Oh Gawd, here we go again!

Okay, so about a month ago I broke up with my girlfriend. This was a month before we both go to Italy with my school. I did not think I was gonna miss her. Now, I miss her like crazy and I cannot wait to see her again. She is at home away from me and the other night we had a "fling" as she called it on the phone. Basically we had phone sex. It was a little weird, because we are not dating..but we both wanna be together with each other....crazy I know. The kick in the nuts for me is that she is studying abroad next semester and I wont see her for like 4 months. We have talked about the Italy trip and that we don't want it to be weird....so we started talking, and I can't get her out of my mind. She has labeled our situation as us being "fkuc buddies". She has told me like at night and when she has time to think about shit she gets depressed about the break up because she thinks of all the fun and good times we had together. Mind you this was the second time we had gotten back together. Fate? I don't know...I guess only time will tell. I do kinda hope she puts out in Italy......she told me she will be going back on birth control so we can have sex when we are there. Does this make me a shitty person, or am I just being a guy? I'm so confused.

Umm...what's the question?

Umm...what's the question?

Does this make me a shitty person, or am I just being a guy?

well, not all guys want just sex. so no, you're not "just being a guy".

does it make you a shitty person? no.

why did you break up? and if you both want to get back together, and there aren't problems there, then maybe you should go for it.

Theres a slight twist I didnt put in there before because I was to upset. There is another girl I have been talking to. But STRICTLY as friends, we just happen to like each other. She is also away for the summer and has an ex and she has no idea what to do. We are both in the same predicament but switched. SO now, would it make me a bad person if I still slept with my ex in Italy? I mean...I am not tied down to anyone...but it would make it harder for my ex and i to move on..or so I have been told. Discuss.

sex will make it more and more complicated.

because one of you will think that it's a step to getting back together. what do you want? do you want to be with her or just sleeping with her?

I kinda want both dude. But she is going away for almost 4 months while studying abroad. Ugh, this f'ing sucks! And I have no idea what is going to happen with the other girl. I say fukc it...if we both want each other, go for it...Plus, i know she is going to do shit to tease me and everything, she has already started that...and telling me "patients is a virtue." We are both eye to eye when it comes to that shit. Hell, just holding her turns me on.....and she clearly stated to me,"I should go back on birth control because we will be having sex." Geeezus H! Is that enough of a clue that we both want each other? If not, I dont know what is. Yes, I know it sounds like it all sex....but I have a feeling if she wasnt going away after, things may be different.

Sounds like she is just sexually frustrated and wants sex...or is lonely.

I have come to the conclusion after talking to multiple friends. She talked a lot of shit about me behind my back for one. She told people she was just in it for the sex, which pisses me the fcuk off! She never once mentioned me to her parents. This girl has so many issues to work out for herself its unbeleivable. I was asked if I was suicidal by a friend, and I sad no..He said you are if you sleep with her, that I would be in a world of hell. She is such a bad person, I do not even know where to begin. Her attractiveness has gone to shit....so my attractiveness to her is no more....I once thought she was a nice attractive girl. Now, she is nothing but a shitty chapter in my life. I just feel bad for the next guy she decides to fcuk over.

Can you seriously not spell the word fuck?

Thats a shitty chapter man. People I work with went to school with a girl I dated for a long time. Apparently that girl has turned into a whore, liar, bitch, fuckup, everything. She's backstabbed so many people. So when I mentioned her name, everybody turned around. She talked so much shit behind my back its not even funny. It sucks that a lot of us go through it. Glad you realized what could have been a mistake. :)

Ha, I can spell the word fuck. Geezus, we both keep going back and fourth and so on. First one of us thinks we are using one another and vice versa. We both just talked tonight and came to the conclusion that we both just wanna fuck each others brains out. Its purely physical(sp) and that it all just came down to us both liking good food and sex. What could be better though? haha. yyyyeah....there is that whole sense of confusion and more attachment if we do end up "hooking up" or whatever you kids call it these days.lol. She did ask me,"what happened to no strings attached?"

We also both agreed that we are just slaves to each other. We are both just drawn in by things we see good in each other..and ignore the bad, i guess. She says she is drawn to me because I am such a sweet guy, caring and stuff...and she just turns me the fuck on, her face, body, voice.....just sends me shivers. Mind you this is my first serious sexual relationship...and by that we have done more than just intercourse, if you catch my drift. We are both just freaks caught up in each other. Thats how I see it.

When I said she talked shit behind my back...she told me she did that because she was pissed at me after I broke up with her the first time. This is understandable. She explained a lot more, but I wont bore you AF guys/gals with that. She explained the parents issue, abortion issue...the works. But we are gonna sit down, face to face and talk about this on our trip and just set the table fucking straight. I'm sick of the games I just want the truth, whether it hurts or not.

:attention Drama queen.

my thoughts:
fuck her, no strings attached. if you can't emotionally detach yourself enough to fuck her without wanting a relationship or confusing things then don't. you should know yourself enough to know if you'll be able to do it or not.

if i was in this situation:
i'd fuck her, she's in it for the sex, i like sex, let's both have sex. i'd do her in italy, i'd do her during the summer, then once she went off to school or whatever i'd forget about her. if she came back and wanted some, i'd give her some, if not i'd forget about her. fuck it man, she's a girl, there are so many girls out there that one doesn't matter. you're obviously not meant for eachother because you broke up twice. third time's a charm? i think not. just do her and forget her or don't do her, but forget her anyways.

I havent been on here for a while! So we went to Italy...we fucked, we parted ways....and I am great! I knew it was just going to be a fling. And what a fucking fling it was! 20 days all over Italy. We even did it on a balcony of the hotel in Florence! AHAHA! Wowwee we wahhh! Yeah, it was a great trip! I do miss her..but I don't feel attached, and it feels great! I am on the prowl once more to find a stable relationship! Wish me luck!lol

-Chris

stay away from the drama queen man.
the way she's acting, she may be doing this to another dude and you might catch something.
she is not worth that ick.

i know im late but this is wat i would've said:
dude jus fuck her ,stay emtionless for the most part and dont get pussy whipped, im saying this beacuse it would put you in a win win sitch...
1)if she fucks you over and treats your like crap you can fall back on the emotional detatchment and be nonchalant about the whole ordeal beacause you will be under the impression that it was jus sex and
2) if things become hot and heavy(passionate)then you will have that leeway to move up the emotional ladder at your own disgretion ...
dude, wat guy gets mad wen a chick jus wants sex ,that kinda sounds like a chick move ,or maybe your intouch with your "feminine"side,anywho nothing is easy so dont think that relationships are exempt from the rule... we cant make your choice for you so grow some balls and take a risk .... cuz you will always miss 100% of the shots you don't take .... that was so cheesy, lol
but congrats you fucked the chick in italy, numerous times and in crazy places according to you, it was great, now its time to move on ... and next dont get attached , cuz its kind of our nature to be somewhat heartless and if you cant handle the obligation cut your piece off and give it to someone who can.... btw good luck dude

I wasn't mad because she wanted to have sex with me. Thats rediculous. I am not attached to her. Recently I have a new interest that would be a DRASTIC change for me..(long story) maybe a new thread. So, we still talk (ex), and we discuss about each others relationship issues and issues in general. Maybe its our way to cope with the break up. I would say so.

Wow. This is an old thread.lol. Well, I'm back! haha. SO....The ex arrives back from Ireland after 6 long months. Low and behold, we hook up as soon as she gets back like 4 times. We both agreed it was completely fucked up and not right. We both agreed we should move on. But for some reason I still think somewhere she has some feelings. I had recently started seeing this new girl and I told my ex about it because A. she asked! She seemed quite upset. I have no idea. But I haven't really spoken to the ex in like 2 months. It seems no matter what I do, I cannot get over this chick! I am trying so hard...

One thing to keep in mind is, no matter who you are with, if you keep thinking about/wanting your ex, you won't be happy with anyone else and the lingering relationship/feelings for your ex will potentially poison your relationships.

It's probably in your best interest to just maintain a safe distance. No fucking. No "just hangin' out." No "oh hey! lets get coffee!" If she's this big of a problem to you, perhaps drastic steps such as just not talking to her anymore are in order.

Thats the thing. I havent been talking to her at all. I don't think about wanting her. Its just the little things that have carried over from her to me. IE, some of her manurisms (sp), sayings and such. I was with my ex for almost a year, granted its not that long, but long enough.

The girl I am seeing now. Shes more voluptious than my ex. I don't usually date girls like this. But I think she is beautiful. We mesh so well personality wise, sexually and blah blah..its perfect. But when we finally decided to "do it"..after it was just weird and awkward. And this just happened last night! It was probably one of the most awkward/sarcastic/cold interactions I have ever encountered with a human being.

I have really been trying to make more options for myself. IE, date different types of girls. Most of the girls I dated before her were tiny girls. My ex who I am speaking of is 4"11 and 100lbs soaking wet! I don't know if it is the current girls size or lack of experience or what...but I was turned off. I do want to make it work because she is a great girl and we get along so well. And I do believe some people just suck at sex the first few times before you get comfortable with each other.