Girls...........Relationship BS.
SkYLiNeFrEaK
11-18-2002, 05:34 PM
Boo...
Anyways heres my story. My girlfriend is acting all weird on me lately, saying she doesn't know what she wants honestly, well, but she hasn't broken up with me. Its a long distance relationship. I mean, i like her alot, we've been together almost 6 months, and I really don't want to break up with her, she lives in texas, I live in Ohio, I plan on moving to texas to be with her, and also get a job, and so forth. But I have nothing there, no friends, no family, and whereareas here. I have all my friends, all my family, and to be leaving that for her, thats a huge ass decsion. Lately, I've been thinking about losing her and going for the other girl, but im soo attached to the current gf, that anything I dont want to break up with her. But i have VERY strong feelings for this girl up here, although she knows i like her, but i dunno if she likes me. So i am going to see whats up. I need a bit of advice, if anyone can offer any up. Thanks alot people. And as always you guys are the best.
w3rd!
FrEak
Anyways heres my story. My girlfriend is acting all weird on me lately, saying she doesn't know what she wants honestly, well, but she hasn't broken up with me. Its a long distance relationship. I mean, i like her alot, we've been together almost 6 months, and I really don't want to break up with her, she lives in texas, I live in Ohio, I plan on moving to texas to be with her, and also get a job, and so forth. But I have nothing there, no friends, no family, and whereareas here. I have all my friends, all my family, and to be leaving that for her, thats a huge ass decsion. Lately, I've been thinking about losing her and going for the other girl, but im soo attached to the current gf, that anything I dont want to break up with her. But i have VERY strong feelings for this girl up here, although she knows i like her, but i dunno if she likes me. So i am going to see whats up. I need a bit of advice, if anyone can offer any up. Thanks alot people. And as always you guys are the best.
w3rd!
FrEak
DVSNCYNIKL
11-19-2002, 07:28 AM
Not to sound too bluntly dawgz but, you're young, you have opportunities and you have all the time in the world. Long distance relationships never work, trust me, I know. If you have someone who's closer, try and work that out, then dead your current one. If she's acting all wierd and shit, chances are she is either tired of the relationship or just isn't feeling you anymore. While I don't want to sound like a meanie, I'm being honest. I'm basing this on what I already know about you and I know you can get another chick easily so that shouldn't be a problem. Let me know how things turn out.
speediva
11-19-2002, 09:45 AM
Long distance relationships suck hard-core. I've been in 2, and I just keep coming back for more. Looks like this time it'll still be "Shame on me" :o
Honestly, unless you REALLY truly can't live w/o Texas, then go with what you have. No matter how many times I panick and freakout b/c I'm not engaged, someone brings me back to earth to say, "Hey, time isn't hurting anything here."
Let things happen for you. Forcing things only makes stress, and Lord knows that's the last thing anyone needs.
Honestly, unless you REALLY truly can't live w/o Texas, then go with what you have. No matter how many times I panick and freakout b/c I'm not engaged, someone brings me back to earth to say, "Hey, time isn't hurting anything here."
Let things happen for you. Forcing things only makes stress, and Lord knows that's the last thing anyone needs.
boingo82
11-19-2002, 10:14 PM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
...My girlfriend is acting all weird on me lately, saying she doesn't know what she wants honestly, well, but she hasn't broken up with me. ...
That's a bad sign. Frankly I don't think there's anything worse than someone who wants to break up but won't.
If I were you, I'd feel things out with Texas for a bit longer, a week or two I guess. If it feels like it's going downhill I'd abandon the long-distance concept and go for the girl closer to home.
...My girlfriend is acting all weird on me lately, saying she doesn't know what she wants honestly, well, but she hasn't broken up with me. ...
That's a bad sign. Frankly I don't think there's anything worse than someone who wants to break up but won't.
If I were you, I'd feel things out with Texas for a bit longer, a week or two I guess. If it feels like it's going downhill I'd abandon the long-distance concept and go for the girl closer to home.
TerminalVelocity
11-20-2002, 08:08 AM
Originally posted by DVSNCYNIKL
Not to sound too bluntly dawgz but, you're young, you have opportunities and you have all the time in the world. Long distance relationships never work, trust me, I know. If you have someone who's closer, try and work that out, then dead your current one. If she's acting all wierd and shit, chances are she is either tired of the relationship or just isn't feeling you anymore. While I don't want to sound like a meanie, I'm being honest. I'm basing this on what I already know about you and I know you can get another chick easily so that shouldn't be a problem. Let me know how things turn out.
I'm in one thats working extremly well :p
But...those words she said to you are a bad sigh, acting weird is also a bad sign. If theres that much distance *way WAY more than the distance I have* you cant see what goes on, you cant be there all the time, you cant be apart of eachothers lives really. If your going to give up everything for someone who dosent know if they want you....maby you should stop and reflect who you have where you are. Does your faimly want you, your friends, the other girl?
It was said to wait a while, I think thats the best advice.
Not to sound too bluntly dawgz but, you're young, you have opportunities and you have all the time in the world. Long distance relationships never work, trust me, I know. If you have someone who's closer, try and work that out, then dead your current one. If she's acting all wierd and shit, chances are she is either tired of the relationship or just isn't feeling you anymore. While I don't want to sound like a meanie, I'm being honest. I'm basing this on what I already know about you and I know you can get another chick easily so that shouldn't be a problem. Let me know how things turn out.
I'm in one thats working extremly well :p
But...those words she said to you are a bad sigh, acting weird is also a bad sign. If theres that much distance *way WAY more than the distance I have* you cant see what goes on, you cant be there all the time, you cant be apart of eachothers lives really. If your going to give up everything for someone who dosent know if they want you....maby you should stop and reflect who you have where you are. Does your faimly want you, your friends, the other girl?
It was said to wait a while, I think thats the best advice.
SkYLiNeFrEaK
11-20-2002, 08:04 PM
After all this shit, we broke up, and i felt bad, and now we are still together. Ugh, i dont know what i want when it comes to girls....
I told her there is no "us" and she was like, we are together, she can't take it being not together. Ugh......I dunno....what i want is weird. I've post poned texas until jan or feb. Yet everyone else calls me stupid as fuck when it comes to girls. Seriously I've been having these thoughts, and I told my friends i was going to break up with her. 3 of my friends say i should break up with her. But, should I listen to people like that? I mean age difference aside, I'm still debating, I'm going with my heart, and my heart says i still love her. But yet, when i mention her to my friends, they are all like, break up with her. and shit. I DUNNO WHAT THE FUCK. Im going with my heart.
I told her there is no "us" and she was like, we are together, she can't take it being not together. Ugh......I dunno....what i want is weird. I've post poned texas until jan or feb. Yet everyone else calls me stupid as fuck when it comes to girls. Seriously I've been having these thoughts, and I told my friends i was going to break up with her. 3 of my friends say i should break up with her. But, should I listen to people like that? I mean age difference aside, I'm still debating, I'm going with my heart, and my heart says i still love her. But yet, when i mention her to my friends, they are all like, break up with her. and shit. I DUNNO WHAT THE FUCK. Im going with my heart.
SkYLiNeFrEaK
11-20-2002, 08:48 PM
As emotionally attached as I am to this girl, its going to be hard for me to break it off with her completely come monday. Only a friend of mine has stated a few things to me, that are true. Like
Her parents tracked my number
She is going to get in trouble if she is caught with me
She is 15-This is the reason alone i need to break it off IMO.
Plus I'd be going to jail just for being with her.
But yet my heart doesnt want to break up with her.
But come monday, I have to tell her that i believe that im giving up an already sucessful life here in Ohio, for to start all over in texas. hmmm, I think I'd rather keep my sucess going. You know what fuck it, I'm just going to end it, and then end my life. I'm better off dead.
Her parents tracked my number
She is going to get in trouble if she is caught with me
She is 15-This is the reason alone i need to break it off IMO.
Plus I'd be going to jail just for being with her.
But yet my heart doesnt want to break up with her.
But come monday, I have to tell her that i believe that im giving up an already sucessful life here in Ohio, for to start all over in texas. hmmm, I think I'd rather keep my sucess going. You know what fuck it, I'm just going to end it, and then end my life. I'm better off dead.
boingo82
11-20-2002, 09:18 PM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
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But come monday, I have to tell her that i believe that im giving up an already sucessful life here in Ohio, for to start all over in texas. hmmm, I think I'd rather keep my sucess going. You know what fuck it, I'm just going to end it, and then end my life. I'm better off dead.
PLEASE don't even kid about stuff like that. And please, please don't do anything that drastic if you're serious. Even if you're going through rough times right now, things can get better. If you two are meant to be together, then you will be...
As for moving to Texas to be with her...maybe in the future but right now I'd wait it out. You have a lot going for you where you are and it sounds like you'd be in trouble if you were to move down to Texas for this girl. Right now, the age difference between you two is very significant...at least in the eyes of her parents and the law. Whatever you do, don't end everything. You mean a lot to us here on AF and we're willing to help out with whatever you need.
Emily
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But come monday, I have to tell her that i believe that im giving up an already sucessful life here in Ohio, for to start all over in texas. hmmm, I think I'd rather keep my sucess going. You know what fuck it, I'm just going to end it, and then end my life. I'm better off dead.
PLEASE don't even kid about stuff like that. And please, please don't do anything that drastic if you're serious. Even if you're going through rough times right now, things can get better. If you two are meant to be together, then you will be...
As for moving to Texas to be with her...maybe in the future but right now I'd wait it out. You have a lot going for you where you are and it sounds like you'd be in trouble if you were to move down to Texas for this girl. Right now, the age difference between you two is very significant...at least in the eyes of her parents and the law. Whatever you do, don't end everything. You mean a lot to us here on AF and we're willing to help out with whatever you need.
Emily
speediva
11-21-2002, 12:24 AM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
But come monday, I have to tell her that i believe that im giving up an already sucessful life here in Ohio, for to start all over in texas. hmmm, I think I'd rather keep my sucess going. You know what fuck it, I'm just going to end it, and then end my life. I'm better off dead.
Like Emily said... DON'T even joke. You mean a lot to everyone here. AF is a family, and everyone cares.
Trust me, I've been down that road a dozen times, and there is nothing worthwhile at the end. Take care of yourself first and foremost. If you are double-guessing yourself, then maybe your intuition is telling you something. In the case that the two of you are meant to be together, it will happen in time. Why rush when you have all of eternity before you?
But come monday, I have to tell her that i believe that im giving up an already sucessful life here in Ohio, for to start all over in texas. hmmm, I think I'd rather keep my sucess going. You know what fuck it, I'm just going to end it, and then end my life. I'm better off dead.
Like Emily said... DON'T even joke. You mean a lot to everyone here. AF is a family, and everyone cares.
Trust me, I've been down that road a dozen times, and there is nothing worthwhile at the end. Take care of yourself first and foremost. If you are double-guessing yourself, then maybe your intuition is telling you something. In the case that the two of you are meant to be together, it will happen in time. Why rush when you have all of eternity before you?
SkYLiNeFrEaK
11-21-2002, 04:56 PM
Maybe her and I are meant for each other, even with the age difference. I mean, no matter how hard I think, or try, I don't want to break up with her. But I also don't want to lose everything I have here. I mean, I want to start my life over again. But, I have eternity ahead of me, if her and I are really destined for each other, then maybe thats whats keeping us from breaking up. Is that it?
Because this is like the 3rd time we've talked about this, and yet we can't seem to end it. Maybe she is my "soulmate" even though she is young.
Edit, by the time she is 18 I will be. 23-24, damn, I'd be old. And I DUNNO if our relationship would last that long.
Because this is like the 3rd time we've talked about this, and yet we can't seem to end it. Maybe she is my "soulmate" even though she is young.
Edit, by the time she is 18 I will be. 23-24, damn, I'd be old. And I DUNNO if our relationship would last that long.
kicker1_solo
11-21-2002, 05:10 PM
damn Jerry, that sucks. I think there's too much drama with the chick from texas, find out what's up with the chick near you and then if she shows the signs, move on in. As long as she's over 15 that is. ;)
SkYLiNeFrEaK
11-21-2002, 06:42 PM
The drama is solved.
For good now..I finally figured out what i want.
So, as of now, plans to leave are set for jan 3rd or 4th. With an apartment ready for me when i get there, and a job possibly.
For good now..I finally figured out what i want.
So, as of now, plans to leave are set for jan 3rd or 4th. With an apartment ready for me when i get there, and a job possibly.
boingo82
11-21-2002, 07:11 PM
Congrats. Glad you figured out what you want and what will work best for you. :)
SkYLiNeFrEaK
11-21-2002, 07:27 PM
Heh, its tough, even when we talk on the internet things are weird. But we are still together. But im sure on my choice.
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