why?

this is going to be a long one so please be patient because i have alot on my mind:

my girlfriend and i have been going out for about a year and a half right now, so we are very close. i was outraged when she told me this and now i am extremely upset.
yesterday she got accused of something that she did not even do. i know that she wouldn't do something like this because it is not like her to do something like that. the dean of students at her school didn't not even listen to her, but instead was biased towards the individual(s) who accused her of the offense. so she got in school suspension for something that she didn't do. that got her mad. not only did it get her mad, but it humiliated her because the accusing party has completely succeded in ostrasizing her from the people that she talks to in school. (we go 2 different schools) so basically she has felt alone. even worse the dean of students at her school told her job this and she got fired from her job....and she didn't do anything wrong. not just that, but now she feels not just upset, but faithless. she doesn't believe in anything now and she feels like dropping out of school...she has had problems with this school and the people inside it for a long time now. she is starting to give up on everything. even worse a gang caught up with her once they caught wind of this story and they're trying 2 get her in...i pray to God that she doesn't....she only sees things right now as short term, but she's not thinking ahead. i love her dearly and i don't want to lose her to evil and violence. i don't want to have to only see my girlfriend behind a plexiglass wall with a black phone stuck to it. i don't want her to throw away her life and i really don't want to lose her because i love her to death. she wants an escape from where she is right now such as parents, school, her town, her home...(she lives in another town as well) and i want to protect her from this but i don't know how...i really love the damn woman and i don't want to see her dead in a damn gutter...i don't want her to run from the cops or from a rival gang, i don't want her 2 sell drugs, or to get arrested. i don't want her to finally realize that she made a mistake of joining a gang and then when she realizes it, she won't be able 2 do anything about it and she'll be stuck. i don't want her to waste her life. i want her to live i care about her so damn much, but she is too upset and blinded by evil right now that she can't see it and i really can't lose her, because she makes me whole (as corny as that is) i love her and i want better for her....selling drugs won't do that...and i flipped out when i heard about it...now not only do i feel bad, but i am extremely scared, because it caused her to go into a shell. i am really scared and i don't know what 2 do and i just want so much for her.... and i really hope that she doesn't do this because i just love her too much.....God i'm crying.........

Talk to her and tell her how you feel.

But most importantly stand behind her no matter what she does, you could make the difference between her making totally the wrong decision and making the wise decision. I really hope you do manage to talk to her and help her through the situation.


Good luck Hogie

I'm in a situation somewhat the same...I dont know what to tell you other than what tazdev said, for that is the best thing I feel you can do.

I hope it all works out...dont know if your religious but i'll be prayin for ya bro

thanks guys...i just feel like i have to save her from herself if she's gonna do this. i mean yeah i support her, but i don't want her on the wrong side of the law because i really wouldn't want her to completely destroy her life like this....we always talk about our future together and what would happen...it's just such of a shock 2 me and that she has seemed to just give up...that's what i can't stand about it

Yup - support her as best you can. I would also suggest a call to the ACLU and see if they can help. They love mixing it up with college administrators.

Originally posted by YogsVR4
Yup - support her as best you can. I would also suggest a call to the ACLU and see if they can help. They love mixing it up with college administrators.

thats a pretty good idea, if the admin gets it, maby it could help her get back onto her feet?