. Later that night she asked why I was upset. I explained to her, in an angry fashon, and made her cry. I felt like a tool, so I up and left, and went for a drive. I get a text saying something like "you walked away. were over" Now I feel like a real dousche, so I drive back to her house, and aplogize. She forgives me, and we're back together. Well after that, a few days later when Im about to get off work, I txt her to see what shes doing. well. do you want to see me? "i guess" wtf kinda answer is that? I dont know... maybe its just me, but an "i guess" isnt very acceptable. Also, when I'm at her house, she'll call Bitchass, and invite him over. W T F ? !
Now for the second. It was my day off of work, so I planned to spend the day with her. Well my father had to go to the doctors, so I took him, and he ended up getting doped up. So I had to do a couple of errands for him. By this time, its starting to get late. I leave the house, and call her... no answer. I call her bestfriend.. "have you talked to 'my g/f' today?" "yeah, shes at home, then were gonna help (friend) move." .. "oh, who yall gonna be with?" "friend, friend, friend, bitchass" ... "oh. okay.." anyways I txt her after not picking up. and she explains that she was doing laundy, and couldnt pick up. Okay, why didnt you call back? she cops an attitude like I was supposed to know what the hell she was doing. Then she calls me about 15minutes later. I'm like "well, I'm going out to hang with my buddies for awhile, and I guess you already have plans, so have fun" click. wtf. she hung up on ME! lol... well I get there, and all my buddies are there, including my bestefriend/her ex. I explain that I'm pissed, and mention that yeah, I think im about to be done with this bull shit.. then I get a txt from her saying something like how I dont give a shit about her. Anyways my buddies call her and explain with much obsenities/name calling that I am done with her. She called me back crying, saying she really wouldnt expect this from me, and honestly, I didnt want it to end like it did, with my friends "help" and she said she wanted to atleast talk to me in person. Okay, fine. Call me when your done hangin out with Bitchass.
Later that night, I talk to her. And she explains to me that the only reason she dont go to live with her mother (in another state) is me. And that I am basically the one that is holding her heart. Maybe I'm just a sucker, and/or maybe I believe her, and I told her I want to work it out, and give our relationship another chance. Like honestly, I've completely fallen for this girl. She explains that she'll need a couple days to "recouperate". Anyways, I checked her phone, I'm no longer on the top of her contatcs list, nor am I mentioned in her myspace anymore. Damn, we were only broekn up for a day. Guess I didnt mean that much. Then tonight I was talking to her again, and explained to her that I was sorry for what I had done, I want her back again, and I love her more then any other girl I've ever met. She said that she still needs a couple days to get over what happened, and she still wants to be together, and she really loves me. alot. (if she loved me as much as she said, wouldnt she take me back right away after apologizing? idk?..) and she wants to give it another try, and if later on things dont work, she still wants to be my friend. my bestfriend.
Yeah, I'm kinda tore up. I love her to death, but If we get back together, and the same old shit starts happening again.... idk. Or should I try and move on before I end up getting hurt again?
J-Ri
10-19-2007, 04:05 PM
Tell her to choose, but if she picks you and changes her mind later, tell her it's over. And don't keep getting back together and breaking up. I have a friend who has broken up with his girlfriend dozens of times, it drives everyone crazy when a couple does that.
Ultimate X
10-23-2007, 03:52 PM
i'd dump her.
beef_bourito
10-23-2007, 08:27 PM
i'd dump her, she doesn't seem interested and you seem too into her. just my opinion
speedphreak
10-23-2007, 11:22 PM
Dude, you are worried about not being on her Myspace page? Please...give it up. Trust me, if you have to go back to a girl for a second round chances are its not gonna work out. Just accept it..maybe bang her a few times and just move on. Thats kinda how it was with my ex. I have moved on....sure I think about her from time to time, but there are other girls out there. Just give it time, you will find somebody!
Damien
10-23-2007, 11:36 PM
Your young, move on with your life man. All I read was 1st time, 2nd time, and now. That's enough. Of course you love her more than any girl you met, you haven't met many.
Oz
10-24-2007, 12:30 AM
You have zero power in the relationship. Power is everything in a relationship.
Ditch her now while you still have some self respect left - it's not going to work.
Ditch her now while you still have some self respect left - it's not going to work.
Greenblurr93
10-25-2007, 10:44 AM
She's playing you because she knows she can... and her needing a couple day to "recoop" means she wants to bang other guys before shes stuck with you until she finds a new fling... this situations sounds exactly like my best friends relationship... she would tell him everything he wanted to hear to stick around and when she found someone that she wanted to hook up with, she would basically sabotage (SP?) the relationship so they would break up, then when she was done she would go back to him and he would fall for it... and no, i dont think you "love" her... youll learn that quick when you start meeting other girls...
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