Rejection

Have you guys ever been rejected by a girl so bad that you wanted to kill her.

I ask because I have had my fair share of them. The dance is in two weeks and I just can't seem to find anyone. It seems like I am igored and nobody gives a **** about me.

hey dude be nice too any girl you meet and try looking for one somewhere you have never tried talk to at least 3 different girls (ones you don't know) everyday and you might have better sucess

My last girl was cool for 8 months. We didn't have sex or anything. I gave her the world and she just gave up. I think my main problem is not that I don't just know 3 girls, it's that I'm shy and girls don't know how outgoing I really am.

But thanks for just reading and replying.

hey buddy, I know how it is. Best thing I can say is look for the person you want to go w/ and find a way to get to know her. If the one you want to go w/ doesn't want to go with you, plain and simple move on. Look for someone who doesn't have a date yet.

I dont know how old you are, but you'll realize at some point that if you concentrate on the rest of your life the woman problem will just work itself out. Don't worry about rejection, you'll give some girl the same feeling someday. You're not going through something that everyone else hasn't (or will) already.

Originally posted by YogsVR4
if you concentrate on the rest of your life the woman problem will just work itself out.

I don't agree with you there Yogs. Enough rejection can screw a person up.

On the subject of 'pulling' my friend Kate said to me recently - "If you really want to pull you can. In fact anyone can."

I replied: "Well that would be a lot easier for someone as attractive as you."

She grinned.

And then she replied "Anyone, and I mean anyone can pull - it's just that you have standards. If you decided that you had room to move on your standards you could pull every night - whether you want to shift on your standards is something guys seem to be a bit more choosy about."

"So if I lowered my standards then I'd pull anytime I wanted." I replied

"Yes but I'm just not sure you're the type who would," Kate suggested. "I mean I've don't think I've seen you even talk to someone unless they were attractive. Think of all the fat chicks that have sat in this bar and you haven't even talked to them - but you do talk to the cute ones. Would they feel rejected by your indifference. Would that be fair, mate?"

"Okay so what you're saying it's not them rejecting me - it's me rejecting all these women by not even considering trying to pull them or even acknowledging them." I paused. "So at the end of the day I'm doing more rejecting than anyone else but not even trying to say hello to those chicks that I don't even consider."

"You got it mate. You are a bastard! A complete and utter bastard!" she giggled. "By the way, can you give me a lift ?"

And there gentlemen is the twisted logic of a lady...

I see the point in that Replicant, but........

whats the point of pulling someone that you don't find attractive?
Isn't that the idea to pull someone you like or are attracted too?

I am a junior in high school. 17 years old. Life's been rough. Everybody says I'm to young to have a serious relationship. I don't want a serious relationship, just a person of the opposite sex to talk to. That is all. Someone to talk to. Not to bang every other night. Why do people think relationships revolve around sex. In my opinon, a relationship works when good communication is easy.

About Life's been rough. Well I'm in school and have a 3.750 grade point average with just a little bit of athletic ability, but I play no sports. But I am a member of the chess club and that means I am considered a nerd. I have very few friends. I work almost everyday a half an hour after school. Then I go home and go right to bed. I hardy never have any free time. And when I do, something bad always seems to happen. Like I wreaked my couger. The other car had less then $200 in damage, but my bumper is fiberglass, so you can figure that one out for your self. Lets just say there is a big hole on the nose of my car. Two weeks ago my muffler fell off and my dad yelled at me about the noise. I'm running on 5, maybe 4 cylenders. Speaking of cars though, I just bought a 93 escort with 77,000 miles for just $500. It needed front breaks, and a new window regulator and crank. But the bad news is that it is still sitting at Matthews Ford in Newark, where my dad works because he's been to busy to bring it home for me.

I guess I'm just over reacting. Maybe life isn't so bad. :rolleyes:

Originally posted by darkness


I don't agree with you there Yogs. Enough rejection can screw a person up.

Then your putting way to much stock in the opinion of others.

Originally posted by swamack
I am a junior in high school. 17 years old. Life's been rough. Everybody says I'm to young to have a serious relationship. I don't want a serious relationship, just a person of the opposite sex to talk to. That is all. Someone to talk to. Not to bang every other night. Why do people think relationships revolve around sex. In my opinon, a relationship works when good communication is easy.

About Life's been rough. Well I'm in school and have a 3.750 grade point average with just a little bit of athletic ability, but I play no sports. But I am a member of the chess club and that means I am considered a nerd. I have very few friends. I work almost everyday a half an hour after school. Then I go home and go right to bed. I hardy never have any free time. And when I do, something bad always seems to happen. Like I wreaked my couger. The other car had less then $200 in damage, but my bumper is fiberglass, so you can figure that one out for your self. Lets just say there is a big hole on the nose of my car. Two weeks ago my muffler fell off and my dad yelled at me about the noise. I'm running on 5, maybe 4 cylenders. Speaking of cars though, I just bought a 93 escort with 77,000 miles for just $500. It needed front breaks, and a new window regulator and crank. But the bad news is that it is still sitting at Matthews Ford in Newark, where my dad works because he's been to busy to bring it home for me.

I guess I'm just over reacting. Maybe life isn't so bad. :rolleyes:

Your life doesnt sound so bad. Your going through what every teenager for the last few decades has been going through. While I cant offer a professional opinion, I can offer sage advice. Much like the other hundred billion people that were teenagers at one point - you'll be fine.

Yeah, rejection sucks. Women suck, until you understand how to deal with them. I know exactly how you feel, as I've been through the same thing too many times. But don't let it get you down, just keep trying. Check up on my last post in the stress relief forum. You just can't let it get to you. This is a lesson I am just now learning myself, but its what you have to do. The men that are most successful with women can tell you that it is because they can take a "no" from a woman and not take it personally. Here, check this website out...
http://www.doubleyourdating.com
Subscribe to his newsletter, it will help. Then go practice. BTW, you have a PM...;)

Originally posted by YellowMaranello
Yeah, rejection sucks. Women suck, until you understand how to deal with them.

Goddamn, I'm 24 years old, when the hell am I going to understand them?

Originally posted by darkness


Goddamn, I'm 24 years old, when the hell am I going to understand them?

I never said I understand them, I just have a better understanding on how to deal with them.:) (pssst, check your PM's)

Goddamn, I'm 24 years old, when the hell am I going to understand them

You expect to understand them? I'd have expected by now you'd have realised that no guy ever will.

Show me a guy who tells you he understands women and I'll show a guy who is probably:

- Far too in touch with his feminine side and possibly not heterosexual
- Deluded
- On drugs
- Liar
- All of the above

The only wisdom I can impart is that as soon as you think you understand them you are in big trouble buddy - it means you have no idea...

Well, yeah i didn't mean it that way.

Rejection sucks.

I was rejected bigtime when in college (what you Americans call high school). I made the mistake of letting this one rejection really affect me and as a result I have had no confidence to even talk to any females in a bar ever since (and this happened 7 years ago:( )

I am now beging to understand that "hey shit happens - get over it" Hopefully things will change soon.:rolleyes:

Originally posted by tazdev
I was rejected bigtime when in college (what you Americans call high school). I made the mistake of letting this one rejection really affect me and as a result I have had no confidence to even talk to any females in a bar ever since (and this happened 7 years ago:( )

I am now beging to understand that "hey shit happens - get over it" Hopefully things will change soon.:rolleyes:

Pretty much what happened to me, just a few times.

I'm still not over it. I've probably got some major issues.

Let's see I've been out the last few days...

Darkness - 'pulling' someone who isn't necessarily attractive at first glance. Okay, I didn't necessarily mean 'pull' but like everything there are first steps. Confidence is a fairly fragile thing - having a conversation with someone is a good start when you feel the consequences of a previous rejection are overwhelming.

There would be nothing worse than meeting someone that you like and not being able to find the words to express yourself because you haven't tried to for a while. Meeting new people will give you a perspective, let you build some confidence and you may even make friends (which increases your chance of actually meeting someone special).

As for rejection overall, if at first you don't succeed then give it another go. I'm going to admit that I've had my fair share of romantic cul-de-sacs along the road of life and I also have to admit I've done a bit of cold shouldering at times (which I'm not proud of). The thing is if you don't buy a ticket to the lottery then you ain't going to win. I figure every time I walk out the door of the house I'm going to meet someone I haven't before.

Each of these people I meet will create an impression, I'll create an impression on them - even if I don't speak to them. I guess what I'm saying is that we have bad experiences - if we dwell on them it serves us no good, the experience is something we need to live with and learn from.

OzRiceBoy would agree with me that either one of us could have let the first big fall on a ski-hill put us off skiing. And for some people that is the case, but after denting my confidence I got back on those planks and tried the same thing again... which is why I'm still skiing... and still looking for the 'right' girl too...

Thanks for the advise. I feel a little better. I think.

hahah...yeah...rejection can suck. I remember asking a girl to a middle school dance about six or seven years ago. I ended up getting smacked by her (so is that a no?) and laughed at by her freinds. Four years later, in high school, I got the honor of pretending to not know who she was when she wanted to go to prom with my group...revenge is sweet.

Speaking from a girls perspective, yes our minds are very twisted but a girl wants what she can't have. A girl wants a challenge, she wants someone who makes her play her "A" game. Just play hard to get and try not to act to interested at first and she'll be more interested. But be careful with that because if you play hard to get too long she'll think you're not playing so after you got her hooked start showing interest, little by litte. Hope this helps, sorry we're so twisted.

"Born to Please, But Taught to TEASE!":angel:

babe, trust me, your life isnt bad at all. I didnt go to an actual HS, i traveled to play soccer so i was tutored while i traveled. I missed out on all of those things. At 15 i was diagnosed with a chronic disease that i wont ever recover from. My mom kicked me out of her house 4 times in 3 years. One of my brothers died because of my stupid ass and now my other brother is training to be a navy seal, and I'm pregnant with matt's (the guy who raped me) baby.you're life is great compaired to mine..

Originally posted by swamack
...I am considered a nerd...

NO you're not, being in the chess club does'nt qualify as being a nerd, you should be happy you could even play chess, I wish I could play. It's not that you're a nerd, it's just that whoever considers you a nerd is a moron who has nothing elso to put you down with exept," you're a nerd"
I'm not a "nerd" but I know what you're talkin about.

My 9th grade teacher: they'll call you nerd now, but they'll call you boss later"

And no, he didnt say that to me, he said to someone else.

Cheer up buddy, you've got it easier than me:D ...