Damn I'm Dumb!

Okay, I'm walking through Walmart waiting on a phonecall from my dad telling me that he's outside so we can go get my car from the tire shop, I walk by this bombshell brunette, I was like man, she's sexy-walked around, bumped into her again (I think she might've followed me for a few mins, not sure), this time she said hey--this kind of surprised me, I replied with a simple hey and continued texting my brother on my phone, and walked away like a dumbass, didn't even get her fucking digits to call her or anything, and now I feel like a utter and complete dumbass, because she was gorgeous and all, what the flying hell was I thinking, she didn't look like one of those high-class prissy bitches either, :banghead:, :dupe:, :thefinger me, :chair:, :1: on my dumbass card, :nutkick: , :swear:

yupp pretty stupid

So if you had it to do all over again, what would you say to her? It's always that necessary bit of conversation in between the "Hey..." and the "So can I call you sometime?" that is so tough to pull off without sounding like like a horny, inarticulate moron...

LMAO, didn't get to that part of it, I just keep thinking of how big of a douchebag I am for not at least conversing with her for 5 minutes or so. I dunno, I would've probably got her name, number, etc. I don't think about the conversation between until I'm actually there--I don't talk to chicks much around here, highschool chicks change their mind every 2 seconds :).

Here's a thought... why not figure out what you would say to her if it happened again. Chances are something like this will happen again so you may as well have something to say - better than staring at your shoes looking for inspiration for something witty or charming?

you really cant plan out what you're gonna say, it will never work. just go with the flow see if you have anything in common and go from that.

True you can't plan out what all you'd say in a conversation but you can plan this:

"Hey I'm sorry to interrupt you and all but you caught my eye and I wanted to introduce myself. I'm (your name here) and here's my phone number if you wanna talk when you're not busy. I'll let you get back to (whatever the hell it looks like she's doing). Hope to hear from you sometime..."

And if you can maintain brain composition during all that, ask for her name. Not too hard right? The hard part is gathering the onions to do it.

i dont see that really working, it's to long and she will see right through you. one trick i learned is find out their game and throw them a curve ball and shake them up a little. and once you get a name it becomes so much easier.

i agree with the title :slap: oh well more will come your way dude dont worry about it

you should've hit it there and then.

oh well, you didn't.

I think gathering up the balls to say something in a situation like that is a lot easier if you've actually got something to say. It doesn't do any good to walk up to a girl, introduce yourself and ask her name, then have no idea where you're going from there. There is no substitute for a witty observation or astute comment about something you see that you have in common or whatever else might be going on to let her know you've got more going on upstairs than downstairs. That's what actually starts conversations, they don't just materialize out of thin air. Make her smile or think you're smart and you will succeed. Make her think you go around handing out your phone number to every attractive woman you see, you will fail.

But I don't think that just because you didn't have anything off the top of your head makes you dumb. This stuff ain't easy, can't really be rehearsed, and I certainly suck at it myself. The only time I would feel stupid is if I had something that would have worked but failed to use it. Or if I thought of something really good 10 minutes later. That's the worst...

Looks as though I'm compelled to write 'The List'...


'Not knowing what to say' puts you on the back foot. Most people find it hard to think of something on the spot, get frozen and look like a possum in the headlights... consequently you appear slow, unconfident or worse if you have a cheesy grin and stare like a pervert (whether you are is irrelevant we are after all... human)

'She's heard all the lines... it will be lame... I don't have anything to say...' Lines are lame because they lack originality and chances are they ain't going to work... unless they are completely off the wall. I'm judging you here as not being a playa, just a regular guy who thinks a girl is hot (which actually means you are initially attracted to her... which is fine - nature intended for you to have eyes!)

The next bozo who tells me that the three things he looks for in a women are 'personality, personality, personality..' is one of the following - a liar, kidding himself, or has low standards. Being initially attracted by appearance is natural - but personality will determine longer term attraction (see below princess syndrome) :shakehead

What you say isn't quite as important as how you say it... if you go over and sleaze up to her, leer over her shoulder, grab her on the hips and say 'Hi, noticed you... you stalking me?... my name's Brad..." you are probably end up with a knee in the privates and an assault charge :naughty: . Equally, sound like a wimp, sweat buckets, stare at your shoes and lack confidence you are going to get crushed (or pussywhipped for the rest of the relationship if you get that far). :frown:

Be confident, composed, look her in the eye, look confident then you might get to flirt a bit... hopefully you can work it from there...Don't freak her out... take it easy tiger. Maybe agree to meet sometime, thank her for the conversation, compliment her on the conversation and maybe suggest to exchange numbers (here's a little segue, pull out your phone and ask to send a text to her to save her having to enter all the digits in your number... then you have instant confirmation when she receives the text that it's actually her number and tell her to save the sender on the spot so she records your number...) so you can meet again or contact each other.

Finally, not every women is going to want to get in your pants... having chicks/girls/women as friends can also be handy... actually the best wingman you can have can be a friendly girl to set up an introduction or a date on your behalf esp if they think well of you...

(Princess Syndrome - chicks/girls/women who by upbringing, ego or some other reason believe they are god's gift and expect everyone to constantly give them favours, preferential treatment and generally act like spoiled brats without consideration of other folk aka high maintenance... fun for a while but a pain in the longer term...)

^good stuff.

I think when you walk into a place and see an attractive girl, smile, say hi if possible, and record atleast one distinctive thing about her not directly pertaining to her looks (like eyes, face, ass, tits...lol). If you see her again, compliment her on like clothes, or shoes (No don't say nice shoes, wanna fuck?) or maybe even some product she's carrying with her like maybe she's got 5 CD's in her hand, obvious music person. You know, spark conversation with something of equal interest. Or say you're in the automotive section, and she walks that way and looks confused as all hell. Offer help. I think the small stuff counts the most when talking to a person you've never met before.